What do girls think of guys crying?

[kriskiss]

If a guy cries a little when confessing his feelings to a girl or cries if she rejects him does she think that he's a wussy or that its kinda touching?

[Anonymous]

There is only two instances where I can recall guys crying.

1. Our youth minister was speaking to us about the time that his wife got cancer and how he struggled emotionally/spiritually. It was THE most touching, emotional, power speech ever. He was tearing up and could barely speak. and a few guys in our youth group were wiping away tears.

2. Same trip as above...the seniors were giving their speeches (memories, advice, goodbye, love you all, going to miss this group, etc). and all us girls were already crying by like the 3rd one. well, the very last one to go up was this guy...a "tough guy" who makes everyone laugh, most popular guy, the annoying little brother type, etc. everyone loves him. anyways, he gets up and cracks a few jokes & shares a couple funny memories. you can tell he's about to move onto advice/the end of his speech, and he just stops. its dead silence for like 30 seconds. and he just starts crying, at a loss for words. its like this for another minute (and now every single person in the room is crying). and he just goes on to say the sweetest things about the group & how its like a family, etc. afterward, he got a hug from pretty much every girl in there. it was one of the most touching things ever.  

[ritaisle]

I would be really touched that I cared so much about me that he actually cried. But I have a hard time seeing men cry. I've seen my dad cry twice in my life & I cried from seeing it. Men don't cry that often, so when they do, you know they're really hurt. But happy tears are nothing to hide. She might say "don't cry" (which is normal) but she doesn't think your a wuss. In actuality, she'll think she's lucky to have someone who loves her so much. Also, she'll think you trust her, and be glad you opened up to her.

[Birdsofprey]

I'd think it was sweet if he said he loved me & cried, but please don't cry if a girl says no. I would feel so bad, I feel pressured to say yes even if I wasn't interested. As a rule, women know they shouldn't cry when fighting with men or whatever because this makes men feel bad. It is okay to cry when you're happy, but you make people feel bad if you're sad. I know rejection is hard, I've gone through it to. But I wait till I'm alone & then let it out. I can't punish a guy for not liking me, you know?

[alltheabove1212]

Being honest, I cried the first time I got rejected by a girl, but not to her face. I was by myself in my room.

Man or women, we cry because we are HUMAN and have emotions. But men are traditionally the "rock" in the relationship. Women generally lean on them when times get tough and expect him to lead the relationship. Again, "traditionally".

This kid that lives next to me cries all the time when he gets drunk and it's really annoying. It's over stupid little things too. ManAmongBoys is pretty accurate with his list of when to cry.

[ManAmongBoys]

Guys cry. Hwever, I do believe that crying for any old reason is a bit wimpy. Crying because a girl rejects you is... well... if that's your thing, I guess. (I'll get hammered for this, I know.) Reasons men cry:

1) Death of a loved one/family member, friend, or pet

2) Birth of his child

3) His wedding

4) Death of innocents or large-scale tragedy (9/11 comes to mind)

5) Hero sacrifice (losing life to save another)

I won't mock guys who cry at other times, but I will think "grow some stones" to myself.

[cacapisu]

I only cried 2 times in front of ex

1. 2 days after my grandma who raised me since I was 1 year old died in my arms

2. After I saw the movie "Jeux des enfants", a love story, I felt lame for this one :(

[Mesonfielde]

I asked my sister about this once. She said: Girls expect guys not to cry at all... until they are together with them. Then it's like "aw, express your emotions only to me". Technically the expression of emotions gets a high value by it being suppressed at all times, and the girl gets it all to herself.

[Skeptic]

Good man!

That's probably also why women start to feel "cheated on" when you start sharing your emotions with another lady friend.

[InLoveGirl04]

I would think it's cute when a guy cries, and that's because guys barely cry in front of anyone just to seem tough. If a guy cries alittle when confessing his feelings...it would be way too cute since I would know he really means it and he really loves me. If he cries when rejected, I would feel bad because I would know he really loved me, but it wouldn't be cute. Also, it would seem kind of gay if a guy cries all the time--I have a guy friend like that, he cries for EVERYTHING, so it's kind of girly of him. But I still love him ;P

[nickel]

It depends on the situation. If you are crying over an animal dying or your girlfriend breaking up with you then it breaks my heart and I want to hug you and make everyting better.

If you are crying because your team lost the football game or because they are out of your favorite coffee at Starbucks, I am going to walk away and possibly mock you.

This sounds mean, and I know sometimes your dog will die and you'll be broken up with by your girlfriend of seven years and then you'll be watching football and your team will lose the superbowl by one point and you cry at that point just because everything that day has been sh*t; but if I don't know about the first two parts, I'll assume you're just super into football and that you are kinda a wuss.

[chelce12]

A man can cry while confessing his feelings; sure why not. It means that he has actually put some thought into this. But to me, it doesn't make a big difference. I will get the same meaning out of if as if he said it without crying. You don't have to cry while telling your feelings, but if you do- more power to you.

On the other hand, if a guy starts crying after rejection, I would think it a little weird. If we're talking about rejection after asking a girl out, I say move on. If she doesn't take the time to even consider you, then you shoudn't even consider crying for it. You have lost nothing and there are other better choices for you out there. So in that aspect, no it is not flattering if a guy cries after rejection.

[MisSLaUrEnCaiT]

seeing as it's really really rare for guys to let themselves cry these days because society has said men are supposed to be big and strong and never show weakness... it's very touching. it lets the girl know that the guy is really serious. and that whatever he's saying obviously means a lot to him.. it's also sweet because it shows the guy has a soft side.. and isn't scared to cry in front of his girl

but all the time... well that's kind of a sissy.. lol

[Kasady]

I think seeing a guy cry is the saddest thing in the world! I don't think it makes them look like a wuss. It makes me want to hug them forever! lol but I do think it is touching and adorable when a guy feels comfortable enough to cry in front of someone else.

[Billlewis]

Would you like to see another guy beat his bare ass until he's in tears? I used to serve a woman who loved it when her boyfriend would beat my bare bottom so hard that I'd be crying, yelping and squealing like a little girl when he was finished.

[scfranci]

It depends., to be honest some would, but others would actually find it enduring. I think it takes a real man to admit his feeling rahter that just ignore them. I personally find it enduring. It would also depend on the situation. How long and how well you know/knew this girl.

I'l admit that, that happened to me once, I felt strange about it. It was this guy that I dated the longest.. We're still really good friends though.

[Skeptic]

I think you mean 'endearing'?

[scfranci]

lol yeah that's what I meant

[mab5275]

It depends on the girl... And on the guy. Some girls are TOTALLY against it. Some think it's sweet. Me on the other hand. If it's a guy who annoys me or something... The crying is just like "come on, get over your self, be a man" but if its someone I care about, "ill be really glad they got their feelings out."

BUT

If a guy cries over everything. R. U. N. !

[Mesonfielde]

Man that's so overcomplicated. Your acceptance of crying is based on your bias towards the person. :O

[snowangle]

For some reason, every time I've seen my boyfriend (now ex) cry, I would get annoyed with it. Maybe it's because he did it a rather lot. Maybe it's because he did it so easily without trying to stop it. Maybe it's because we'd be watching a movie and he's bawling his eyes out and I'm just sitting there unaffected. I don't know. But when I've seen other guys cry, I thought it was cute and it made me want to give them big hugs.

I would say, at least TRY not to cry.

[miki94]

It is OK if the tears have a good reason behind them.

Sometimes confession is not one. A break up might be.

It is normal for a man to cry. But weak people who pity themselves all the time and even cry just for the sake of crying annoy the hell out of me. It doesn't matter if they are boy or a girl.

Tears do you no good but emotional expression and relaxation for the sake of mental stability. There is always too much, and "too much" is same for both men and women.

[Anonymous]

For thoes reasons, a REAL wuss, sorry. My boyfriend cried once, silent tears of frustration because his family was going through financial troubles and he felt powerless to help them, no matter how hard he worked, he felt trapped and couldn't see any way out. Now that is not only cute, but sexy. He eventually worked like a bastard out of his predicament. and I'm so proud of him

[cacapisu]

I only cried 2 times in front of ex

1. 2 days after my grandma who raised me since I was 1 year old died in my arms ( tried to keep it in me more but couldn't)

2. After I saw the movie "Jeux des enfants", a love story, I felt lame for this one... :(

[ravenlily318]

Kind of touching. It's so rare to see men emotional so when it does happen, it's cute and reminds me that hey, he's a real person after all, not a robot.

Of course when a guy (or girl) cries too much, well... that's not that great.

[Shea25]

its cute attractive and sexy, I hv neva seen my boyfriend cry, he always holds it in, but it would be so sweet if I did

[friedaboisselle]

I mean, if he's not a total crybaby then crying is perfectly fine. It's human.

A lot of girls are relieved when they see guys cry (well, I am) because it's a real change from this macho persona most guys are trying to bring across.

[sinful1620]

It rrreeeeaaaaaallllyyyy depends on the situation. If it's appropriate, most girls love it because they get to see the guy with his defenses down. If it's inappropriate, the guy's just whiny and weak.

[Chooo]

I'd prefer a boyfriend who has that many feelings for me he'll even cry about me if something bad happened or be comfortable enough to cry in front of me.

My ex had done this before, and it made me feel good that he wanted me to be there for him and it felt genuine because we had been with each other for a long time.

It wouldn't be very appealing to see a guy cry only after a few months of going out, too often, over silly things, or if he cries to different people.

[sweetie3121]

To me If a Guy cries it sweet depending what they are crying about if they are crying about getting in trouble by a teacher or by parents then that a little weird. He can't just cry over everything may be just somethings. But if he cries cause he totally head over heels inlove with me then I would think that its so sweet :D

[SunDevil2010]

I never think less of a guy because he cried. My ex creied when I broke up with him for cheating on me, and I almost died. It showed he had a heart and really truly cared...

[SAR2be]

it depends. it is cool if he does everynow and then. but I dated a guy who cried more than me. I found myself asking, "who is the girl?" lol! but na it shows you have a heart!

[valvade]

When a dude cries it scares the hell outta me. I have no idea how to comfort a crying adult man.. Not that I think it makes them less of a man.. I just have clue how I'm s'posed to act.

[Anonymous]

it depends... whn my boyfriend cries I think its adorable :) but that's cause he doesn't cry alllll the time and not over little things. he cries whn he tells me his feelings (or tears up) but I think its cute :)

[castle]

when you cry it's a sign you are alive.

i have no problem seeing a man cry. he expressing a deep emotion men are taught to hide away.

[iShine]

A guy who cries shows a soft side that is VERY attractive.

[chriiistelkelly]

I think it's attractive when a guy can express his feelings, and not try to be a 'tough' guy. everyone has feelings, it's okay to show them <3

[tjisnumbaone]

a guy crying in a relationship is acceptable for goodbyes for a long period of time, when something really meaningful happens, breaking up, etc.

[acubed25]

I don't look down on a guy for crying or think him less of a man. But if he cries over silly things and is constantly emotional I'd ghet annoyed.

[AngelLove]

I think the guys that can open up to a girl like that are really sweet and theirs nothing wrong with that. It show a lot about a guy in a good way.

[lananoel]

kinda touching..women including myself are a little over emotional at times.. it's comforting to know that men are too.. makes me feel better.

[doudouchka]

i think that's so cuuuuuuuuuuute I love the sensible boy

[Cream]

truth is, I would attack him with love on the spot. its so cute

[jagebabe36]

I would love it if my guy cried. Its something I am not against at all.

[enlightenment]

if he cries when getting rejected, lame! But otherwise its usually touching.

[starlight124]

it's touching, it's okay for guys to show their emotions.

[Amelia17]

I think that this is sweet , I appreciate when guys show there sensitive side once in a while! :)

[deej13]

deffinetly touching. but don't run away, just try and wipe your tears away.

[-StillWater-]

Touchy...and that she really must mean a lot to him.

[IHateMeganFox]

I like it, I cry all the time so I would make me feel like less of a baby. :)

[socaalgirl]

Don't be a baby back bitch about it. We want a man, not another girlfriend.

[Hanosh]

f I c a man crying I would cry on him! because I know its painful otherwise y would a man cry?!

[brunettebelle]

There is nothing wrong with that, just if you cry at everything that might be a problem.

[lady_b89]

touching,cute. :) esp.when its from the heart. no fake crying

[darlingkate]

It totally depends...if a guy that is usually an alpha male cries, I'll be totally touched by it. But if a guy's cryin all the time, I'll definitely think he's lame...

[Anonymous]

I haven't cried all my life. I don't know why I tried to cry for a lot of times ,but no tears at all even if I fight.

any solution?

[Marblez019]

I like it when I know that my guy can be open and he isn't affraid to cry in front of me I think that it shows that he Is real and he has a heart and I like that

[Libes]

It depends on the situation and the guy.

[lilsgeru]

i would find it touching and cute :)

[Anonymous]

it's touching and sweet that he has a soft side

[Anonymous]

for those reasons? Wuss.

[Anonymous]

sounds like a bitch to me

[Anonymous]

Human or playing my mind. Could be either.

[socalbabe714]

only a real man cries

[Anonymous]

don't think much of it, it happens

[confused666]

touching!

[kaymissboss]

I like it when men cry:)

[cutekid]

Probably both..

[Anonymous]

Touching,sweet