Will my ex boyfriend ever regret?

[Anonymous]

My ex-boyfriend used to keep calling me to stop me from breaking up, he would say, don't go, stay, let's not break up, you can argue, fight, but don't talk about breaking up. But whenever we argued, he always refused to understand my point, kept seeing things through his eyes and didn't empathize with me. All I asked for was healthy communication by the way.

At the end, he became someone who wouldn't call or inform me about his day. We argued and broke up. He didn't even reply to the breakup message. I threw out my anger at him with a message. Then he called me and said he's coming to see me to say good bye. He came, we hugged, he said "I love you, I don't want to actually leave you, I wish you stayed but I know you can't put up with my unstable behaviors." He's got extremely unstable behaviors. His family also complains about it, but of course these behaviors reflect worse on me.

I told him to get psychological support. He said if we were together, he would get therapy.

We said goodbye, he didn't text or call later. Then I thought about therapy, I wish I had waited longer, but I texted him again. I said "If you get therapy, I want to be with you, but you're tiring me out with your unstable behaviors." He said "ok, I don't want to leave you, I will do my best," but he completely destroyed the communication between us the second day after we got back together. That small communication and texting was all gone this time. He started acting carelessly, leaving me clueless for hours. When I asked him about it, he said that his psychology has gotten worse and he doesn't feel ok these days, but he also didn't even try to make an appointment with a psychologist.

I got mad at him and said that there are many people who will keep promises to me, and he clung to what I said and started saying things like "ok then bye, I'm leaving you now, take care of yourself, I love you but I don't want to talk with you after what you said."

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He stopped talking. I said some more stuff out of anger. After a while, he texted that he can't read my messages because they are long. I said "ok don't read then." He said "why are you like this?" I said nothing's wrong with me. He asked, "Is this how you act when there's nothing wrong with you?" I told him it's my usual self and he said ok. I didn't say anything else, the conversation ended there. He didn't call and try to work things out. I've been trying to fix the relationship for the last

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two times anyway. To him, he loves me very much in his own way, but he clearly doesn't care. He's got serious problems psychologically, but neither he nor his family care. They let him be. Do you think this man will realize that he ruined his relationship and regret it some day in the future?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say whether or not your ex-boyfriend will eventually regret his actions, as everyone processes their emotions differently. However, it's important to focus on your own emotional wellbeing and to prioritize your own needs and boundaries in any relationship.

It sounds like you were looking for healthy communication and empathy from your ex-boyfriend, but he was unwilling or unable to provide that. It's important to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly in any relationship, and to be willing to walk away if those needs are not being met.

It's also important to remember that you cannot change someone else's behavior or actions, but you can control your own responses and reactions. If your ex-boyfriend is not willing or able to seek help for his unstable behaviors, it may be best to focus on your own emotional healing and to move on from the relationship.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you, and who is willing to communicate openly and honestly about their feelings and intentions. If you're feeling uncertain or anxious about the situation, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or a therapist to process your feelings and gain perspective on the situation.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot, your comment's helpful

[Opinion Owner]

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