Does being single every make you think you'd rather be dead than alone?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if I have some ridiculous obsession with not being single or something but sometimes I think why should I keep going on alone? I've gone 21 years with absolutely 0 signs I'll ever have someone. I don't see the point in living alone. Sorry that sounded so emo.

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I'm not gonna kill myself btw. Suicide is retarded.

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Also I notice most people said that I need to be happy by myself basically. I'm really anti school and I have been for awhile. I think I need to go to college and just tough it out. I'm sure I'll be really happy come graduation day.

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Oops on double update. Anyway I never graduated High School (I have a GED type of thing.) and I feel pretty terrible for it. Thanks for the answers everyone. I know what I need to do to make myself happy. :D

[Middleman]

Einstein once said 'If you keep doing the same thing you will always get the same results.' The reason your potential partner has not appeared yet in your life my friend, is because you had made a mental choice to stay single until now. Until you decide to break out of that cycle of thought, things unfortunately will remain the same for you.

Believe it or not, but your choice to stay single...is held within your consciousness.

It is held within your mind. I don't know if you've read any books like The Secret or Cosmic Ordering Service, but what they talk about contains a lot of truth, in particular that we focus on and think about in life, eventually manifests itself in some form or another in our life, because of attraction and because of what we've thought about it.

If you are feeling depressed or miserable, try to think of life and being single as like this - that it is all for fun! =D Think of it that the Creator (Higher Power/God or whoever you wish to call Him) has given a task for you. He knows you are getting older and single (and lonely and/or in need of some company) and he knows you how important it is to you to find someone to love. So He's decided to give you this game called Life...and knowing how you are, he's made the game so that you will enjoy and can have a bit of fun in the process of finding your partner/soul mate.

How wonderful is that? When you begin to look at life in this manner, you will fail to be miserable any more and only be happy at every turn...because for the first time, you will see exactly how much love has there been given to you in life! The Creator loves you so much, He decided to make this game of life for you, that you can choose to pick any partner from any possible background on Earth! Every single day you have been given the chance to come across someone different to the last until you find the right one! Apart from the different ethnicities you can choose their looks and height...and even their likes and dislikes and interests. On top of that He made the process of procreation (sex) fun for both partners. Don't you see you're getting such a great deal here...and yet you're still complaining? C'mon, live a little! =P

So it's time for you to break out of that hole you've dug yourself into...and get into the light. Start enjoying life my friend! The only time is now, as now IS eternity. Once you begin to start seeing the joy that appears in your life at every moment, you'll find so many areas in your life will start to improve that automatically the girl of your dreams will appear when you are ready.

(I may add also, it is important to visualise who you would like to be with. The more detailed and specific you can imagine your partner to be, the quicker your dreams will be realised. I say this from experience.)

[Middleman]

I may also like to add if we've always been focusing on ourselves being alone and 'single' all the time, what do you expect the results to be? Thus it is important for us to change our viewpoint and mindset, for this will help us free ourselves from unnecessary suffering we have created mentally.

[Lunchlady13]

Wrong. If you are an old woman with young children like I am, you are unwanted and undatable, AND it's out of your control. I've tried for 4 years and nothing.

[abon1]

If you have no particular goals, loneliness is going to be a lot worse. There’s also a big difference between longing for a romantic partner and actual loneliness. Like, I have literally no friends in my city? have been single for two years and am living in the wake of a severe professional failure that flushes about eight years of my life down the toilet. That’s a reason to hate breathing.

If you have friends, hobbies and/or a goal (excluding meeting a lady), don’t fret about the singleness. Worrying about something so trivial and beyond your control means there’s probably other, more personal stuff you should be addressing, like further education, being of service to others (aka: making this horrible world better in some tiny way) or creative pursuits. No friends, passions or goals is a garbage life and not worth sharing with anyone... hence why I am single and will stay that way.

[Ugrace]

If you can't enjoy life this way, would it make that much difference if you get together with someone? Then what if you break up? You will be even more down than now? Enjoy life at this moment, then it will be even more enjoyable to SHARE your joy with someone else. Life isn't about spending your time with someone else because you don't want to be alone. The other person should be able to give MORE significance to your life, not to just GIVE significance to your life.

For the record: girls don't like pessimistic guys. I'm sure it is the other way around too.

[Asker]

Yeah I know. :/ I don't wanna be like I am. I know it's annoying and not something girls don't like. I wonder how to fix it.

[Ugrace]

Don't wonder. Just fix it. It's a question of how you go through life. Focusing on not being alone is not really helping you out. Enjoy life!

[Anonymous]

Are you happy with yourself? Are you happy with what you've done? Are you happy with your life? If the answer is no to any of them, then you're not ready for a relationship. You need to be happy and in love with yourself before you can let someone else in.

[Asker]

Honestly at this point no. If I go back to college and graduate in 2 years I probably will. I'll have accomplished something for once. I know that sound negative but I kinda tend to be a person who's like whatever and just lets things go by. Graduating would give me a great sense of accomplishment and it'd be nice to have every one know I've done something for once.

[smallbrownman]

what are you good at? now think about how many hours you spent getting good at that specific skill. you can't just wait for women to come to you. you gotta improve yourself, hone your skills, and catch thy prey. I know because I'm working on it myself.

[icepuffin]

By having other goals in life, the women will come to you. Ambition wins over neediness.

[gamer24x7]

Well said. +1

[eugovogue]

Eww, get a grip and a life, and a therapist.

That is the most ridiculous thing I've heard in my life. GROW UP.

[Asker]

Thanks for the great help. lol

[abon1]

Geez... you’re 28 and that’s your response to this kind of question? You need help.