"If a guy wants to talk to you, he will".. is that true?

[Anonymous]

is that quote true or do guys wait for the girl to contact them sometimes?

[Tamikaze]

If you already have established a connection with a guy and he sees that you like him, then, yes, I agree with this statement. And, if he isn't calling you and you keep having to text him and pushing for hangouts, that is a super bad move. I don't know how many girls sit around waiting for a call or text and cannot stand it anymore and send them instead. Then they find 100 reasons why the guy isn't returning their calls or not calling them frequently. No one is so busy and unavailable that they cannot get a message to someone they really have feelings for. Only when you are 1 in a 1,000 to them do guys have such trouble keeping in touch.

Now as far as first moves, if you are not making yourself approachable and easy to talk to, some guys will not be able to make the first move. You need to be able to make eye contact, smile and also start a conversation with a guy to help ease the way for him to ask you out.

[caesium]

.. in my experience, it's been true. Even with the shyest of the shy. Granted, it helps to let them know in little ways that you're available to be contacted, but letting them contact you is... "drive building," if you will... it's nerve racking to some, and that said, it heightens the activity in the arousal/emotional centers of the brain. In other words, the action itself will be remembered over other actions, he'll find himself thinking more about you than normal day-to-day activities, and you will profit from that. :)

The quote itself may not actually be true, but the philosophy behind it works for you. Let it!

[Asker]

So your saying I should wait for him to contact me?

[martyfellow]

Most of us are used to the idea that the guy has to make the first move, so we'll usually do that.

Alot of guys are shy, though, and will wait for some sort of contact from the girl.