Why aren't many men chivalrous anymore? (Page 2)

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Why aren't many men chivalrous anymore?

Anpu23 · Answer

When I was young, my mother thought me to be polite, chivalry is part of that. Then one day I held open a door and I was yelled at for being sexist, then I offered my seat, again sexist... is it better to be rude by not doing something or rude to have done something?

As I've said before, it's impossible to read someone, and how they are going to react to a simple gesture. So unless I know you, then I'll ignore the opportunity.

NalaxLazy · Answer

because how our generation is today.. treating girls like bitches and sluts is what's popular to a lot guys.. no respect.. but if u find a guy who can at least put u first and his sexual desires second GOOD JOB

Righttobeararms83 · Answer

Why aren't women lady like anymore? Because society has changed since the 20's.

ElissaDido · Answer

I thought the same until I went back home this summer and went out with some of my guys HS friends. They restored my faith in men again.

Abe90 · Answer

It's the generation now. I'm not chivalrous simply because my personality isn't so nice anymore. I've been single for a few years now to the point where I do everything myself. I also like women who can take of themselves and not have to depend so much on me.

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

I meet tons of chivalrous men in university. I guess It depends how you act around them. They always hold the door for me, as long as the university door is so big that I need a huge effort to open it xD

Anonymous · Answer

The simple reality is that people act according to incentives. If men are no longer chivalrous it is because you are not giving them an incentive to be that. If you want more men to be chivalrous you reward that behavior. Life is simple sometimes.

Blonde401 · Answer

I love chivalry and men being gentlemen - if we're dating. I want my bros to be my bros but I want the guy I date to be chivalrous. Probably why I date older men?

Dtegesd123 · Answer

what do you consider chivalrous acts? Things like opening the door, helping her with her chair, etc. I still do.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Because it is generally not strategically viable anymore.

GabbyGal · Answer

because too many women are easy... so why put in the work when you can get it easy somewhere else

ManOnFire · Answer

Well, this is a little bit true. I would say men both are and aren't. Some guys still see the value in it, and others realized that many women don't really deserve it and just either use it to their benefit or shit on it.

Anonymous · Answer

Feminism

Girls are considered equal, therefore they can hold the door open for themselves, pull out their chairs, get jobs and pay for at least themselves on a date

Also, chivalry is done out of respect for the woman. This respect is never reciprocated, so guys tend not to show respect for people who don't show them respect back. Plus, being polite is something you should do to everyone, not just to girls.

metalinjected · Answer

The lack thereof is as equal to women who don't appreciate it in my opinion. I once opened a door for 2 girls and only 1 said thank you, the other one? acted as if I was her damn butler and that was routine.

meatballs21 · Answer

Because women fought for over 100 years demanding to be treated as equals.

Schrodingerscat · Answer

I don't know, at least men here tend to be quite chivalrous.

Jager66 · Answer

Men have accommodated and made room for women and their issues in the name of equality and respect, now it's time for women to do the same for men.

pervertedjester · Answer

Historically it was an idea that was tried for about 5 minutes and then the English troops landed in France.

OfDeath · Answer

Because feminism has made it a form of infantilization and men don't actually see or think of it that way but because of how feminists see it, we don't do it as precaution not to offend.

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry but have you ever been yelled at or given a "wtf is wrong with you?"" Look when you open the door for someone?

HonestWhiteGuy · Answer

Because western girls wanted feminism, now they got it. You can't have your cake and eat it too

Tanairy328 · Answer

Because feminism killed it

Tony1974 · Answer

Chivalrous behaviour = nice guy = creepy ulterior motives.

Levin · Answer

I don't know. But you can probably open your own car door...

sp33d · Answer

Why do most "women" not deserve it in the first place?

neoagent1 · Answer

Women's lib/feminism is killing that for a lot of people However, I was taught to be chivarous by my mom :) it doesn't seem to be geting me very far with a lot of dates.

ProbablyTooMature · Answer

For the same reason all these women insist on doing everything for themselves. Though I still open doors, pull out chairs, blah blah blah. If a woman doesn't like it she's not right for me.

bro25 · Answer

we are it's just women are too dumb and oblivious to see it or even show appreciation

WhaChaChaKing · Answer

Because people should just be nice and not treat someone better due to sex.

Decentguy · Answer

a lot of men are chivalrous, but not every woman/girl deserves respect, and this goes same for the men/guys too. some people are assholes.

Thecost · Answer

On my opinion on this modern society we don't have many honorable women that why men become like that

Anonymous · Answer

Women of old used to act like ladies. Getting chivalrous men was something women used to earn. Now a lot of women think they deserve it without having to do jack shit. Well they had another thing coming...

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Chivalry is overrated. Give me a man who respects and treats EVERYONE, not just women, kindly and he is much better than a chivalrous man.

godfatherfan · Answer

I think many of us are. But Feminazi's have killed any appreciation for it. So many guys figure "why bother".

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

Because some people call it sexism now.

JCT666 · Answer

Because liberal women and regressive-left hipsters look down on that stuff now.

Prof_Don · Answer

Because most women don't appreciate it anymore. So the incentive to be chivalrous is gone.

red324 · Answer

I am. The right girl appreciates it. I'll tell you this though, many women have gone a long time without a chivalrous guy. Easy way to tell is if she gets behind you so you can open a door. Most just open it themselves. lol!

Blitzkrieger · Answer

Because girls dont return the favor.  What are you trying to say? Are good manners a two way street? Fuck yes it is.

Tomsta · Answer

They are it's just the feminist extremists that makes guys scared / apprehensive about doing anything chivalrous

Squeakin00 · Answer

Maybe you're not around the right kind of guys. Plenty of the men I've known in my life gentlemen. Is rare for me to see someone who isn't a gentleman

HikerDude · Answer

Because men who act chivalrous are mocked and treated as creepy 'nice guys' who have ulterior motives. It's an anachronism to most women.

SmokemJay · Answer

CHIVALRY DOESN'T GET YOU THE GIRL NOR DOES IT GET YOU LAID!!! WTF is it so hard for you women to understand?

WODSE · Answer

According to Chris Rock chilvary is dead, and women killed it.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

... where have you been?

Anonymous · Answer

You can't have feminism and chivalry at the same time. Women wanted to be treated the same as men. For the most part, they got it. Now, they ask "where did all the gentlemen go?"...

SoldierMane · Answer

I am. Why don't girls want love anymore? Why do they just want sex?

RexCatholicissimus · Answer

96 answers in 13 hours? Never disappoint me, GaG.

springocelot · Answer

I don't know, every guy i dated has been chivalrous guess it depends where you look

Djaaaaay · Answer

Chilvary... isn't free anymore for those feeling untitled to it from guys. I always do it here where I live but anywhere else , forget it !! And only for my girl.

Beautiful68111 · Answer

most of the men I've seen, have been chivalrous to me. I don't know how they are with other women

saud1998 · Answer

There are some. But girl dont go for them. Plus, most guys are fuckboys now lol.

Saoirse_Nua · Answer

I think there are quite guys who are still chivalrous

TheInvisibleMan · Answer

Because that is for the ladies, and not for worthless whores. And there are no more ladies.

rjroy3 · Answer

I'm legitimately curious what most girls mean by chivalrous. Like opening the door?

amphet11 · Answer

There is more truth to the saying "nice guys finish last" than most would care to admit.

FakeName123 · Answer

Chivalrous men went where ladies did. Almost extinct.

RegularTK421 · Answer

Most people consider it outdated. I mean I hold the door open if I'm front of anyone just as a common courtesy, but that's about it.

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