In the beginning of me and my husband's relationship during the dating phase he made a lot of harsh; critical statements regarding my appearance. We are now almost six months into our marriage and everything he's said still lingers in the back of my mind making me filled with doubt and worry. I have always been a naturally built petite female. I am 5ft4 and weigh approximately 144 pounds. I have average sized breasts and wear a 36D cup and they are not shaped like usual breasts they are extremely perky and instead of them being watermelon/circular shaped they sit across my chest facing opposite directions like almonds. All his exes had bigger boobs and were bigger than me physically overall so I can't compete with that. Here are some examples of things he's said. "You would look good with more weight on you." "I want to get you pregnant so you can gain some weight." "It looks like you picked up a few pounds you look more beautiful and sexy then before." "Your the smallest woman I've ever seen." "Your breasts are very small and petite compared to the other women I've seen and been with." "Why do your breasts look like that?" We were looking in the mirror poking fun at each other and then he holds my boobs up and cups them together in a very unrealistic way and said, "Your breasts are going to look like this someday." "You have some spaces in your teeth have you ever considered getting braces to bring them together?" He has subtly made it known I wasn't his usual type. He's apologized numerous of times but I still don't feel better. Everytime I bring it up he yells gets angry and says I should be over it by now because it happened in the past and he stopped doing it. He continues to ignore the problem and sweep it under the rug. I asked him why he said those things to me and he said it was because so looked different than his exes and he wasn't thinking when he said those things. He says he loves me everyday and that he's in love but I don't believe him.
My husband made fun of my body and appearance and I can't get over it. What should I do?
In the beginning of me and my husband's relationship during the dating phase he made a lot of harsh; critical statements regarding my appearance. We are now almost six months into our marriage and everything he's said still lingers in the back of my mind making me filled with doubt and worry. I have always been a naturally built petite female. I am 5ft4 and weigh approximately 144 pounds. I have average sized breasts and wear a 36D cup and they are not shaped like usual breasts they are extremely perky and instead of them being watermelon/circular shaped they sit across my chest facing opposite directions like almonds. All his exes had bigger boobs and were bigger than me physically overall so I can't compete with that. Here are some examples of things he's said. "You would look good with more weight on you." "I want to get you pregnant so you can gain some weight." "It looks like you picked up a few pounds you look more beautiful and sexy then before." "Your the smallest woman I've ever seen." "Your breasts are very small and petite compared to the other women I've seen and been with." "Why do your breasts look like that?" We were looking in the mirror poking fun at each other and then he holds my boobs up and cups them together in a very unrealistic way and said, "Your breasts are going to look like this someday." "You have some spaces in your teeth have you ever considered getting braces to bring them together?" He has subtly made it known I wasn't his usual type. He's apologized numerous of times but I still don't feel better. Everytime I bring it up he yells gets angry and says I should be over it by now because it happened in the past and he stopped doing it. He continues to ignore the problem and sweep it under the rug. I asked him why he said those things to me and he said it was because so looked different than his exes and he wasn't thinking when he said those things. He says he loves me everyday and that he's in love but I don't believe him.
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