Ladies, When is it OK to chase a dumper? Ever?

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My ex dumped months ago because she said she never loved me. In all fairness, I took her for granted and never said that I loved her. While the breakup was painful, it was amicable. Yet, I was hurting a lot.

2 months of NC went by and I saw her at an event (we have mutual friends) and while it was awkward and brief, it was civil.

A few weeks later we saw each other again and it was cordial.

Then a month went by before I saw her again. This time she went ice cold and even rude on me. Later, I found out that someone told her I was dating someone (I had in fact socialized with women and went on a few dates, but nothing serious). I was hurt all over again because I was hoping to keep thins friendly with the hopes of reconciliation.

6 weeks later (last night), I saw her and smiled. She did smile back, but soon left before I could talk to her. I think the problem was that she saw me sitting with an attractive female friend (my ex my not have wanted to talk to me even if I was alone).

But now, she certainly must think I am dating someone. I don't what to do now? I never wanted to contact her directly after the breakup because she was the one who dumped and I wanted to respect her boundaries.

Now, I feel that my only chance to get her back is to contact her, but my mind and my friends tell me that is a horrible move. I would just be feeding her ego (she told me once that she guys and ex bfs chase her all the time, which also made me reluctant to be like them) and she would reject me anyway.

Ladies, do you really get turned off if a guy you dumped chased you again, especially you thought he was dating again?
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So, my ex saw mue sitting with an attractive female friend at an event the other night. I smiled and waved at the ex, and she did smile back. However, there was no interaction after that and she did not stay for the after event party at a local bar. I don't know if this is because she didn't want into run into me and who she probably thought was the girl I am dating. Ladies, did I blow my chances of any reconciliation?
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I recently saw my ex on the street and I decided to take the high road by giving her a smile and wave. She smiled and waved back, but it seemed forced.


Would most women think I was being creepy? I did not approach her and want nothing from her at this point but peace and no hard feelings.


Would it have been better to ignore her completely.


I feel I did the right thing, but I am curious as to the women's point of view. Thanks.
Ladies, When is it OK to chase a dumper? Ever?
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