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Why are some guys so scared of approaching girls? (Page 2)
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Because it is like going over and asking to be emotionally slapped. You won't bite but your girl's works hurt. Most of the time we even get put down for trying to be your freind because women just think that we are giving them attention for sex. When often we want a relationship or a freindship.
Very, very rarely does a girl like a guy approaching her. She only is nice if he is her specific type. Other wise it is get out of here loser.
Yeah I suppose some may be scared for a variety of reason, some maybe just quiet, shy or whatever and some just approach girls - Its like most things in life, it may not be your cup of tea but some other girls may like the shy quiet type - You seem attracted to the more extroverted person so maybe it all works out in the long run.
OK. Let me tell you why.
Because you’ll ignore me. Online, I’m talking about online. How do I know? I’ve done it so many times… And no, it wasn’t creepy.
In real world? No. I just don’t do that. I’m sorry, but I prefer not be pepper sprayed, embarrassed in public, or something like that. Besides, there is no real reason for me to approach some strange woman.
Maybe, if girls would actually start responding me online… But no, that will never happened.
Some girl asked me why I was "too scared" to approach her. My simple answer is I am not interested in you, I was just being friendly.
I don't know if this is your case but so many girls think when guys don't like them they are "too scared".
guys aren't scared... many girls are too judgmental to judge the boys as despo if they approach them... I myself have experienced it so many times... I wasn't scared of approaching girls... Neither m i now... it's just that now i intentionally don't approach girls... once girls stop judging us as despo or directly saying "I've a bf" we will start approaching them
They may also be afraid of other guys making fun of them if they get shot down, perhaps more than anything else.
Guys your age are going through a lot of physical and mental changes and already have a lot to do in adjusting to that, so give them a break. It takes some guys longer than others to develop self-confidence and then own identity.
There are articles in newspapers almost every day saying how women are constantly approached by men and how annoying women find it and some women consider it harassment. So the more considerate men think about this and don't approach because they don't want to do something which could make the woman feel harassed.
Because many young men are coming from an increasingly sheltered lifestyle and are afraid to move out side their comfort zone, and woman are waaaaaayyyy out side of their comfort zone.
Maybe, but then I know a guy that came from a sheltered lifestyle. He went to uni, had a few drinks and approached girls everywhere. He got so good at it that some of the girls called him out for being ''too smooth'' LOL. He also stopped doing it, said it was boring or something. That was after a year.
@Truthatanycost well some people grow out of it, and alcohol is always good for loosing ones inhibitions, both socially and sexually, but maybe he had his adventure and lost the taste for it.
I asked him and part of it was that he'd had the adventure like you said, but interestingly it was also to do with the over inflated ego of women. He said that approaching them was a form of massaging their ego, so he just ignores them instead.
@Truthatanycost yeah some guys i know are like that, they do a wanderlust period, get their fill and then just look for something simple and specific. I know a lot of guys that tried to do the whole pick up artist thing but became disillusioned by it over time and now are like monks.
Pretty much the exact reason you said. It's rediculously easy to intimidate a good percentage of girls by just being ourselves. So a lot of us eventually figure that it isn't worth the effort to try to make cowards comfortable around us.
Fun fact, it's typically these same girls who turn around and call us guys the 'pussies.'
Read. Pussies for not approaching girls and not taking basically any chances. That's the definition of a pussy for me. I'd rather have a guy approach me and make a total fool of himself than not approach me at all.
How does that make my point any less true?
Basically in every way. Pussy=not taking any chance, being a scaredy cat.
Well it's.. not all that effective, I gotta say.
Yes those guys do exist. But more often than not, Pussy=Guy who girls get scared of for immensely stupid reasons.
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Stick to approaching guys.
fear of rejection
fear of embarrassment
shy
nervous
just to name a few
For every girl who would have a positive reaction to that, on average there's 0.75 girls to that girl that would have a negative reaction.
It's because we are! I'd say every guy has the same fear of rejection and some, including myself let that get the better of them.
I know for me, it was because I was unsure if girls were already taken. There is quite the double standard though... guys are cowards if they can't approach women, but women are not if they can't approach guys. Women want to be treated equal (and they should), but only if it supports their best interests... in this case guys take the fall for being cowards.
Because I'm average looking, quiet, introverted and not good at talking to people, especially girls. Also some girls are rude and I was insulted by them.
Lots of people don't like rejection and are hurt by it. That's why so few people do well in sales.
good comment.
For some reasons some guys like this need to exist.
Being ignored or labelled. Most girls are tired of guys just approaching. It's harder and harder to pick and choose when to approach when you're tired of being burned.
Its fear of being rejected.
For me, i want to have a gentlemen-lady relationship, but girls nowadays seems as if they doesn't want a gentlemen in their life and thats sad
They are not scared actually, they are shy, Many girls are shy too, so its part of personality