My friends with benefits is confusing me?

[Anonymous]

I met this guys almost 2 months ago. He said he wants to be friends with benefits but exclusive. I said I cannot be exclusive because I want to be in a relationship. We agreed to it. Eventually we connected a lot. The last time we met, I felt something different. I fell asleep on his bed so he slept in another room not to wake me up (he had a really small bed). When I woke up in the morning I went to him and we just cuddled for hours. Whenever I tried to move away he would pull me back. He gives me a lot of forehead kisses. When he was dropping me back home he kept joking about getting married. I didn't respond anything because I didn't want to say something stupid and freak him out. After that, I texted him a random meme and he replied to that "Thank you and I love you." I started typing but I felt like he was joking or he meant he loves me like a friend. But when I didn't reply he sent me "I saw you typing so say what you wanna say." I felt he wanted me to confess so I said "I don't know if you're joking but you're welcome and I love you too." Dude did a whole 180 and said "hmmm don't catch feelings please." I told him he is confusing me. I didn't ask him why he said I love you out of nowhere. He said he doesn't want a relationship but he wants a "stable" friends with benefits till he find his "wife." I got so confused. Its true I have feelings for him but I knew nothing would come out of it. So I just let it go and accepted the reality. But the way he said I love you out of nowhere and then made me say it back to him and just ran away just confuses me so much. I haven't talked to him in few days.
The thing that confused me was if he is so scared of me catching feelings for him why would he bring up something so sensitive without me even initiating the topic. I mean I just texted a random meme.

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update: I told him how I feel. he said he wants to meet me in person. I am guessing it is to end things cause he told me once if he wants to end things he would do it in person. well it was good while it lasted lol. never doing this again.

[AsaKyo]

I don't know why people even willingly get into these situations knowing exactly how they're gonna end. Someone ALWAYS catches feelings, and it ends up causing a big mess.

[Asker]

I didn't think through this situation. But I did tell him I am someone who gets attached on our first date. I didn't text him after our first date to give him some time to think about it. But he said its fine. I am okay with being friends with benefits even though I have feelings for him. I'm mature enough to let someone go. But he is confusing me so much. I don't know what to do. We haven't talked in a while and I honestly don't feel like talking to him after what he did.

[markva44]

If your getting the feels its no longer FWBs, have the talk and if your both not on the same page then walk. I had a great girl who was friends with benefits she got the feels, i had to let her go for her own good as im not a user nor play with peoples emotions.

[dustybiker]

At this point he’s falling for you hard. Decide what you want.

[Asker]

I am okay with anything tbh. If he wants friends with benefits I am okay with that. I am someone who loves people without expecting anything in return. But he needs to be clear from his side too. If he doesn't want me to catch feeling for him then he should avoid topics like that.

[Guy13]

friends with benefits always leave one party hurting

[Asker]

I don't think I will be hurt. I have experienced this a lot to. One thing I've learned is no matter what I'll love people without expecting anything in return. And I let them go, because my worst fear is someone feeling stuck with me. But he needs to be clear from his side. If we are friends with benefits, then he should avoid things that makes it confusing, like what he did.

[Guy13]

So, you love wholeheartedly…that’s nice. I’m surprised you can let go so easily. Saying I love you does make it confusing

[Anonymous]

He obviously wants more from you than just a friends with benefits situation. You have to decide what's best for you.

[Asker]

I have got that vibe from him. But then again he is so hot and cold. The way he said I love you and just did a 180 is whats confusing me. I respect his boundaries if he doesn't want a relationship but he needs to be clear about it. Doing things that makes it look like he has feelings for me and then running away is whats making this thing messy.

[Iron_Man]

Those things never work out

[Asker]

I've had a successful friends with benefits before. I did have feelings for the guy but I never told. He was very clear from his side and did not do things like this which made it more easy for me. When I had to move away, we ended things mutually. It works when there are clear boundaries. This is why this dude is confusing me