Do guys have less intense friendships than girls?

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thatguyfromtoronto · Accepted Answer

I think it depends, guys tend to be less open with their feelings with each other and certain guys will use drinking or do drugs as their way to suppress or "help" those emotions, which it doesn't.

However, girls and even women tend to be very catty with other females who are apparently their "friends". I used to talk to girls who seem like they cared about hanging out with their female friends and going out for a girls night or girl trips "no guys" but I know once one of those girls gets married and finds a great guy, eventually jealously will sink in. I don't mean this for all girls, but I can safely say many girls and women tend to get jealous about that stuff.

It comes down to the authenticity of the friendship with a friend, guys don't behave catty with each other, nor get extremely jealous if our guy friend got married or is now in a relationship. The most a guy will say is "Congrats on getting married bro" or "Damn, your girlfriend is smoking hot dude"... That's pretty much it.

I personally have lost touch with many guy friends I knew from elementary, junior high, high school and even university but I am comfortable with myself. Things that I did with my guy friends such as watching movies in the theatre, playing basketball at the YMCA, talking about political matters or other things, those guys don't care much and have their own lives. What I do now is, I will usually go to the movies alone (it's like watching tv in your house) so who cares, right? Playing basketball is simple, just run games at the YMCA with other guys and meet new people and etc, that's how I look at it.

I'm a guy who cooks, cleans, tries to do things the right way, doesn't do drink, doesn't do drugs, doesn't have this sense of urgency to prove to other people that I have a girlfriend so look at me now kind of approach.

My final verdict -- girls/women tend to be closer in terms of their feelings, but I think guys are less likely to be filled with jealousy over little dumb issues. End of the day, I think both genders have friendships that do have strong bonds. Take me for example, I knew girls that I listened to about her problems, I made her laugh and offered guy support and then eventually these girls cut me off and they don't give me a reason why. I think guy/girl friendships are a waste of time in my opinion.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Women claim to have more intense friendships then men but statistically male friendships last significantly longer then women's, even an entire life time while women's relationships statistically last at most ten years. So no. Its definitiley different then a womans friendship but I wouldn't say its inferior or what have you. I would say male friendships are less "intimate" usually but they are much more loyal and long lasting.

Nyx_85 · Accepted Answer

I think men are more focused on doing activities together rather than sitting around talking. They also tend to just not care that much about things that many women do. Of course not all friendships are like this. Some chicks prefer activities over sharing feelings and some guys are more judgmental and hold grudges.

But to the 'person' that said male friendships statistically last longer. Ugh... First of all WHAT statistic? I looked and could find nothing. You really like to talk about statistics don't ya? Which is funny because 90% of the so called 'statistics' you talk about don't even exist! Dude you are annoying as fuck.

"Contrary to what some people may think, it is women, not men, who are more likely to form long-lasting friendships. Sociologists from the Research Centre for Socio-Cultural Change at the University of Manchester conducted a study over a four-year period, and their findings suggest that men, on the one hand, are more fickle and calculating about who they should be friends with, while women, on the other hand, are steadfast in their approach to friendships: they support their friends not only during the good times, but also during the bad times."

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lumos · Accepted Answer

Sometimes, yeah I think so. Men are less likely to open up emotionally because some of them consider it to be a weak trait, and they’re maybe worried to be judged for it. Or they might think that their friends won’t care much, or wouldn’t know how to respond.
Whereas it seems like women tend to be more open and empathetic, we talk about everything and anything, and we’re rarely scared of what our girlfriends will think if we open up about any of our issues or emotional dilemmas.
Not saying guys can’t have friendships like that because a lot of them do. It just seems to be more common/the norm for girl friendships.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men's relationships are statistically longer due to the fact that they do not tend to open up to their friends, they simply hang out with them. Women tend to open up to their female friends, however their friendships do not statistically last due to the fact that it's easier for those friendships to fall apart because showing an emotional side can mess things up.

Schrodingerscat · Accepted Answer

I think female friendships are bit more shallow than guy friendships.. I mean you have all stories of bromance, guy friends standing up for each other and whatnot... But fewer stories of girls who do same.

Even IRL, I see girls easily breaking friendships over small things whereas guys argue, fight and next day, they behave as if nothing happened.

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

Male friendships like these are absolutely typical, but don't assume they're inferior to female friendships. Men might not be physically or emotionally expressive, but we derive great support from our friendships.
Women's friendships are face to face: They talk, cry together, share secrets. Men's friendships are side by side: We play golf. We go to football games.

RealandGenuine1991 · Answer

I grew up with four sisters, don't talk to either of them that much. sisterly relationships are completely overrated. I watch how my husband is with his friends, if anything his friends they act like brothers. at least from what I observed. They joke around, pull pranks etc.

Hal2002 · Answer

Men have real friendships, we may not talk about our emotions and other things. But we will do thing for each other, and not expect anything in return.

Women for all their talk about friendship, do not do things for each other with out expecting to get something out of it.

The real thing that distinguishes male friendship from female friendships, is that we can go for long periods of no contact and pick up where we were the last time we were together without having to explain anything.

When a guy gets into a relationship or gets married, we realize things have changed and we back off and give him the space he needs for his relationship. When a girl gets into a serious relationships or married, in to many cases she becomes a target for the her single friends.

ksoma · Answer

Some might argue that men have closer friendships.

A guy's close friend is someone who can see that guy's emotional side on occasion, which is normally hidden from the world. Many men also have an "if you need me, I WILL be there for you, and I expect you will be there for me," view of their friendships.

Girls? I haven't witnessed the inner workings of many girls friendships, but it seems to that the "mean girls" take of sweet to her face and calling her a bitch the moment her back is turned is not as fictional as you want us to believe.

bente2 · Answer

I wouldn’t necasserily say less intense, just different. Generally it is more accepted women are touchy feely, talk about their emotions a lot. Women are venters. They will talk about anything that’s in their head. Men tend to just talk about the major things going on or ask for advice.

10dsw · Answer

I honestly don't think so at all. I am about to leave to go to my friend's house whom I have been friends with since I was 10.

Most girls I know of constantly have a new stream of friends because they burn bridges. My sister calls it the "revolving door effect" lol

Anonymous · Answer

I actually think it is the other way around and women have less intense friendships. I mean women can be very judgment with other women. They can be cruel and it's like it's a constant popularity contest with them. They are way more likely to put on a shoe when someone is around and then talk about them behind their backs.

Men's friendships' are way more relaxed. Sure it is possible it may not be as deep but at least the friendship is alays real and for the most part guys will stay friends even after stupid stuff like fights.

ladsin · Answer

What? I'd think the opposite, I've seen far more backstabbing and fickle friendships in women than in men.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't really have real friends and am an introvert. I have some people I watch sports with at the bar or work with in my office but overall in very private. So I really can't say I am really close to anybody accept when I have am in a relationship signs girl I actually trust. In HS and college though i had fake friends and was social but would never went out of my way to talk about personal issues with them.

Vmm90 · Answer

I really believe something such as intense friendships can be determined by gender as much as it is the individuals. Sure some guys may have a very close bond with their friends where others may have more mild friendships. Same thing with women

Maebo · Answer

Mens friendships are way better and stronger. Im jealous if it. Women Only care if They have Some kind of benefiet out of it. Or so it deels these days.. wish i had more real and trustworthy friends like guys do

JimRSmith · Answer

Male friendships seem to require less active effort, and create less angst than various female ones I've observed.  I think men are easier going, as a rule, in this respect.

RoastedCat · Answer

Women are shown in studies to invest much more of their emotional vulnerability in their significant other while girls spread it out evenly with their partner and close friends.

NatashaJ · Answer

It depends thou how can a relationship between a girl and guy be less intense if the guy wants to bang or date her? and I'm pretty sure any guy can be a shittalker just like women I met a few men who are. It doesn't matter now I feel like in my generation there drama full idiots who just want to start shit with people around them.

ManOnFire · Answer

When men do have real friendships, they can often be more intense than women's. Women see hanging with females as a basic girlfriend get-together that they think makes them seem more social, and female friendships have a tendency to break up, so I don't see much intensity in that.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Men are naturally less open but when it comes down to it we're just as close as women are. It's just a difference in how emotions work in different people.

DeanMS · Answer

It's a personality related rather than gender bases. At least that's the case with me and my friends.

name_is_christian · Answer

Less intense than womens, but we have our moments, we're more straightforward. Men are more likely to bond over sports, women, and video games.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls are fake, men know how to be friends.

FatherJack · Answer

Less intense , but more straightforward , men tend to pick up from where they left off in most cases... plus men take the piss out of each other & find it hilarious !!

Anonymous · Answer

Men have more intense friendships. I say that because with women if they lose contact and after several years they act differently but with guys the bond is strong that time away doesn't change our behaviour

JosyJosy · Answer

I think it doesn't depend on gender but on the person

BeHappy1985 · Answer

We have a lot better relationships than girls. Bros b4 hoes and such. For example we call our friends "dicks" and right in fron of them, you ladies call your friends "darling" while you are with them and "hoe" when they arrent arround. Also you gals are jelly all the time about eachother etc. etc. etc...

Anonymous · Answer

Less intense in the sense that they don't easily get attached to *the idea* of being friends. Girls' friendships are sort of 'forced' in that way, like you want to be friends so really push for it. Guys don't really 'try' to be friends with other guys unless they're gay, it just happens, and in that sense it's more intense. The friends a guy has don't fade away easily because they weren't forced, so what is actually there is more real.

soleil2666 · Answer

I think very much the opposite is true - women get mean to each other and are always in some form of angry/nasty competition - guys are a whole lot more chill and accepting/tollerant

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes that's how i feel because i never seem to be as close with my guy friends as i am with my female friends. I guess it's deeper on an emotional level

Yayeet · Answer

I don't think so. We may not be as "mushy" as girls and express our love for our friends like girls do, but they're still intense friendships

Quant · Answer

Guys don't really put as much effort into relationships as girls. You just hang out for a bit and after a while your friends.
To my limited knowledge female relations seen to be a bit more calculated. Not in a bad way but they appear more planned out.

quixion · Answer

Generally Men will take time or a break from hanging out once they start snapping at each other. This usually occurs only after months of daily contact with best friends. Men who show another man respect expects the same in return. If not I personally part ways and continue my life lol

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

Female friendships are very special, I have very good friends, lot better than any guy could be.

blondfrog · Answer

It totally depends on the sole individual. This is totally a genderless thing.

levantine99 · Answer

men punch eah other and next day are buddies again drinking beers. hurt a woman and she'll hold that grudge on you for a life.

Mitch6192 · Answer

Girls friendship are intense cos' they have sleepovers and make out with each other ;) haha. ... I wish! ;p

Anonymous · Answer

I think guys have closer/stronger friendships than girls, just they're maybe not quite as open about feelings and that

rjroy3 · Answer

I'm not really sure what the context of "intense" is in this case. Do you mean volatile?

OctoPops · Answer

Its just the opposite of what you are saying.

verybusyguy · Answer

Guys are bro for life... Unless they don't cheat of course but they are always there for each other

ThiccAsFucc · Answer

No. I think we have stronger ones. Men will beat the shit out of eachother and hug afterwards and be fine. Women are passive-agressive and will ignore you.

Anonymus2017 · Answer

This is a dumb question. Men clearly don't have emotions... no, it's no different from any other friendship. We would cut a bitch for our friends.

BarryBJ · Answer

No. But it is usually a different kind of intensity.

Swoleasever · Answer

Have you heard of the military where guys guys die for each other? Females even in the best of friendships, secretly hate each other

alexey · Answer

Men have a strong friendship but girls can`t get along with each other

genericname85 · Answer

No. It's just with less outspoken emotions.

Nithinraj · Answer

Don't think so, it's evident from the fact that, even after marriage men maintains their friendship

pastoutla29 · Answer

Yes they do have less intense friendship than girls

Dr_Latex_McPeggin · Answer

I think they are the same, just different...

Halucinator · Answer

You're kidding me, aren't you?😂

TheGuyNobodyKnows · Answer

I wouldn't say so; no

Code_XYZ · Answer

not in my experiences.

haooy · Answer

Friends? Oh you talking about my brothers.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I would say it's the opposite.

cupidkisses · Answer

Nope

VladDracula · Answer

I don't think so

AnandoRudra · Answer

No. Never

gogoook · Answer

Nooo

Anonymous · Answer

Don't know

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