Are guys naturally possessive?

[Anonymous]

Yes , it’s in their nature to be a stalker

Yes but , only to an extent

No that’s unacceptable and toxic

No just when their in love

[freakyzeaky]

We have expectations of loyalty and sometimes there is some insecurity involved. It is heartbreaking when your partners begin to shown signs of straying and by that time it may already be been too late. I think only when a guy is left to wonder and there isn't enough communication is when he becomes possessive unless he is VERY insecure (some guys). If a woman doesn't show enough affection or initiates touch/sex sometimes, a guy will also wonder and may lose confidence and want to be more in control of the situation.

Ways to stop mild possessiveness and insecurity:

- Communication!
- Show affection
- Ask for favors
- Make compliments, especially when he meets or exceeds your expectations
- Put your guy first as much as possible without ignoring your own needs. You do this and he will put you first too. This builds enthusiasm
- Be trustworthy and try your best to keep your word
- Allow your guy to express his feelings and listen to him, just as you expect him to do for you. Do so without judgment, but discuss behaviors
- Support your guy in his decisions and expect the same from him as long as those decisions don't cross boundaries

Basically, if a guy trusts you and you give him a reason to trust you, then he shouldn't be possessive. Insecurity and possessiveness can come from past infidelity (cheated on), from the worry of not doing enough (not enough communication of what you want!), repeat suspicious behavior (flirting with other guys, dressing sexy when going out with the girls, long periods of not responding to texts/calls, etc.)

[BiGrEdDoG]

Possessive is a strong word to use. Naturally, probably not. It's a learned behavior, before or during a relationship's progression. It stems from an inability to cope with emotions. Possibly fear of loss of a partner, a partner's support. You can also argue that dealing with emotions rationally is not a natural behavior but one that is learned over time. So to summarize, if your partner is being possessive then talk about it. And if over time a compromise is not achieved then reconsider the relationship. (Not a very concrete answer, but human emotions are not concrete or easily navigated).

[BrittBratt2416]

Yes, men are a little bit territorial just like lions are in the wild. They want don't someone coming and taking their woman.

[Anna_Tigan]

I can't answer the poll because I think it really depends on the guy

[ChronicThinker]

It's not natural to be a stalker, unless you're a stalker.

[hahahmm]

If I call you, ‘my woman’ and act possessive it’s a compliment. It means that I trust you 100% and believe you are willingly ‘mine’. It does NOT mean I would force you to do anything or abuse you.
I also let you speak for yourself unless people are ganging up on you and I think you need/want backup.

If I’m totally into you it seems natural.

Yes, there are guys who take things to a different level.

[taleswapper]

Yes. It is our nature to protect and cherish things we consider ours. Those who don't are considered dysfunctional. However, that can express itself in various ways. My first wife (god rest her), was very sexual and enjoyed both sharing and being shared. So I indulged her. Had someone tried to TAKE her from me, however, it would have been very ugly indeed. More than one man went to the hospital for making the mistake of thinking she was a prize to be stolen, and not just at my hand.

[jpmoore89]

Yes but its not always a bad thing when we use our natural instinct to protect and love the woman in our life. But there is a difference between control and violence vs. love and protection.

[Browneye57]

You're confusing possesive with protective. They're two different things.
Guys are naturally protective. Let's not go with the 'all men are rapists' meme, emkay?

[PrincessPie]

No i don't think all guys are possessive.
There is plenty who aren't.

[Maik567]

It's in human nature to be a little bit possessive. But yeah I'd say that this is on average stronger with guys than girls.

[roman101]

Yes, we are. Esp if we're in love or care for real.

[Mahasamatman]

Only when their girlfriends tells them that they can. :)

[heavygear40k]

Depends on the person. I have yet to meet a female who doesn't want a mildly possessive partner. They say they don't but there actions say otherwise.

[GingerGuy]

I think most people are in general. Kind of human nature to some extent.

[Deformate]

I think its that if we want someone, need someone even, then we tend to fight to keep that person.

[Sha84]

all guys i been with are to some degree, my ex husband would chastise & embarrass me if i even talked to a male without him next to me

[hahahmm]

Ex husband for a reason, I see. Yeah, he was overboard

[Sha84]

i could only talk with girls when with him

[Agent]

I don't think possessiveness is a gender specific thing.

[smitdano]

I wouldn't say so, but male are genetically predispositioned to do anything to get a female, which in turn *could* cause them to be more likely a possessive person, depending on several factors

are they usually more possessive that women? For sure

[Kranjec]

Nah, that would be girls, as seen in them hoarding clothes and shoes.

[Sixgun77]

I think it's in everybody's nature to have a healthy amount of possessiveness.

[That2kKid21]

I mean, yeah... If we like the girl. Generally guys are more agressive/dominant... It's science

[Anonymous]

I can be if I really feel like she is someone I don’t want to lose

[ariadneR]

possessive no, protective yes.

[lord_chilled]

All men who love their women are possessive

[hahahmm]

Agree