Friends with benefits? I’m so confused?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been friends with this guy for a long time. It was strictly platonic. Some flirting here and there over the years.
I know I have a good personality as I have a lot of friends but was overweight. we got close a year ago and I told him I liked him.
I really at that time was getting vibes that he liked me too but, He politely rejected me. But was still very nice and kind.
I started to work on myself a year later and I guess he started to notice because he kissed me. And we hooked up and it honestly was like intense for both of us because we knew each other on a deep level.

He asked me how I felt but I was confused because I didn’t know how I felt anymore

I continued to focus on myself and at this time I look like a completely different person. I’m getting attention from more guys that I never had before. He had more confidence around me before but now he is super awkward. Very jealous and hasn’t kissed me or tried anything

im so confused I need help

[Nikki1989]

It sounds like he has the problem, not you.

[Asker]

What do you mean by that?

[Iron_Man]

Very dangerous those never work do you want to catch a disease?

[spartan55]

You girls are literally always 'confused'... 😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

Yeah because it is confusing
He’s not straight up with me

[spartan55]

Yes, he is. You are just seeing things through a certain lens and not being rational.

[spartan55]

You literally just said you are 'confused' because you didn't know how you felt. Then you turn around and blame him for not being straight up? Are you listening to yourself?

[In_Trance]

Go your separate ways