My girlfriend is not an emotional person. She still cries in front of me about once per month. It's fantastic. Hear me out. Since she is very masculine in her emotions most of the time "Nothing bothers me; everything is a joke", seeing her cry and show real human emotion is very valuable to me, and me being there to comfort her bonds us much more powerfully.
Now, crying all the time at the drop of a hat, that shows too much vulnerability, to me. Like will you be able to have my back if shit goes down? Or will you just be crying in the corner, unable to focus on anything but yourself?
A moderate amount of crying is probably acceptable, from my perspective. But I think it's important for people to be able to squash their smaller emotions and handle them themselves, so that they can be a support structure to their loved ones when they are in true need of it. But that's only my view.
For me, in my partnership, I am typically the rock. I endure. But, my mom died recently, and, well, that shit is fucking hard to squash on your own. My girlfriend left for a week, so I'm by myself, but when she was here she was an amazing support to me. She didn't cry and break down, even though she loved my mom, too. She laughed and joked and helped pull me out of an abyss, while I had to put on a show of strength for the rest of my family.
All this to say is it's fine for you to cry, as long as you can still be relied upon in a crisis. Because crisis will come, and if you can't help, you're just dead weight. In my perspective.
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It's a complete pain in the arse TBH. We never know what to do, it's uncomfortable and awkward. It doesn't look great and there's an almost inevitable 30-60 minute conversation pending about whatever it is that she's crying about, and a near guarantee that they crying will resume another 3-4 times while you're trying to look like you're not bored out of your skull and try provide an ear to listen to. This is why women have best female friends, and this is exactly what they excel at. Men are crap at dealing with emotions, and worse still with tears. It's not personal, it's hormones and societal pressure that makes us 'not able' to cry in public, so the only thing worse than a crying girlfriend/female friend is a a crying male friend. Obviously I'm speaking for myself, but a lot of my (male) friends feel the same way and it's just not something I'm emotionally equipped to deal with. It's a shortcoming I/we have but if something makes you feel uncomfortable, you can't help that...
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All of that is perfectly fine! We just want to fix whatever’s wrong for the most part, or at least support you. Now some women cry to get their way or try to save a relationship or just cry for no reason for attention and that annoys both men and women, but especially men because then the whole room looks at the guy as an asshole and that gets really old really fast. But some girls cry more often than others, and some cry a whole lot. And its whatever the guy can tolerate honestly.
some guys cry more than others and some guys cry a lot (for a guy) and even the other girls are like OMG are you on your period or something? Toughen up sally lol. So when the girl ends up having a guy as a cryer y’all feel the same way we doWhen a girl cries in my presence, I take it as a sign that she trusts me. I feel honored that she feels comfortable to be herself with me.
Well if he has a heart and he's compassionate and he cares about you whatsoever he better be there for you and hold you and listen to you and let you have a shoulder to cry on and then and only then if he has any advice through experience and compassion and loving and caring about you should you give you his best advice and knowledge and wisdom is always stand by your side and help you through it
Honestly if we have time to think about it I agree with most of the answers above, but instinctually men are usually more result-oriented. Seeing someone we care about cry, we want to 'solve' it. Its only when the brain catches up that we realize sometimes its best to not solve but support
"Once I was talking to my guy friend about my loneliness & tough past, I started to cry."
Gentlemen, this is one more example of why you don't hang around in the friend zone. Not to be a dick, but the role of emotional tampon isn't going to be a rewarding one.girls are kinda expected to cry it's a stereotype, now wait until a guy cries in front of another guy, that's besties lol
I'd comfort her and hope a tear lands on my cheek and then it slowly drips down to my lips and if i taste it i'll really feel her loneliness and live the moment!
Sometimes it's understood when you can't really control your emotions but then if it becomes habit then she need to consult a professional.
And I can't see anyone crying.it all depends on why she’s crying
if she’s sad over something legitimate then that’s unfortunate and I want to be there to support her and what not
but if she’s just being some emotional twat who’s crying over some dumb childish shit and I got no time for it. act like an adult.Usually, we feel like we want to comfort you in some way. The only time that's not the case is when we can tell that the crying is used to manipulate us.
I think most guys have a difficult time recognizing their own feelings. Therefore they spend a lot of time suppressing them. So, most men would probably not feel comfortable or maybe not understand why you were crying.
There is nothing wrong with crying, free expression of emotions around someone is usually a strong sign of trust
It’s a vulnerability guys take advantage of or they get confused and ghost you.
Learned my lesson. Never again.I honestly wouldn't know what to do with a girl crying if we were not on a physical contact basis. Because I'm not that great with words and I'm not good with comforting people. But if we WERE on physical contact basis, then I would hug her.
I either sit there awkwardly, having no fucking clue of what to do... Or i start crying with her...
I'd be flattered they trusted me to show their emotions to me and felt safe doing so, my BFF broke down a bit a while ago, so I just sideways hugged them while they let it all out,,,
It just makes me go "Awwww" and I want to hug her so bad. If the emotions are intense, crying can even become contagious as I tend to be very empathetic so I can start crying too.
A girl I might listen to and hug. A guy I will wonder when someone or something will come along and save me from an awkward situation or look for a reason to be elsewhere.
I have a soft spot for girls crying as long as it’s not used as a manipulative tactic. I would try to make them feel better in any way I can. I’m a very caring and loving person when it comes to my good friends and my significant others being sad
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