I think a lot of guys want to help a girl in distress but the one time where I have found guys are not responsive if you are crying about something they did to you that makes them feel guilty. If they disagree with you being upset or feel badly but, well, it is too late to take back what they did, they can respond in multiple different ways. I actually had a boyfriend who got turned on by me crying. He would try to resolve it as far as he felt he could (he was very focused on his own needs) but afterward he would be extremely turned on.
From my experience most guys just ignore it.. But this one guy I know seen me one day and thought I was crying, it was a cold day and when its cold my eyes tear up. He walked up to me wiped the tears off my face and asked why I was crying. I explained to him that it was only the cold but from the way he looked at me I know he didn't believe me. With there being nothing he could do he just smiled, told me he would see me later and walked away. So I guess it depends on the type of guy that he is.
I think no matter what a girl cries about, she should be comforted. Why you ask? Just because you don't understand why she is crying over something that may be stupid. It's might not be stupid to her. I had a friend who didn't understand why I was crying over something, but it made sense in my head. It was logical to ME, but he didn't logically understand why I would get emotional over it. So, guys, please, if a girl cries, comfort her even if it doesn't make sense.
Guys hate to see "Women" cry because it means there is a problem that we might cannot fix and we don't like problems we can't fix. We try to fix it as best as we can. Yes it depends on the person. We don't care about girls crying because they are normally just immature and cry about everything. It's the mature ladies that bother us when they cry. They cry for a purpose and many times we are the reason they are crying (and we know it). Seeing women cry sucks and no real guy ever enjoys seeing it.
Sincerely
Old School D.
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Depends on how we feel about the woman. If we care for her, even if she doesn't care for us, our hearts seems to break at the sight of hers. If we don't care for her though we will either just walk away or try to comfort her. Depends on the guy at that point. Because guys are taught our whole lives not to cry and that crying is a weakness. Of course as men we know that emotional pain sometimes hurts to bad not to cry. And we like to be there for you. Nothing makes a pain worse than knowing that you have to face it alone. I think we can all agree on that.
makes me feel guilty even if I had nothing to do with it, depending on the girl depends on my reaction I'll either pretend I didn't see it or just sit next to her maybe put an arm on her shoulder but just be quiet.
if I find out a guy made her cry I beat the sh*t outa him, if there cryin about somethin else I'll just listen, not really anything to explain any questions about what I said... well comment ha ha OK hope this helps a lil
I'm cool with it, but there definitely are two exceptions. One she has to be honest about when she is just crying about crying the importance if the cry. If it is because of a commercial with puppies, kittens, bunnies and babies in it, expecting someone to drop everything to comfort you is not attractive. Now does this mean that if we are staying and watching TV, or a movie that I won't comfort her, no because I am spending time with her and will give her a hug, etc. Secondly out of manipulation is not acceptable. Otherwise comforting a girl when she cries actually makes me feel more intimate and connected with her.
If its some random girl then, you are left wondering. Why the hell is she crying? Sometimes I feel the urge to ask them why they are upset, but don't really care about hearing a sob story.
If its somebody I know then, you have to at least be willing to listen to them and try to help them out any way you can. Nothing out of the ordinary.
It depends on who she is. If it's just that dunkin donuts lady, we feel both bad and curious as to what it's about. But i'll focus on If it's our girlfriend/wife.
So anyway, we feel weak, like we can't protect them, and i'm sure you know men hate feeling weak. So we do our best to "protect" them by hugging them, wiping their tears off, etc.
Even if they're the type that cry all the time, we feel the need to "defend" them, because while it might be common, it's still a form of pain, and we can never let our partner be hurt.
There is one exception though: Needy cryers. These are the women that cry to end an argument in their favor, for they know the power of the tear on males. Eventually, we'll figure it out and just get annoyed by it, but I guarantee you it will still work because, well i'll say it like this: While superman may hate kryptonite, he's still weak to it.
Anyway, hope I helped.
Oh man. When I see a girl cry (even if I hate her) I feel instant sadness and the need to cheer her up. That doesn't mean I do. Not gonna interfere if I don't know her. Not my business.
It makes me want to cry :'( But it depends on the guy, if they're emotional like me then it will make them sad. I'm not sure how other kinds of guys react to it though.
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I'm not very empathetic. I'd be curious about what they were crying about. I would need to know this before I could determine how to feel about it, or whether I was to feel anything at all.
If its no one I know then I don't interfere. Seeing anyone cry breaks me down but at the very least if it looks like she's about to off herself I would ask what the problem is.
It depends. Sometimes my husband is like whatever she's just being her then if he knows it's real cry he comforts me or gets annoyed
I sometimes think that they get scared and ask you what's wrong so you stop crying and talk to them... That way they weren't the ones who hurt you
Me: I would go 2 her and ask what she's crying about.. and try 2 help her.. I hate it because it makes me feel bad.. but I like it because it's a chance 2 help som1.. I'd never miss that chance !
Usually if a girl is crying a guy will most likely go to her and comfort her by asking her what is wrong. Not ALL guys will do this. Some guys will do this after a girl has just been dumped as a way of getting her to be his.
I'd probably stare at her like she's weird or something, then continue about my day normally.
i do nothing, I feell nothing
it makes you feel awful seeing girls cry
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