Are guys naturally possessive?

[Anonymous]

Yes , it’s in their nature to be a stalker

Yes but , only to an extent

No that’s unacceptable and toxic

No just when their in love

[freakyzeaky]

We have expectations of loyalty and sometimes there is some insecurity involved. It is heartbreaking when your partners begin to shown signs of straying and by that time it may already be been too late. I think only when a guy is left to wonder and there isn't enough communication is when he becomes possessive unless he is VERY insecure (some guys). If a woman doesn't show enough affection or initiates touch/sex sometimes, a guy will also wonder and may lose confidence and want to be more in control of the situation.

Ways to stop mild possessiveness and insecurity:

- Communication!
- Show affection
- Ask for favors
- Make compliments, especially when he meets or exceeds your expectations
- Put your guy first as much as possible without ignoring your own needs. You do this and he will put you first too. This builds enthusiasm
- Be trustworthy and try your best to keep your word
- Allow your guy to express his feelings and listen to him, just as you expect him to do for you. Do so without judgment, but discuss behaviors
- Support your guy in his decisions and expect the same from him as long as those decisions don't cross boundaries

Basically, if a guy trusts you and you give him a reason to trust you, then he shouldn't be possessive. Insecurity and possessiveness can come from past infidelity (cheated on), from the worry of not doing enough (not enough communication of what you want!), repeat suspicious behavior (flirting with other guys, dressing sexy when going out with the girls, long periods of not responding to texts/calls, etc.)

[BiGrEdDoG]

Possessive is a strong word to use. Naturally, probably not. It's a learned behavior, before or during a relationship's progression. It stems from an inability to cope with emotions. Possibly fear of loss of a partner, a partner's support. You can also argue that dealing with emotions rationally is not a natural behavior but one that is learned over time. So to summarize, if your partner is being possessive then talk about it. And if over time a compromise is not achieved then reconsider the relationship. (Not a very concrete answer, but human emotions are not concrete or easily navigated).

[BrittBratt2416]

Yes, men are a little bit territorial just like lions are in the wild. They want don't someone coming and taking their woman.

[Anna_Tigan]

I can't answer the poll because I think it really depends on the guy

[ChronicThinker]

It's not natural to be a stalker, unless you're a stalker.

[hahahmm]

If I call you, ‘my woman’ and act possessive it’s a compliment. It means that I trust you 100% and believe you are willingly ‘mine’. It does NOT mean I would force you to do anything or abuse you.
I also let you speak for yourself unless people are ganging up on you and I think you need/want backup.

If I’m totally into you it seems natural.

Yes, there are guys who take things to a different level.

[taleswapper]

Yes. It is our nature to protect and cherish things we consider ours. Those who don't are considered dysfunctional. However, that can express itself in various ways. My first wife (god rest her), was very sexual and enjoyed both sharing and being shared. So I indulged her. Had someone tried to TAKE her from me, however, it would have been very ugly indeed. More than one man went to the hospital for making the mistake of thinking she was a prize to be stolen, and not just at my hand.

[jpmoore89]

Yes but its not always a bad thing when we use our natural instinct to protect and love the woman in our life. But there is a difference between control and violence vs. love and protection.

[Browneye57]

You're confusing possesive with protective. They're two different things.
Guys are naturally protective. Let's not go with the 'all men are rapists' meme, emkay?

[PrincessPie]

No i don't think all guys are possessive.
There is plenty who aren't.

[Maik567]

It's in human nature to be a little bit possessive. But yeah I'd say that this is on average stronger with guys than girls.

[roman101]

Yes, we are. Esp if we're in love or care for real.

[Mahasamatman]

Only when their girlfriends tells them that they can. :)

[heavygear40k]

Depends on the person. I have yet to meet a female who doesn't want a mildly possessive partner. They say they don't but there actions say otherwise.

[GingerGuy]

I think most people are in general. Kind of human nature to some extent.

[Deformate]

I think its that if we want someone, need someone even, then we tend to fight to keep that person.

[Sha84]

all guys i been with are to some degree, my ex husband would chastise & embarrass me if i even talked to a male without him next to me

[hahahmm]

Ex husband for a reason, I see. Yeah, he was overboard

[Sha84]

i could only talk with girls when with him

[Agent]

I don't think possessiveness is a gender specific thing.

[smitdano]

I wouldn't say so, but male are genetically predispositioned to do anything to get a female, which in turn *could* cause them to be more likely a possessive person, depending on several factors

are they usually more possessive that women? For sure

[Kranjec]

Nah, that would be girls, as seen in them hoarding clothes and shoes.

[Sixgun77]

I think it's in everybody's nature to have a healthy amount of possessiveness.

[That2kKid21]

I mean, yeah... If we like the girl. Generally guys are more agressive/dominant... It's science

[Anonymous]

I can be if I really feel like she is someone I don’t want to lose

[ariadneR]

possessive no, protective yes.

[lord_chilled]

All men who love their women are possessive

[hahahmm]

Agree

[CT_CD]

Yes but , only to an extent

[disgustingweebtrash]

Yes but , only to an extent

[cancan73]

Only if they're insecure and damaged

[Old_Geez]

I wouldn't say possessive, I would say protective.

[amel23]

Good ones r

[MrMysteryMan]

You don't know what love is then.

[amel23]

@MrMysteryMan I do know

[MrMysteryMan]

You know infatuation not love.

[amel23]

@MrMysteryMan my dad is possessive over me he cares about me treats me as his daughter don't want noone to hurt me won't be happy if I look up at soneonelse I guess he doesn't love me then but it will pass with time

[MrMysteryMan]

Possession isn't love. It's beyond a fear of loosing it. Love is different really. I'm sure he does love you, but he's controlling as well. Love to me means that you want them to grow and to have freedoms, since everyone wants freedom to live. It's almost like he doesn't think you can take care of yourself or you're not capable of it. That doesn't sound like someone who thinks to highly of someone else. Also, how are you going to find someone that you love if he doesn't want you to go near anyone? I don't want anyone I love to get hurt or to hurt me either, but if they loved me, they would know not to hurt me or would know that someone that truly feels loved feels still in control of themselves. I love my children, but I don't think it's fair if I told them, you can't be friends with that person because I forbid it. If they were hurting them, sure then I know I should step in and say something, but if they are good to them, and I get paranoid about them being hurt, that's my

[MrMysteryMan]

insecurity not theirs. They should be able to make their own decisions or how are they going to function when I'm not around or when they are alone and faced with their own decisions? Love helps people grow, not cage them in.

[amel23]

@MrMysteryMan being possessive is that u want them for itself doesn't mean u control them and tell them what to do or not do and its caging them being possessive its not about not trusting it loved ones its more about caring too much u want them for itself buy uvtrust they r smart enough to do what's right

[MrMysteryMan]

I don't think you know what the word possessive means then. A possession is a thing in someone's eyes. I will show a girl I love her and treat her like she means the world to me, but someone is never someone's to own. Then again, some relationships are like this. Owning means to me, you have no say because someone owns you and is calling the shots all the time because you are theirs to do whatever with. Maybe you care enough to trust in someone like this and maybe you feel more protected like this and maybe you feel justified that you chose this life, but to me, it seems like you're just part of the collection.
Maybe it's just my mentality. I hate feeling like I have no say in how I live my life. I hate feeling that I am controlled by someone else. It makes me feel like they don't trust me enough to have a brain of my own. I've lived my life up until now just fine, who are you to tell me how to live it? You can share my joys and pain and suggest what you feel is best, but let

[MrMysteryMan]

me decide if this is right for me. If it is sensible and loving, sure I'll go with it because I know it comes from the heart and not because you don't trust my decisions or fear of loosing me. If you're scared to loose me, than you don't trust how I feel for you. That's how it comes across to me.

[Anonymous]

Just when theyre in love

[Volvagia]

lmao voted A

[Aguamarina]

Yeah to an extent.

[Lumberman53]

Yeah generally

[Anonymous]

No they are not