So I started hanging out with a guy with the intentions of having a consistent friends with benefits / cuddle buddy situationship. He is always the one to initiate the conversation and he is the one that is usually asking to see me. The past few weeks he’s been messaging me more and asking to hang out more. I like spending time with him and I thought he did too since he keeps asking to see me. On Sunday he messaged me to ask when he could see me and we agreed that we would hang out on Wednesday. On Tuesday (a day before we are to hang out) he messages me to ask if he can see me today instead so I said ok sure today is fine. but then he stopped replying back. I sent him one message asking him what time he would be on his way. No reply. 1 hour later I called him and no reply. This is the second time he asks to see me, then goes MIA. I’m just confused on why he is doing this? He is the one that keeps texting me asking to hang out, I am not the one chasing him. The first time he did this, I sent him a message telling him that this type of behavior is a turn off to me and I blocked his number. He messaged me of a different number asking me to unblock him and saying I overreacted. This time I definitely do not believe I am in the wrong because the least he could of done is let me know he wasn’t coming. And also why chase me just to keep me stranded? Advice please.
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On Tuesday (a day before we are to hang out) he messages me to ask if he can see me today instead so I said ok sure today is fine.
You did not state the timeframe between the request and your responce.
If he didn't get a responce quickly then perhaps he asked another who accepted before you did or perhaps he asked more than one anyway and another responded before you did.
Clearly this guy is of high enough value to be able to treat women like most women treat men, like shit and so he does.
That's what you wanted, why are you complaining about it?
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He’s messing with your mind. He likes control gsmes.
It’s his behavior and insecurities that have made him come to a full stop. With this in mind just focus on yourself, no one needs to behave like this, but yet we do make human errors. He was obviously trying to get his ego stroked and you put up with that, no offense.
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It sounds like you're investing too much into a friends with benefits. A dynamic like that indicated that you're relationship is strictly transactional. He should in fact keep appointments, but I think you're too emotional for what the dynamic calls for.
something is interefering with his prioritization of you. what that is, remains a mystery.
porn? another woman? work? shame? video games? something else?
Yeah aren't friends with benefits situationships whatever tf they're called great? Respect and consideration are afterthoughts... smh.
Let it all go it’s not a relationship it’s only wham bam. Thank you, ma’am.
Time to move. on he is very immature and inconsiderate.
Time for you to move on.
There are plenty more fish in the sea.
do you know were he lives then go there and ask him whats going on.. get the truth and either move on or put up with him or her if that is the case.
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