Is this normal with friends with benefits, please help me understand?

[Anonymous]

So, I’ve been friends with benefits with a guy for almost three years. We’ve gotten through rough patches (arguing and fighting) but we still somehow are still friends with benefits. I care about him and he says he cares about me. I definitely fell for this guy.. come on three years of hooking up and hanging out. We went through a phase were we didn’t speak for almost 6 months because he lied to me (about sleeping with other people after showing him proof I knew he was lying to me even after begging him to tell me the truth which is all I cared about for my own health) so much and I turned into the crazy obsessive chick, but he came back to reconcile and apologized. Anyway he introduces me to his best friends, roommate and let’s me sleep over and stay at his place when he’s not there, he only asks me to take his dog out if I get a chance. My confusion is that I’m okay at this point being friends with benefits (after having my heart destroyed and realizing we’re probably better as fwb) but every now and then he gets very intimate and tells me he wishes he could give me more but he’s terrible at it. I’m a person that once I care about someone it’s hard to stop caring, and yes I do love this guy but try not to show it too much. Is this guy just using me or does he just have horrible commitment issues and genuinely likes me? It’s confusing. Help please!

[Flike]

You are doing yourself a huge disservice. It's obvious that you love him, even if you won't admit it to him, us, or yourself. A true friends with benefits is somebody you fuck, and literally don't think about them or care about what or who they are doing in the meantime. In my opinion, you should take steps to make it official, or do the harder move and cut ties from this toxic situation and relationship as it stands because it's only causing you pain, and will continue to emotionally harm and confuse you as it's current course stands.

[urvashi7]

Maybe he is likes u but u guys started as friends with benefits so u can't expect relationship from him.