Last winter, I was bored with 4+ year friends with benefits and started fading. He pursues me pretty hard for a couple of months, claiming to want more, but I thought it was just to get back into bed with me. We hook up 4-5 times before we talk about it (I had decided I wanted to try more) but I think he took what I said wrong, ending the convo with "Ok, I'll quit fuckin' with you." However, he's kissing me differently and also kissing me as he comes/goes, which he never did before this conversation. So now I feel stuck with emotions I didn't have before he claimed to have wanted more.
Fast forward to last week. He made plans last minute then cancelled 30 minutes later when he was supposed to be on his way. Has never happened before. We did hook up the next night (Mon). I didn't hear from him again until Fri (Memorial Day wknd) when he texted, but no offer to see me. Then he text again Sunday, again with no offer. Monday, he text me to make plans for that evening. He cancels again 30 min later, saying he has to help his family and that Tues would be best. Tues he text and cancels 45 min later. I didn't respond. Then minutes later he offers a later time the same night. Again, cancels within the hour.
I imagine the worst scenario of someone new. Is he trying to make sure I know it? Or if he wants to stop seeing me, why go to all of this trouble? Is he purposely trying to make me mad/hurt me? Is he testing me to see how I react? Someone please explain. This really hurts now that he got my feelings involved earlier this year, but I refuse to let him know it. It's becoming all I can think about. I really want to know why and what I should do when he comes back around.
Fast forward to last week. He made plans last minute then cancelled 30 minutes later when he was supposed to be on his way. Has never happened before. We did hook up the next night (Mon). I didn't hear from him again until Fri (Memorial Day wknd) when he texted, but no offer to see me. Then he text again Sunday, again with no offer. Monday, he text me to make plans for that evening. He cancels again 30 min later, saying he has to help his family and that Tues would be best. Tues he text and cancels 45 min later. I didn't respond. Then minutes later he offers a later time the same night. Again, cancels within the hour.
I imagine the worst scenario of someone new. Is he trying to make sure I know it? Or if he wants to stop seeing me, why go to all of this trouble? Is he purposely trying to make me mad/hurt me? Is he testing me to see how I react? Someone please explain. This really hurts now that he got my feelings involved earlier this year, but I refuse to let him know it. It's becoming all I can think about. I really want to know why and what I should do when he comes back around.
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