Why won't he admit he likes me and how to get him to admit it?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy and we've been texting a lot lately. He did not seem scared at the beginning, but my close group of friends found out about this and started asking him questions. I know they were just excited and joking around, but after my friends got involved he suddenly backed off and went from texting everyday to almost nothing. One day last week he suddenly texted my friend (he knows im close with her) and said 'does she think i like her? Bc i dont' and im so confused now bc why would he act so interested then suddenly deny everything. I really am sure he was interested bc a guy friend of mine was talking to him and this topic about me came up and he said 'yea i want to get to know her better, and i guess I don't know yet if i like her or not but i think its only bc we dont know each other that well'. Why did it go from i want to get to know her better to i dont like her at all? What do i do now bc i really like him and i feel like he's scared off and now we barely interact.

[Anonymous]

If a guy texts you a lot it can mean only two things. 1. He really likes you. 2. He really likes you as a friend.

Now don't get me wrong, being in the friendzone of a guy in my experience and the experience of the people around me, is like a buffer zone. If you give them a lot of attention and you'll be on the back of their minds all the time. Then stop. Stop the attention. It'll drive them crazy. But don't overdo it. Respond to their texts but after some time. Hang out with other people. Then when they finally start to get flirty with you flirt back but not a lot. Give it a week. A 100% this strategy will work with most guys. Guys might deny it. But this is how it works. Most men are boys at heart. They want what they can't have, but will not even bash an eyelid at something that's staring them right in their face.

[XanBand]

Ik you threw in the denying part as a failsafe for someone trying to oppose your opinion but you're definitely wrong dude. The hard to get act doesn't work on HUGE amount of people. In fact it makes things worse in many cases as it causes the person to believe you're no longer into them so instead of chasing you they just give up. I would know, playing hard to get never has and never will work on me and I personally know other people that it won't work on. Playing hard to get is very risky and I'm even willing to say it won't work on most guys

[Asker]

Im trying to do exactly that right now, but the thing is he doesn't even text me these days so i dont technically have something to work with. Im scared that if he doesn't text and i dont text either ( bc im trying to stop the attention), that in the end we both dont communicate and our relationship turns more distant. So now im stuck and I don't know what to do?

[Opinion Owner]

@XanBand Hi! Difference between playing hard to get and giving them less attention :))

[XanBand]

There is practically definitely no difference. Playing hard to get means you try to make yourself appear more interesting by giving just a little bit to entice them into chasing you. Which is almost exactly what "If you give the a lot of attention and you'll be on the back of their minds all the time. Then stop. Stop the attention" is. Not pure definition playing hard to get, but still get their attention, and then make yourself inaccessible. Same principle of playing hard to get. Only difference what you suggest is way more convoluted and discouraging to the person she's going to attempt it on. It's not as likely to work as you think and it's definitely risking setting this girl up for failure.

[Asker]

@XanBand wait so should i talk to him more instead? I just feel uncomfortable sometimes bc i feel like he doesn't wanna text me these days. I texted him a few days ago and he replied and all but didn't seem to want to keep the convo going. He replied later on with a few emojis only. He used to never do this and he used to ask me even more questions instead. Is it a bad idea to try texting him again?

[XanBand]

Why all the texting? Can you talk to him in person? I just recommend getting it over with and being straight up with him. This is why dating is so hard for people. Instead of just taking occasional losses, people have such a fear of rejection they end up beating around the bush for so long and everything just goes haywire. Everyone wants signs and signals but really the best way to go about it is to just ask. I know rejection sucks but honestly. If it works out, that's perfect. If it doesn't, then it wouldn't have regardless of what you do. But if you want answer, just being out with it is the way to go

[Asker]

@XanBand we text so much bc we dont get to see each other in person that often. We go to different schools and the only times that we got to meet up was when he asked to meet up a few weeks ago (before my friends got involved). its so hard to keep in touch through texting but thats how our relationship has evolved so far. Should i straight up ask to meet up even though we haven't even talked in about a week? Our last convo was the one i was talking about above.

[XanBand]

Yes that is a great idea. If he agrees, there's a chance he's still interested. If not it's fair to assume that he probably doesn't. Either way it's better than sitting idly by. Sometimes you just gotta take the initiative yourself because others won't want to

[XanBand]

Your "friends" screwed you over by shoving their noses into it. He feels pressured that they're asking and he'd probably rather just not be with you and have everyone assume he isn't into you instead of getting rejected and having all your friends know about it cuz at this point he doesn't know you like him. Only thing you can really do is ask him out because it's unlikely he will ask you out now

[Noollab]

He got scared, felt pressured. Your friends fucked up, tell them to mind their own businesses.

[Asker]

How can i make him feel not pressured anymore? Is it possible to go back to how it was before my friends got involved and scared him away?

[Noollab]

Give him time, there's not much else you can do.

[breckshreck]

Getting to know you better is guys code or seeing how you are. Testing the waters. Then will go from there. Its like giving a new food a try. Like say you never had pizza getting to know you is like eating the pizza some hate it some like it

[tonoxzero]

Probably he want that you say you love him. And then he admit. But i don't really know.