You started out as a hookup with this person right? You thought that it would be fun to have the benefit of experiencing the pleasure of sex with someone you could tolerate and trust rather than some random stranger. You may have decided to have sex with a guy who was just a friend. You may have met someone at a bar and didn't feel butterflies but thought they were a nice guy. So you had sex. After having sex you tell him/her that you "Don't want a relationship right now". You say that you'd prefer to "just see each other" and "not be exclusive". You both even agree to date other people. But you keep coming back to this person for sex because they are generous in bed and the sex is great.
You sense that the person is falling for you. You can sense that they are falling in love so you either break things off or make it clear that you both are just "friends with benefits". But pretty soon the random friend you are having sex with feels like a best friend. You can't wait to see them and talk to them. Before you know it you are denial... you aren't falling in love.. its just the hormones of attachment that come from sex. So you resist it. Its not the real thing. They aren't your type. The weeks go by and you realize you can't stop thinking about this person. YOu miss them. Oh my gosh... you are in love?
You tell the person how you feel. You tell them you want a relationship. The person responds by saying, "I thought you only wanted friends with benefits? I'm confused. What happened?"
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever had a hookup or friends with benefits that you swore you'd never want to date but pretty soon... you're in love?