My ex boyfriend wasted my time?

[aishatheduffer]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend last Saturday. I broke up with him because he's a narcissist asshole who was very inconsiderate of my feelings and inconsistent as hell. He admitted that he wasted my time which really confused me because he was the one who asked me out? If he never really liked me, then he shouldn't never asked me out, you know? And at the end of his text he stated, "You're a keeper, any guy would be lucky to have you."

If he had me then why did he let me go so easily? He didn't even fight for me? So confused!

[Matt21]

as you mentioned, he was inconsiderate and by waisting your time he probably meant because he wasn't ready for a relationship and didn't treat you right...

He's not putting up a fight because he knows that you deserve to be happy and feels like he can no longer help you with that.

if he was inconsiderate as you said just take what he said as a compliment and move on to someone who will care about you.

I wish you the best :)

[tacoty21]

Well I see it like this, He knew at some point that you two weren't going to work at, but decided to keep it going because he thought you were great. Once you broke up with him, that when he realized that you deserved better than him. They say even if you really love someone, sometimes it for the best to let them go as it better for them and/or you.

[aishatheduffer]

I don't think that he thought I was great, he would constantly ignore me and I would always be the one making plans etc. I was wearing the pants in the relationship. I was not clingy, needy, and I wasn't excessively bothering him or spamming his phone. And i was sure not controlling at all. I know for sure I wasn't the problem in the relationship but I don't understand why he kept me on a leach if he honestly didn't like me in the long run. I'm pretty sure if I didn't break up with him last Saturday, he would have never have the guts to do it himself. It was like he was waiting for me to get at my breaking point.

[tacoty21]

Well maybe that is so, with situation like these you can only speculate on what he thought. Unless you ask him yourself, you will never truly know. I do think he honestly think you were great, but not everyone is good at showing emotion's. Maybe being an asshole was his way of showing feelings. Just some thoughts to think about.

[Tripple]

It's great that he didn't waste anymore of your time. Sounds like he's just saying these things to deliberately hurt you. Just ignore him and be glad you got out and now you can lead your life and find someone more suitable.

Stay strong and try the NC rule not for getting back to him but to make your life better.

[aishatheduffer]

Wow relationships nowadays days are terrible, can't even find someone who's consistent in a relationship, it's disheartening. But thank you!

[Wintermonth]

Sounds like he wanted a placeholder until he found something new. I have done it before. I think karma is in my ass as we speak because I'm in a similar situation.

[Account]

Those are just stupid stuff some people utter after breaking up with the other person. You should move on and never look back

[ThisDudeHere]

He probably only said what he assumed you wanted to hear. Either way, move one. He's no longer a part of your life, nor should he be.

[Belgie]

He doesn't want you but he didn't want you to feel bad about it.