Well here's the thing, I really like spending time with my boyfriend, I wish I could spend a couple days a week with him. But he is a workaholic like you are asking about. I'll see him usually for a couple hours once a week and sleep over because I come over later after work usually or if I don't have work he'll invite me over later anyways because he is always working. He tries not to anymore, but he usually works while I am there as well. He is only a workaholic in this stage of his life because he is still creating his buisness and it is getting off the ground now.
I love him so much that I told him that I'm not leaving him for anything petty like him needing to work to support himself and get the buisness going and successful.
But I can't say it hasn't been hard on me. Sometimes I'll cry when I haven't seen him in a while because I'll just miss him so much and it'll feel like he doesn't want to see me, which he tells me isn't true because he is trying not to distract himself and give into things he likes too much. Which I understand because he has no impulse control in all honesty so once I'm there he'll want to either spend time with me or try and work while talking to me, he can't always give his full attention which makes me sad as well.
Sometimes I'll even leave his place feeling so sad and lonely even though I had just seen him because I know it will be a while until I see him again. And its not easy to just call him on the phone or have a conversation over text with him since he is always making phone calls and if he isn't its on do not disturb so he can stay focused. He is a crazy guy with big dreams and full of ambition which has always been my favorite quality about him, so I know giving up on us would crush me and leave me full of regret. I know it seems like i'm unhappy, but in reality I love him so much I couldn't imagine being with someone else. I know in the future we'll live together and I don't need attention 24/7 Im a very social person and I like to hang out with others so giving him time to work isn't a problem for me. Just constant long blocks of time without seeing him is hard on me. I am a person who misses people I love very strongly. Not like seperation anxiety, but just a longing for them I guess.
Anyways, it think its just important for the guy no matter how much he is working to show affection when he can and to remind her that you love her and that you appreciate everything she does. It helps a lot.
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No, that actually one of the reasons that lead to divorce. Work is important but when it starts to cut into your family life and marriage, then it's time to take a step back. No job should be more important than family, that's why there's so many disfunctional families cause one or both parents are constantly working, stressed over working, and end up forgetting what important: family. When your wife children start seeing you like a stranger and not husband/father... it's time to change something.
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I think it depends on the guy. My boyfriend works hard, his career is important to him and I respect that. He’s in a very competitive industry so the hours are long but he still makes plenty of time for me and I never feel like I come second to his work.
My boyfriend does that but not really because he's a workaholic, I think companies just demand too much from their employees. I would like him to get home earlier in the evening but there's nothing to do about it, I'm not going to interfere with his job.
If he really is busy, then I see no problem with it, but I would want some attention for myself. However the time apart does make me miss someone that much more.
For me its okay as long as he know how to manage 'his' time & 'our' time
Actually I want my guy to be workaholic, It is very attractive, when he is invested in his job and loves doing it.
It’s better they’re into their work than going out and meeting other girls tbh
No, used to date this guy. Still getting to know each other and he kept forgetting we have a date. It's like he works 7 days a week.
No its not. Its a huge turn off for me.
I would worry about his health.
no lol
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