Yup, he's clearly flirting. I would suggest you to confront him, be honest. Ask him the following questions be direct, "what exactly are you trying to accomplish?", are you hitting on me? Etc, such people are toxic, it's better to confront him at this early stage before you get emotionally involved.
I really like him. Plus he is opening up to me ; him telling me he is bipolar and more "deep" stuff. I mean is he doing that to test me, scare me or awaken a form of sympathy for him?
Also we worked the exact same shift last Sunday for 8hours; same break and everything. He did not let me go out of his sight and only went to the bathroom when i needed to go.
We are gonna work the same shift this week again.. he probably is gonna repeat this behavior.
I am sccared to confront him since;1 if im reading at it all wrong om gonna make a fool of myself 2 i dont want to loose his company
I've known so many men that act this way even with girlfriends. Sounds a lot like a relationship between two kindergarteners. I don't think it's anything more then him toying with you. If I'm misreading the situation and he actually has feelings for you that's just as bad.
Careful, he might make you as a scapegoat if he ever broke with his girlfriend. Everything he did in my opinion was trying to make you interested/ have better image on him. Try not to act too much interest (to make sure you're not being used as a scapegoat) but keep much interest AS a friend (to make sure if he's genuine and to keep the friendship going). Be close, but not too close. Note: i never had a relationship, so i'm just guessing.
Not quite what the question is, sounds like hey may be attracted but is a bonehead and thinks making fun and negs would work, that or he's trying to lead you on for fun, either way, with the behavior and attitudes he's exhibiting, doesn't sound like he's good news and sounds like he has some growing up to do still
Ahh, a sort of joke to lighting the mood and let you know everything is cool, I get it now, I'd still be cautious, if he starts flirting and his is wandering with his current girlfriend, what's to stop him from doing it again with a new girlfriend
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
I would recommend to keep your walls up with this guy. He should not be giving you that kind of attention if he has a girlfriend already. It is obvious he wants you and is trying real hard to find common ground with you. I would advise you to let him know when he is crossing the line and where that line with you is.
Your getting played. He knows damn well you have a crush on him and is toying with you. so long as he's got a girlfriend you should already be dead set on no. But he's pulling you by your own thread of crushing on him. Be wary your literally either backup or the side. Unless he actually full on dumps this girl and fell in love with your ass... Which is fucking obsessive, excessive and, crazy and you should probably just stay away.
Im sure its a crush, when you said that sometimes he takes your phone then you gotta take it back, so he gets your attention. He confessed you he's bipolar, which means he has confidence towards you. He might flirt because with his girlfriend because it doesn't go too well and he wanna make sure he won't be alone/rejected at the same time because life is a lot more enjoyable in couple.
I thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
He don't wanna make it look like flirt, because he's afraid you could reject him. the fact he write long answers for shorts answers from you mean he likes to talk to you.
Ask yourself this - if we assume that he does in fact like you, do you really want someone who openly pretty much flirts with someone behind their girlfriends back? I mean, who is to say if you two got together that he won't do the same.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
Mate! I wouldn't read into this stuff!! A guy isn't usually like a girl with having hidden meaning in there actions.
If he was into you secretly or openly, you would know it. At this late in the stage of friendship, mos ly mates have tried to make a move if some sort that shows where there intentions are.
But you can always turn things around while things are good between you two... very easily :).
He likes you, but i think overall that is not a good thing. First the obvious, he has a girlfriend. Next his obvious obsession over you is not normal or healthy. It's the type of behavior that could easily escalate into stalking. He has admitted he is bipolar do there is no predicting what he might do during a manic episode of you reject him in the future. Id be very careful and try to see what happens if you distance yourself somewhat.
I thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
From everything it sounds like he likes you. I'm almost certain. He probably blew her off because she's probably interested in sex or something. He seems to genuinely like you. It's a 50/50 that his current relationship could end, but I wouldn't keep all of my attention and hope on just him. Besides you don't want to get hurt in case things don't end between the two.
He's a taken man, you're not a taken woman. Look else where.
He's interested in you clearly. Be careful though cos he may just be an asshole who lives for the chase. In other words he's only interested in a girl until he gets her then loses interest and moves on to the next one. Of you're interested in him though make it clear that he needs to break up with his current girlfriend if he stands any chance with you
What's the correct word for this... Yeah "tow timing".
He has a girlfriend but not enough. He also wants you. It starts with flirting then advancement and such. He just want the chase and the sex. This is normal for a lot of guys.
Him and his girlfriend are together since late June i believe.
thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend. Was this him testing me to see how i would react to other girls approaching him etc? Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
So do you think he is interested in me in a friendly way, romantic way or lustfully?
He sounds kind of crazy. It might be that he's into you, but he sounds odd enough that it might just be how he is. You'll have to compare it to how he acts around other people in a similar situation to you.
Not like this. I observed it and asked other coworkers subtle about it. Its like he gets elektrocuted when he notices me; he doesn't slouch etc and starts to act like how stated above
I'm going to stop at the title. He has a girlfriend. Remove yourself from the picture with haste! If he will leave her for you what's to stop him leaving you for someone else?
Also, he may just see you as a friend. I have a very similar relationship with my friend where we are extremely inappropriate most times but have no interest in dating. This is dangerous territory though. It works for us because we all know each other so we are all equally inappropriate but never cross the line.
I have 2 concerns. 1 - he has a G/F at the moment. If you were his G/F, how would you feel knowing he acts like this. 2 - NEVER, and I do mean never, have an office romance. Just my opinion and speaking from experience.
I don't know this is a lot of reading lol, I just would tell him to cook it and not act so weird since he has a girlfriend, and really if I were you I wouldn't be too presses with someone who has one. Put him in the back burner delete him so to speak
Don't do it. If he has a girlfriend and is doing this with you chances are he won't be afraid to put you in his gf's situation it's basically fake love.
thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
So with him telling that he brushed her off for his girlfriend is that to me saying; dont get weird about it, im taken? And i had enough so here's the line dont cross it?
There's nothing wrong with having a platonic relationship however if i were you don't get attached because his desires can obviously change very quickly
This person seems like he likes you to the point of where he got obsessed with you. At this point it is a matter of knowing when to let him know how you feel about the situations he puts you in and as well as let the Biss know that you have suspicions that the such said coworker seems like he is obsessed with you and it makes you uncomfortable or however it makes you feel and see if your boss can do anything about it.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
Well sit down and talk to him seriously explain to him that you know he has a girlfriend and you have had this big crush on him and that these games or whatever it is he is doing is like teasing you really bad and you don't want to interrupt his relationship and all that and explain how you feel and be open to him and see what he says sometime guys like to lease and nag at a girl because that's how they express their feeling towards a person they like.
In my opinion I think he digs you and is j there's ted and might cheat but let him know that you don't want to split him and his current girlfriend apart but if he at some point in time wants to try something out then try something out but let him know that you don't want to be a side chick or a tease or anything because you are sensitive or whatever it is
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Yup, he's clearly flirting. I would suggest you to confront him, be honest. Ask him the following questions be direct, "what exactly are you trying to accomplish?", are you hitting on me? Etc, such people are toxic, it's better to confront him at this early stage before you get emotionally involved.
I really like him. Plus he is opening up to me ; him telling me he is bipolar and more "deep" stuff. I mean is he doing that to test me, scare me or awaken a form of sympathy for him?
Also we worked the exact same shift last Sunday for 8hours; same break and everything. He did not let me go out of his sight and only went to the bathroom when i needed to go.
We are gonna work the same shift this week again.. he probably is gonna repeat this behavior.
I am sccared to confront him since;1 if im reading at it all wrong om gonna make a fool of myself 2 i dont want to loose his company
You know, these are all non romantic gestures?
Even if these appear inclining towards flirting, yet these are perfectly friendly. More like found the person just right.
Here is a trick. Try replacing you with a guy in exact conditions. You would notice, neither the words, nor the sense changes.!!
I've known so many men that act this way even with girlfriends. Sounds a lot like a relationship between two kindergarteners. I don't think it's anything more then him toying with you. If I'm misreading the situation and he actually has feelings for you that's just as bad.
Careful, he might make you as a scapegoat if he ever broke with his girlfriend. Everything he did in my opinion was trying to make you interested/ have better image on him.
Try not to act too much interest (to make sure you're not being used as a scapegoat) but keep much interest AS a friend (to make sure if he's genuine and to keep the friendship going).
Be close, but not too close.
Note: i never had a relationship, so i'm just guessing.
Not quite what the question is, sounds like hey may be attracted but is a bonehead and thinks making fun and negs would work, that or he's trying to lead you on for fun, either way, with the behavior and attitudes he's exhibiting, doesn't sound like he's good news and sounds like he has some growing up to do still
Its not making fun it just playfull. If he makes a comment like that i bounce it back with a simmilar comment
Ahh, a sort of joke to lighting the mood and let you know everything is cool, I get it now, I'd still be cautious, if he starts flirting and his is wandering with his current girlfriend, what's to stop him from doing it again with a new girlfriend
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
I would recommend to keep your walls up with this guy. He should not be giving you that kind of attention if he has a girlfriend already. It is obvious he wants you and is trying real hard to find common ground with you. I would advise you to let him know when he is crossing the line and where that line with you is.
Your getting played. He knows damn well you have a crush on him and is toying with you. so long as he's got a girlfriend you should already be dead set on no. But he's pulling you by your own thread of crushing on him. Be wary your literally either backup or the side. Unless he actually full on dumps this girl and fell in love with your ass... Which is fucking obsessive, excessive and, crazy and you should probably just stay away.
Im sure its a crush, when you said that sometimes he takes your phone then you gotta take it back, so he gets your attention. He confessed you he's bipolar, which means he has confidence towards you. He might flirt because with his girlfriend because it doesn't go too well and he wanna make sure he won't be alone/rejected at the same time because life is a lot more enjoyable in couple.
I thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
Threw text?
Through ah ok
He don't wanna make it look like flirt, because he's afraid you could reject him. the fact he write long answers for shorts answers from you mean he likes to talk to you.
No i write long awnsers he Just writes more then 1 message back at me wich you could dat makes one long message
It doesn't have any signification, its a style of writing.
Ask yourself this - if we assume that he does in fact like you, do you really want someone who openly pretty much flirts with someone behind their girlfriends back? I mean, who is to say if you two got together that he won't do the same.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
Exactly. There is nothing stopping him.
So why is he opening up to me then?
Because he's fishing?
Mate! I wouldn't read into this stuff!! A guy isn't usually like a girl with having hidden meaning in there actions.
If he was into you secretly or openly, you would know it. At this late in the stage of friendship, mos ly mates have tried to make a move if some sort that shows where there intentions are.
But you can always turn things around while things are good between you two... very easily :).
He likes you, but i think overall that is not a good thing. First the obvious, he has a girlfriend. Next his obvious obsession over you is not normal or healthy. It's the type of behavior that could easily escalate into stalking. He has admitted he is bipolar do there is no predicting what he might do during a manic episode of you reject him in the future. Id be very careful and try to see what happens if you distance yourself somewhat.
This man is a HO! If it was my boyfriend... GUUUUUUUURL lemme tell you. He definitely likes you. I feel bad for the girlfriend.
These men ain't loyal.
I thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
From everything it sounds like he likes you. I'm almost certain. He probably blew her off because she's probably interested in sex or something. He seems to genuinely like you. It's a 50/50 that his current relationship could end, but I wouldn't keep all of my attention and hope on just him. Besides you don't want to get hurt in case things don't end between the two.
He's a taken man, you're not a taken woman. Look else where.
He's interested in you clearly. Be careful though cos he may just be an asshole who lives for the chase. In other words he's only interested in a girl until he gets her then loses interest and moves on to the next one. Of you're interested in him though make it clear that he needs to break up with his current girlfriend if he stands any chance with you
What's the correct word for this... Yeah "tow timing".
He has a girlfriend but not enough. He also wants you. It starts with flirting then advancement and such. He just want the chase and the sex. This is normal for a lot of guys.
Him and his girlfriend are together since late June i believe.
thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Was this him testing me to see how i would react to other girls approaching him etc?
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
So do you think he is interested in me in a friendly way, romantic way or lustfully?
He clearly has no interest and that fat chick you're talking to wasn't helping
@jamesFallon what do you mean?
you're like this rebound side hoe in denial.
He sounds kind of crazy. It might be that he's into you, but he sounds odd enough that it might just be how he is. You'll have to compare it to how he acts around other people in a similar situation to you.
Not like this. I observed it and asked other coworkers subtle about it. Its like he gets elektrocuted when he notices me; he doesn't slouch etc and starts to act like how stated above
I'm going to stop at the title. He has a girlfriend. Remove yourself from the picture with haste! If he will leave her for you what's to stop him leaving you for someone else?
Also, he may just see you as a friend. I have a very similar relationship with my friend where we are extremely inappropriate most times but have no interest in dating. This is dangerous territory though. It works for us because we all know each other so we are all equally inappropriate but never cross the line.
I have 2 concerns.
1 - he has a G/F at the moment. If you were his G/F, how would you feel knowing he acts like this.
2 - NEVER, and I do mean never, have an office romance. Just my opinion and speaking from experience.
I don't know this is a lot of reading lol, I just would tell him to cook it and not act so weird since he has a girlfriend, and really if I were you I wouldn't be too presses with someone who has one. Put him in the back burner delete him so to speak
Don't do it. If he has a girlfriend and is doing this with you chances are he won't be afraid to put you in his gf's situation it's basically fake love.
thought/kinda hoped his relationship went donwhill but today he said he blew off the "babe" coworker (She is a very curvy hourglass girl with lots of make up and tigts clothes) when She approached him threw text and at work and now its awkward between Them because he told her he has a girlfriend.
Me and him text sometimes; nothing really flirty but he responds within like 30 seconds with 5 messages to one of mine (they are not short, i Just type one long text vs many little ones) and States like; yeah i should go back to study (he does a masters degree next to work) but i wanted to talk to you
Nah if he will blow her off that quick you could potentially be next. He realistically doesn't feel affection like most do
So i am gonna be placed in the now its awkward box like her soon?
Most likely. Essentially he's a player.
So with him telling that he brushed her off for his girlfriend is that to me saying; dont get weird about it, im taken? And i had enough so here's the line dont cross it?
There's nothing wrong with having a platonic relationship however if i were you don't get attached because his desires can obviously change very quickly
Setting a boundary is definitely one of the best things you can do in this situation. It'll keep you from getting hurt and wasting your time.
This person seems like he likes you to the point of where he got obsessed with you. At this point it is a matter of knowing when to let him know how you feel about the situations he puts you in and as well as let the Biss know that you have suspicions that the such said coworker seems like he is obsessed with you and it makes you uncomfortable or however it makes you feel and see if your boss can do anything about it.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
Well sit down and talk to him seriously explain to him that you know he has a girlfriend and you have had this big crush on him and that these games or whatever it is he is doing is like teasing you really bad and you don't want to interrupt his relationship and all that and explain how you feel and be open to him and see what he says sometime guys like to lease and nag at a girl because that's how they express their feeling towards a person they like.
I know teasing is a very old het effective what of flirting so yeah.
Do you think he likes me for sure? Or am i Sidechick material or maybe not even romanticly interesting?
In my opinion I think he digs you and is j there's ted and might cheat but let him know that you don't want to split him and his current girlfriend apart but if he at some point in time wants to try something out then try something out but let him know that you don't want to be a side chick or a tease or anything because you are sensitive or whatever it is