If you feel you deserve people or behaviors you're never going to get them. You have to remind yourself that you deserve nothing. You simply, genuinely want it. That's how you move forward and work to acquire those things
First of all, you need to filter well. Clearly you're complaining about your own choices. There are good guys in the world, but probably not the ones you're attracted to as much. The way to find someone that has chemistry with you is to go places of your interest. There you'll find people with similar interests and that's always a start at finding a spark. The main thing is to filter though. Learn of their intentions before being with them.
You don't "deserve" better, that's narcissistic entitlement talking, but you sound like you could earn better. Remember good men won't approach you (feminism has drilled into us that approaching women is misogynistic harassment) so you will have to look for and approach them.
Errr you need to look where you’d not expect them to be. Good quality men aren’t looking for a girlfriend and aren’t out trying to find one, you see the ones who aren’t looking are building empires like me and if you find me your next step will be to actually convince that I should date you because I’ll be the most socially awkward person :)
They are out there, it just takes some time. Out of the several men I’ve dated, only 2 were quality men - one of those including my current bf! A lot of guys are really immature, it takes a little longer to find a more mature one :)
To find a good quality man: 1. Look at the mirror. What kind of person are you really, on the inside? What do you, deep down, expect from a man? 2. Read Proverbs 31:10-31 in the Bible. They talk about qualities of a perfect wife and it is only right for you to look for such qualities in a man. But first you need to manifest them yourself.
You are pretty young, just keep working on yourself and what makes you happy and do not lower your standards, you dont need a man by your side. The right one will come along and you will know it, meanwhile have fun with the wrong ones lol
Try your local church or friends of friends, or family friends. Or family of friends... or meeting at a college club or something that you have similar interests with.
Guys tend to be jerks is what I hear a lot of women say. The qualities I do for me and many women tell me I'm a good guy is I listen I will stay with you until you feel safe and don't need me anymore. I treat you like you owned a castle. I spend as much time with you as I can.
I always say "be the right person." If you are the right guy will come along. You just have to be patient.
Location! Be in the right places. Bars are an example of the wrong place. Church is an example of a good place to be (here people are attempting to live by a higher standard).
Hanging around good friends that have good friends you can meet.
You can meet decent people at bars. There are people that go to bars with only pure intentions like relaxing with a drink and finding some company to get away from their dull lives. Not everyone that goes to the bar is an alcoholic that just wants some action for the night. No matter where you go, you need to filter people.
Most people don't even take church seriously nowadays and many religious people have a skewed sense of morality. Your advice is flawed.
Some of the most judgmental people I ever encountered were at church.
If you are religious and looking for birds of that particular feather of religion then great. However the various religions and churches don't get along. Also churches tend to have a lot of old people, families, and people inclined to abstain.
It is far better to date where the demographic is people roughly your age range who are single.
Very good point Ayer93. Sorry to denigrate people who visit bars. I generally don't visit them & know there are different bars w/ different clientele. Of which there are very classy establishments
Also have been to churches that are dead. Know there are churches that are quarrelsome. But if a church is what it is meant to be, people attending it should be a better people.
You are in a tough situation, because older men typically want someone with experience. Then younger guys just want to mess around. Good luck, I'm sure you'll find the man for you.
If you are only looking at aesthetics in a partner, such as 6 foot and mussels, then you tend towards a more immature person when they are around their late teens early 20's (own experience I am happy to be corrected) as they are still used to being with the 'Lads' and when groups of boys/men are together it is so about having fun and worrying about small stuff later.
Most men in their 20s are mediocry. Im know because most of my equals are lazy, dont take anything serious, everything is a "dont be so square". Their max aspirentions are have a good time but not have a good future. And they still aren't define their core values. So the best is you try to date some man who is better than you. No less.
True girl some men are self centred I think 80 percent are but life give you time to see beyond the gray spaces you just have to look long and use your female charisma to get what you really want and need hang in there time heals all the shit and bring new beginnings.
A great guy will not approach you out of the blue. It has to come. e natural and just happy. Don't be so impatient. That will get you trouble. Also I have to admit around the age 26-28, I was still young for a real relationship. I was too busy getting other life things figured out. By the time I got those things figured out I was 31 and having too much damn fun for have a relationship. You'll just have to find a guys that's 35+. We're pretty ready by then 😁. Great guys are experienced
Well when it comes to me, I like maturity in women, I don’t like man haters or women who carry on their sexist feminist agendas of self inflicted oppression and man hating indoctrinated to them by society, social media and the government. It’s absurd, it’s like paying a therapist to roast you instead of providing emotional support. Apart from that, I don’t like getting bored in the bedroom either so they gotta be wild hahhahaha🤣🤷🏻♂️.
It is common for a woman to find older men attractive. It takes men longer to mature then women and experience is powerful for a person to be a good leader. Hold to your values and your good man will find you.
Unfortunately, the supply of quality men and women is running dangerously low these days. I hope you absolutely never compromise your standards for some piece of shit. Keep up your hard work, and never settle. Godspeed.
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If you feel you deserve people or behaviors you're never going to get them. You have to remind yourself that you deserve nothing. You simply, genuinely want it. That's how you move forward and work to acquire those things
First of all, you need to filter well. Clearly you're complaining about your own choices. There are good guys in the world, but probably not the ones you're attracted to as much. The way to find someone that has chemistry with you is to go places of your interest. There you'll find people with similar interests and that's always a start at finding a spark. The main thing is to filter though. Learn of their intentions before being with them.
You don't "deserve" better, that's narcissistic entitlement talking, but you sound like you could earn better.
Remember good men won't approach you (feminism has drilled into us that approaching women is misogynistic harassment) so you will have to look for and approach them.
Errr you need to look where you’d not expect them to be. Good quality men aren’t looking for a girlfriend and aren’t out trying to find one, you see the ones who aren’t looking are building empires like me and if you find me your next step will be to actually convince that I should date you because I’ll be the most socially awkward person :)
They are out there, it just takes some time. Out of the several men I’ve dated, only 2 were quality men - one of those including my current bf! A lot of guys are really immature, it takes a little longer to find a more mature one :)
To find a good quality man:
1. Look at the mirror. What kind of person are you really, on the inside? What do you, deep down, expect from a man?
2. Read Proverbs 31:10-31 in the Bible. They talk about qualities of a perfect wife and it is only right for you to look for such qualities in a man. But first you need to manifest them yourself.
Wow that's such wise words
No ways she'd read the bible. She's feminist indoctrinated
You are pretty young, just keep working on yourself and what makes you happy and do not lower your standards, you dont need a man by your side. The right one will come along and you will know it, meanwhile have fun with the wrong ones lol
Try your local church or friends of friends, or family friends. Or family of friends... or meeting at a college club or something that you have similar interests with.
Guys tend to be jerks is what I hear a lot of women say. The qualities I do for me and many women tell me I'm a good guy is I listen I will stay with you until you feel safe and don't need me anymore. I treat you like you owned a castle. I spend as much time with you as I can.
I always say "be the right person." If you are the right guy will come along. You just have to be patient.
Location! Be in the right places. Bars are an example of the wrong place. Church is an example of a good place to be (here people are attempting to live by a higher standard).
Hanging around good friends that have good friends you can meet.
You can meet decent people at bars. There are people that go to bars with only pure intentions like relaxing with a drink and finding some company to get away from their dull lives. Not everyone that goes to the bar is an alcoholic that just wants some action for the night. No matter where you go, you need to filter people.
Most people don't even take church seriously nowadays and many religious people have a skewed sense of morality. Your advice is flawed.
Some of the most judgmental people I ever encountered were at church.
If you are religious and looking for birds of that particular feather of religion then great. However the various religions and churches don't get along. Also churches tend to have a lot of old people, families, and people inclined to abstain.
It is far better to date where the demographic is people roughly your age range who are single.
Very good point Ayer93. Sorry to denigrate people who visit bars. I generally don't visit them & know there are different bars w/ different clientele. Of which there are very classy establishments
Also have been to churches that are dead. Know there are churches that are quarrelsome. But if a church is what it is meant to be, people attending it should be a better people.
Thank you for your opinion.
You are in a tough situation, because older men typically want someone with experience. Then younger guys just want to mess around. Good luck, I'm sure you'll find the man for you.
If you are only looking at aesthetics in a partner, such as 6 foot and mussels, then you tend towards a more immature person when they are around their late teens early 20's (own experience I am happy to be corrected) as they are still used to being with the 'Lads' and when groups of boys/men are together it is so about having fun and worrying about small stuff later.
Most men in their 20s are mediocry. Im know because most of my equals are lazy, dont take anything serious, everything is a "dont be so square". Their max aspirentions are have a good time but not have a good future. And they still aren't define their core values. So the best is you try to date some man who is better than you. No less.
True girl some men are self centred I think 80 percent are but life give you time to see beyond the gray spaces you just have to look long and use your female charisma to get what you really want and need hang in there time heals all the shit and bring new beginnings.
A great guy will not approach you out of the blue. It has to come. e natural and just happy. Don't be so impatient. That will get you trouble. Also I have to admit around the age 26-28, I was still young for a real relationship. I was too busy getting other life things figured out. By the time I got those things figured out I was 31 and having too much damn fun for have a relationship. You'll just have to find a guys that's 35+. We're pretty ready by then 😁. Great guys are experienced
True Because us (good guys) have been fucked over by asshole girls in our past... I hate sluts
I've never been screwed over. I just don't have the style to be the funny guy coming out of nowhere in a public place
I don't think you will be better off with an older guy. We don't mature that much...
Anyways, just do activities where you can be around the type of guy you want to date. Try like joining a bar sponsored softball team.
Also, based on your profile pic, you really are hot AF.
Well when it comes to me, I like maturity in women, I don’t like man haters or women who carry on their sexist feminist agendas of self inflicted oppression and man hating indoctrinated to them by society, social media and the government. It’s absurd, it’s like paying a therapist to roast you instead of providing emotional support. Apart from that, I don’t like getting bored in the bedroom either so they gotta be wild hahhahaha🤣🤷🏻♂️.
With some work and dedication, online dating can be rewarding, I found my boyfriend on POF and were living togeather
I found my guy on pof too. I think what made it easy was I was just looking to have fun dating. I want looking for love. Love found me.
It is common for a woman to find older men attractive. It takes men longer to mature then women and experience is powerful for a person to be a good leader. Hold to your values and your good man will find you.
Unfortunately, the supply of quality men and women is running dangerously low these days. I hope you absolutely never compromise your standards for some piece of shit. Keep up your hard work, and never settle. Godspeed.