People tend to read too much in simple situations, it's like we're programmed to expect the worst and some take it too far. I think the guy simply enjoys flirting with you, he gets a kick out of the attention.
I personally don't understand mens behaviour but on your end i would keep it light. How does he interact with other people at work? Is he simply like this with you?
He's flirting with you like crazy, but he's not really with you. Find a guy who is all yours. And tell him to cut out the shenanigans at work. This can't be good for your job performance or his.
Our job performances are actully gettimg better because we are competetive with eachother and he works a month or so longer at the office then me so its a little game between us. I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
So what should i do? I wanna pursue it on friendly basis since he is great to. be around; sitting a lot of shifts together, geting to know eachother and have fun. We go to the same gym 6 Times a week but we never see eachother there so i said why dont you text me when you te going? Could be fun. That was a few weeks ago. Wich he said sure. But never did. Now he wants me to text him those recipes.
We have or own inside jokes now, remeber stuff about eachother from previous convos, talk about more serious stuff like Politics pshycology, religion, health while being goofy at the same time. Also we had to work An 8 hout shift together yesterday and he only left my side 2 Times when he had to go to the bathroom; even with that he waited till i had to go aswell. Also we had the same breaks and he stayed with me aswell. Not going to his other coworker Friends or something.
At the end of the night i said that i is always so Nice to work together wich he said ; yeah always so much fun
I would say he is either lying about the girlfriend to try and make himself more attractive, or she really is there and you should not waste a moment of time on him. A lot of guys in today's world learn that if they come across as if they have other options girls respond more favorably. But again if there really is a girlfriend that's bad.
Talk to him clearly and then Try to get to know him. He might be lying about having a girlfriend just to make you jealous. So get under his skin and Then sort it out one on one
That I can also put with any of my friends having a close proximity. Speak to him and try to know what are his intentions. If you sense something fishy ignore him for the best
I have no way of knowing if I wants you as a sidechick or hookup/ is romantically interested. You will just have to sit him down and have a long talk about what you both want.
I don't think he just sees you as a friend or sister, though. He definitely has a crush on you.
Comunicate to him. FIst of all the main things are you and your dignity, remember that. . You want to have a healthy realtionship. Don't let him toy with you. Be the first option if you can't, then: cut it and don't let it grown. If he shows respect for you have fun.
... why was I asked to put in my opinion for this no brainer? Stay away. Unless you like the thrill... then you do you... just don't get surprised when shit hits the fan...
Hi, If he has girlfrend, please know whether he is serious or not about her before even thinking anything else. and what are his feelings towards you. May be he considers you his best friend. So don't assume anything by yourself, Make all things clear with him before things went worse
Its pretty clear he likes you, I say keep it as friends if you like his company but I highly do not recommend being more then friends while he is taken
Sounds like he's really into you and he's flirting. From what you said, you may want to steer clear of this guy. He's flirting with you more than he should especially with a girlfriend.
I really like him. Plus he is opening up to me ; him telling me he is bipolar and more "deep" stuff. I mean is he doing that to test me, scare me or awaken a form of sympathy for him?
Also we worked the exact same shift last Sunday for 8hours; same break and everything. He did not let me go out of his sight and only went to the bathroom when i needed to go.
We are gonna work the same shift this week again.. he probably is gonna repeat this behavior.
I am sccared to confront him since;1 if im reading at it all wrong om gonna make a fool of myself 2 i dont want to loose his company
It may feel great that you have a connection with him and he can connect with you. Ask him when he's planning on breaking up with his girlfriend. Just keep this in mind, if he's willing to do this when he has a girlfriend, he would probably do it to you if you were the girlfriend.
Yes they're getting played, value yourself more don't get full hearted doors an a****** no matter how church step in flowered and pretty the a****** looks it still smells like s***
Wait for him to make moves. Don't be the side hoe.. respect the relationship. That shows you're a classy respectable woman. If he doesn't choose you than he's not worth your time.
Honestly honey I don't know I got myself into a sticky situation with a friend that has a girlfriend, so im not the best person to ask that cuzI like hooking updoesnt matter if im the side chick or the main chick hookups with him are something that I enjoy and there is no romance included.
He may very well like you but he has a girlfriend - Don't get into anything unless he commits to you - If anything develops tell him he has to finish with his girlfriend first.
I'm personally done 100% when I find out they aren't available, no matter what they say or do. Don't even entertain the idea/possibility anymore unless he's single.
I'd say you need to have a serious talk with him. It sounds like he's just trying to get a side chick. He's got a girl already ask him to leave her for you or move on to someone that will be with you alone
Personally, if he is taken. I would leave him alone. Somebody who has no loyalty for their current partner and flirts with others, will only treat their next partner the same until they get bored again.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
Then it all boils down to the question of... Do you want to take the risk of being cheated on? There is a chance he may not cheat on you if you do end up dating him. But the chance is still there, once a cheat, always a cheat, is what people say.
Yeah exactly. I do not feel comfortable asking him;hey how is your gf? or does your girlfriend likes you being so busy? I just know they are together for a bout 3-4 months and i know the Guy 3 months.
Is it drifting between the two of us to him making a move to me, or is getting in a cheating/love triangle situation? Because i dont want that. At the same time i want him;faithfull and decent, you know?
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People tend to read too much in simple situations, it's like we're programmed to expect the worst and some take it too far. I think the guy simply enjoys flirting with you, he gets a kick out of the attention.
I personally don't understand mens behaviour but on your end i would keep it light. How does he interact with other people at work? Is he simply like this with you?
Well he is a very Social and likeable Guy he isn't like this with others. I observed and asked others about it in a subtle non stalker way
hmm, well he may like you but be careful because you don't know what his intentions may be.
He's flirting with you like crazy, but he's not really with you. Find a guy who is all yours. And tell him to cut out the shenanigans at work. This can't be good for your job performance or his.
Our job performances are actully gettimg better because we are competetive with eachother and he works a month or so longer at the office then me so its a little game between us.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
So what should i do? I wanna pursue it on friendly basis since he is great to. be around; sitting a lot of shifts together, geting to know eachother and have fun. We go to the same gym 6 Times a week but we never see eachother there so i said why dont you text me when you te going? Could be fun. That was a few weeks ago. Wich he said sure. But never did. Now he wants me to text him those recipes.
We have or own inside jokes now, remeber stuff about eachother from previous convos, talk about more serious stuff like Politics pshycology, religion, health while being goofy at the same time. Also we had to work An 8 hout shift together yesterday and he only left my side 2 Times when he had to go to the bathroom; even with that he waited till i had to go aswell. Also we had the same breaks and he stayed with me aswell. Not going to his other coworker Friends or something.
At the end of the night i said that i is always so Nice to work together wich he said ; yeah always so much fun
I would say he is either lying about the girlfriend to try and make himself more attractive, or she really is there and you should not waste a moment of time on him. A lot of guys in today's world learn that if they come across as if they have other options girls respond more favorably. But again if there really is a girlfriend that's bad.
No the girlfriend is really real. Her Facebook is full of pics of the two of them
Then I would say just don't pay any mind to him Beyond what's necessary for work
Is he gets worse might be worth it to get a different job
If* ...
Do you think he wants me as a hookup, a Sidechick or is actully romanticly interested in me? Or Just sees me as a friend or sister or something?
I would agree with Orion. Probably likes you.
I recommend asking him to be direct. Just ask point-blank whether he's wanting to be in a relationship with you or not
Talk to him clearly and then Try to get to know him. He might be lying about having a girlfriend just to make you jealous. So get under his skin and Then sort it out one on one
The girlfriend is really real her Facebook is full of pics of the two of them
That I can also put with any of my friends having a close proximity. Speak to him and try to know what are his intentions. If you sense something fishy ignore him for the best
He likes you. He wouldn't do that stuff if he didn't have at least a slight crush on you.
Do you think he wants me as a hookup, a Sidechick or is actully romanticly interested in me? Or Just sees me as a friend or sister or something?
I have no way of knowing if I wants you as a sidechick or hookup/ is romantically interested. You will just have to sit him down and have a long talk about what you both want.
I don't think he just sees you as a friend or sister, though. He definitely has a crush on you.
Comunicate to him.
FIst of all the main things are you and your dignity, remember that. . You want to have a healthy realtionship. Don't let him toy with you. Be the first option if you can't, then: cut it and don't let it grown. If he shows respect for you have fun.
... why was I asked to put in my opinion for this no brainer? Stay away. Unless you like the thrill... then you do you... just don't get surprised when shit hits the fan...
Hi,
If he has girlfrend, please know whether he is serious or not about her before even thinking anything else. and what are his feelings towards you. May be he considers you his best friend. So don't assume anything by yourself, Make all things clear with him before things went worse
Its pretty clear he likes you, I say keep it as friends if you like his company but I highly do not recommend being more then friends while he is taken
Sounds like he's really into you and he's flirting. From what you said, you may want to steer clear of this guy. He's flirting with you more than he should especially with a girlfriend.
I really like him. Plus he is opening up to me ; him telling me he is bipolar and more "deep" stuff. I mean is he doing that to test me, scare me or awaken a form of sympathy for him?
Also we worked the exact same shift last Sunday for 8hours; same break and everything. He did not let me go out of his sight and only went to the bathroom when i needed to go.
We are gonna work the same shift this week again.. he probably is gonna repeat this behavior.
I am sccared to confront him since;1 if im reading at it all wrong om gonna make a fool of myself 2 i dont want to loose his company
It may feel great that you have a connection with him and he can connect with you. Ask him when he's planning on breaking up with his girlfriend. Just keep this in mind, if he's willing to do this when he has a girlfriend, he would probably do it to you if you were the girlfriend.
I think if he felt he was really connected with you, he should have no reservations or hesitations with breaking up his girlfriend to pursue you.
Yes they're getting played, value yourself more don't get full hearted doors an a****** no matter how church step in flowered and pretty the a****** looks it still smells like s***
Wait for him to make moves. Don't be the side hoe.. respect the relationship. That shows you're a classy respectable woman. If he doesn't choose you than he's not worth your time.
Even taken men fall for someone else when that person catches their attention. doesn't matter if he's in a relationshio or not
Do you think he wants me as a hookup, a Sidechick or is actully romanticly interested in me? Or Just sees me as a friend or sister or something?
Honestly honey I don't know I got myself into a sticky situation with a friend that has a girlfriend, so im not the best person to ask that cuzI like hooking updoesnt matter if im the side chick or the main chick hookups with him are something that I enjoy and there is no romance included.
He may very well like you but he has a girlfriend - Don't get into anything unless he commits to you - If anything develops tell him he has to finish with his girlfriend first.
He's interested for sure but obviously he's not loyal, I'd ask him if he likes you just to confirm and to see what he says
If he was interested and wasn't loyal wouldn't he made his move already? Trying to Kiss me or text me a lot of something?
Well it shows he's still somewhat loyal but not completely loyal
You think its gonna change or that he is gonna try something?
He might try something, if you want to get with him i would start dropping hints like "I wish you didn't have a girlfriend so I could be with you"
I'm personally done 100% when I find out they aren't available, no matter what they say or do. Don't even entertain the idea/possibility anymore unless he's single.
I'd say you need to have a serious talk with him. It sounds like he's just trying to get a side chick. He's got a girl already ask him to leave her for you or move on to someone that will be with you alone
He is most definitely trying to hook up with you. Run don't walk away from this guy he is bad news.
Personally, if he is taken. I would leave him alone. Somebody who has no loyalty for their current partner and flirts with others, will only treat their next partner the same until they get bored again.
I have the biggest crush ever on him;if i would have a checklist of all the things i would want in a guy personality and lookwise he would check all the boxes. Only thing is is that he has a girlfriend and i respect that And i also know that if he would cheat on her wit me or break up easily with her to pursue me then what stops him from doing the same to the next girl who starts working at the office or a girl at the gym while he is in a relationship with me
Then it all boils down to the question of...
Do you want to take the risk of being cheated on?
There is a chance he may not cheat on you if you do end up dating him.
But the chance is still there, once a cheat, always a cheat, is what people say.
Yeah exactly. I do not feel comfortable asking him;hey how is your gf? or does your girlfriend likes you being so busy? I just know they are together for a bout 3-4 months and i know the Guy 3 months.
Is it drifting between the two of us to him making a move to me, or is getting in a cheating/love triangle situation?
Because i dont want that. At the same time i want him;faithfull and decent, you know?
I understand.