Do guys overthink everything like girls do?

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Every gesture, every word etc. especially when it's about someone they like

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

This is what male overthink looks like:

"Is she sending mixed signals?"

"How do I know she's legit? "

"You said I could meet you somewhere... you mean it, or you setting me up?"

"The last time someone...[insert traumatic memory here]."

"If she wants this to go too far too fast, would I be able to say no? What if things go too far? How much would it cost? Could I muster that up? Who's hiring that I could get better pay to afford? Don't I need to start looking next year anyway? What if there's a nuclear blast or something, and I have to relocate to another country or something? What language would I have to learn? Would any girls there be even the tiniest bit interested in me? Should check currency conversion rates. Make mental note."

"More pleasant thoughts... new book idea. What would cause a sustainable perpetual nightfall over a city? Magic dome? Too magical. Nuke? Too much fallout. And predictable. There was a nuke last story. Super volcano? That could work. Size? Scope? Number of heroes involved? Who is in the A plot and who is in the B plot? How do I make readers care? How do I justify the B plot delegations? Is this proper setup for the follow-up series? These two lovebirds aren't allowed to meet yet. How do I keep them in separate subplots when the main arc most definitely involves both of them? Sleepless in Seattle gag? Nope. Too predictable and cheesy and cliche. Must try something else.

That one gal... no, she'll never give me a chance. Why do I care so much about her though? What's in it for me? Nothing, that I can tell."

"Better check my bank balance again. Hope I'm not in any risk of going in the red. Can I save up enough for that new dedicated video tower? Cousin's wedding next year. Grandma pushing it. Work might say no. She won't understand. Decisions, decisions."

It's kinda like that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I guess you could call it over thinking... but it's not done in the same way. We, or at least I should say I, tend to over-analyze situations. A girl may sit and wonder why he's not calling back and start over thinking that he doesn't like her or that she did something wrong. What I would do would over analyze and start thinking of every possible scenario that could be keeping her from calling back. But I wouldn't be sitting there thinking that I did something to cause her to not want to talk to me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it's half human nature and half personality type. Some people worry about , think about and/or analyze situations more than others. I know that I over think a lot of things in life, not just when it comes to love. It's how I roll, I rather think calmly about it than have other people give their opinions about it 'cause 9/10 everyone says something else about the situation.

When it comes to someone you like it's almost natural to overthink. If you really like that person you want to make sure it works out and you're not setting yourself up to something embarassing. So yes you analyze every little thing, though usually they mean nothing. It gives people hope, but also keeps them in check. Most people hate getting rejected in public, it's embarrasing so overthinking a situation is gonna avoid that from happening. Sad thing is, when you over think you waste precious oportunities and have regrets later.

lumos · Accepted Answer

"Like girls do"?
The first valuable lesson here is that there is most likely nothing in this world that EVERY guy does or EVERY girl does.
Therefore, yes, there are guys who do overthink things. But there are also those who don't. Just like girls. Some do, some don't. It depends on the person and whether they're insecure, overly analytical or just in general very curious.

ekc8295 · Accepted Answer

All human beings overthink things to varying degrees at different times about different things. Yes, that is completely normal human behavior. Some people do overthink this particular topic and some people don't.

MrOracle · Answer

Generally, no. Sometimes we overthink trying to figure out what YOU (the girl) is thinking - because we know you can barely figure that out yourself - but for US, there's no need. We are much more straightforward - we say what we mean and don't use subtext.

When girls communicate, they're often very fake to each other, and everything is subtext, so what they actually SAY is meaningless. Guys don't work that way.

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CyberToothTiger · Answer

Yes i agree with you, both genders over analyze one another
I worry about being accepted by a girl / woman for dating and
i worry about being judged. This one girl waved to me like she
knew me and i got scared and ran to the other side of the
grocery store cause i couldn't accept that girl was being
friendly and maybe wanted to talk with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course we do. That bullshit about Guys being simple when it comes to women is BS. That's from the point of view of a player. Most players don't think and why would they when the girl will always be receptive. They experienced success.
Guys who aren't like this most aren't, are Overthinking situations. They just don't voice it as much. Nowadays I've come across some effeminate dudes constantly Overthinking about the girls they like. Put it this way most guys 10yrs ago wouldn't have thought of waiting to text a girl back now a lot of Guys do it like women don't want to look eager.
I think about the weirdest shit around Girls I think are either hot or like or both. Chances are if a guy doesn't approach you straight away from the moment you can sense attraction mutually he's thinking one million things. Like does she have a BF? Maybe that guy that is talking to her is?

Tdieseler · Answer

In all honesty... guys see more things than girls do. we just ignore most while girls act on every goddamn thing.
Guys dont overthink... we just gather facts. girls run themselves insane with ideas, theories and other people's relationships... guys just focus on their girl.
Do we see all the other stuff? yea we do, but we are more interested in making our girl happy than fighting the rest of the world.

likitb4istickit · Answer

Nope. I quit doing that when I grew up about 80ish years ago. Usually a cigar is just a cigar. Dunno about someone I liked though, haven't tested it lately since I haven't met anyone I liked since the 1970's (assuming like = want to do more than just fuck).

Mofunfour20 · Answer

somedays simply go better than others but when your confidence/drive is up you just keep flowing whatever the circumstance. Feelin like anticipating sex-drive causes over thinking. I choose tai chi because it keeps me focused on natural flow. Its forever an ongoing process

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah we do this because all of the pressure is put on us in dating. We have to risk putting our pride in the line to try to talk to a woman. We're expected to read every sign and hint while women just have to sit and wait for a man to approach them. It sucks but it's how things are and how they will always be

Robin48 · Answer

No we do not think like you do. Our minds is not erotic. We do not talk about personal things about others unless we have permission. We do not gossip like you do. We do not sit around and talk sex talk. We do not go around talk about other people's genitals. List goes on and on and on.

watrewks · Answer

Sometimes if they're obsessed with her enough but I often feel like not to the extent some girls do

bedroomdweller · Answer

Yes, but there's a fundamental difference in female and male behavior. Women are solipsistic by nature, every reasoning a woman has turns to me, me, me, me, and me. Reason why when girls explain things all has to do with their emotions/feeling. You can disagree all you want (downvotes below) and I can quote psychology and philosphy references that back me up. Men tend to be "explorers" by nature unless there are severe personal issues or are just sociopaths.

Anonymous · Answer

I usually think there's a reason to why they're doing everything but my ego isn't so big that I think I can decipher what it actually means. I feel like too many women are overconfident in their intuition and think they always know what a guy's actions mean. In my case, they are usually wrong.

Jamesol1 · Answer

I like your hair... random as fuck... but yh brown curly hair :O.

Shorty1991 · Answer

Over analysing is not gender specific, both genders are cabable of it.

CanadEh · Answer

To an extent yeah but I don't think guys, on average, over think as often as girls do and definitely not on the same variety of things.

wankiam · Answer

Îmi place să păstreze lucrurile simple, în viața mea și cred că cei mai mulți bărbați fac mai degrabă decât în ​​căutarea adânc în orice situație

Purin · Answer

Here is how it goes. I can overthink roughly an entire life time ranging from 100 years to eternity of what life is like and the shit drama involved. And then BS issues and shit did not work out from just 1 sight and then move on.

Anonymous · Answer

It all depends on the situation. I only overthink if a gir I'm dating shows a lot of interest then ghosts on me or acts hot and cold consistently.

Pyrofox · Answer

Some do but once you accept yourself its more about how you think the other sees you.

Luci92 · Answer

Overanalyzing and overthinking is definitely not specific to gender, although, in my opinion, I think it's rarer for a guy to do this.

GingerGuy · Answer

No not like girls do lol. But yes sometimes some guys with some women. I've been told I overthink things by my friends before.

Casstiel · Answer

Nope I don't care what she says, I will see the point wherever I want to understand 😆 yeah little bit selfish

Anonymous · Answer

I find myself laughing about the way you guys act, it is attractive nevertheless and it is a funny thing to do :).

GoodLuckCharlie · Answer

Yes. I analyze every single detail, which is exactly why I'm easily offended. However, I don't overthink it. I'll just see it for why it is.

sedrftvgyhujik · Answer

Personally yes a lot of thinking did i say something wrong or generally not really knowing what the other person was thinking?

Lightbringer · Answer

I dont overthink. I just cannot think anything else

blutwolfe · Answer

pretty much, my bros tell me I'm like a high school girl about that shit lol

Kelfuma · Answer

We are more analytical and logical about what we think. We don't really "overthink", we "over reason" if that makes sense.

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

Not even a little bit

Ninja21 · Answer

Only if i really like the girl. But then i overanalyze everything there is.

AirForceOne · Answer

I'd say the guy doesn't put as much thought into it as the girl, unless he's really in o her.

Anonymous · Answer

i dont think girls truly overthink things, i think they do it to create drama

USA2016 · Answer

I overthink everything, so yeah

Vivaldi · Answer

I think about how unattractive I am. Damn I am so unattractive.

Redstang88 · Answer

Definitely not to the extent that girls do.

Belgie · Answer

Simply speaking, we can, but generally don't.

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

Nah they usually don't

MancGuyUK · Answer

Only when girls confuse us sometimes

Decentguy · Answer

yeah i do it, and i hate it

MsHeidi · Answer

They really don't..

Intraluminal · Answer

Thinking... what's that?

pervertedjester · Answer

It's a curse most days.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes. But yeah especially if I like a girl.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I can and do at times.

SuicidalTeen · Answer

Not as much, but still a decent bit

Grace_Rdz · Answer

I wonder this too 🤔

KHaskins · Answer

Yes. Constantly.

Anonymous · Answer

No, we keep it simple

Anonymous · Answer

I do, if I really like the girl.

Balcazaurus · Answer

I know I have.

Adigelunar · Answer

not as much as girls

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Yes, definitely.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes sometimes

_HimigNgKalayaan_ · Answer

I think so

TheOldMan59 · Answer

haha, yeah

Anonymous · Answer

Quite a lot

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