Where can I find good men?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been single for 5 years & can’t seem to find anyone who’s worth me investing my time & love into.

guys are either not looking for anything serious, not serious with life (career / finance / family values), currently taken & cheating on their partner or prefer to party / drink every weekend.

I really feel like at this stage I’m going to end up single forever which isn’t what I want. I’m starting to feel very lonely & I want to settle down , get married and start a family.

I’ve tried dating through mutual friends, dating apps, going out / socialising.. unfortunately no one interests me.

I have thought that maybe my standard are too high but honestly is wishing for a faithful man with family values , career invested who has a job , car , house and is a gentleman who knows how to communicate without playing mind games too much to ask for?
( ^ I myself bring all this to the table )

Ps. The age group I go for are 27+ year olds

[Anonymous]

The truth is, We are out there, but a lot of us are married, And off the market before 30

as a girl, for the most part. If you wait til your near 30+ to settle down. Your prey much screwed.

theirs younger girls. Snatching up older guys.

the question you should be asking yourself. Why can’t you attract a guy like that?

truth is most women have no idea what men want and require.
We care about your career or what you bring to the table,………. Your career means ZERO. to a man of any value.

My wife didn’t even finish highschool. And she stays at home full time. With our kids.

[Asker]

Yes I totally agree most good men are taken by the age of 30. Which is why I’m sort of panicking, I’m ready to start a family but can’t seem to find anyone to settle down with.

As for values oh I’m so ready to tap into my feminine energy. I’ve basically done all my work and I’ve set myself up in a way where I can now have kids , stay at home and make money with attending a 9-5 or even having to leave the house.

In terms of traditional values I’m Latina , they’re naturally forced onto us (which isn’t a bad thing) .. I cook , clean & nurture - I am a single mum & I am / was my siblings guardians but they’re all 17+ now so they don’t really need me that much haha

[Asker]

I’ve been the breadwinner & nurturer since I was 18 so I’m more than ready to let someone else take the wheel & kick back a little

[Drew-1990]

We exist I promise the problem is the good ones get stomped down so much son have decided they don't want relationships while the rest of us have given up or just hiding because we are sick of getting rejected and ignored for not meeting some ridiculous standards. I don't know about your standards maybe they are too high or maybe they are not but you don't know how to find the good ones that are hiding.

[Asker]

How do I find the good ones that are hiding. ? I’m ready for my shy - nerdy - simp haha 💖

[Drew-1990]

Look places where they would not expect to see a girl honestly. Also look for the ones avoiding girls those are usually the shy ones. But hey lots of us are shy and nerdy but that doesn't makes us simps

[Drew-1990]

Or sorry lots of us at at home too

[Asker]

That was no way an insult I love a homebody shy flower man.. actually a compliment xx

[Drew-1990]

Well lots of people use the word simp as a an insult, that actually definition is not an insult but that isn't usually how people mean it. I'm sorry but what is a flower man, I guess I have never heard that before?

[Asker]

A flower man is basically a simp. A man that loves to bring his girl flowers and do everything for her. Basically a gentleman.. unfortunately chivalry is seen a bad thing nowadays. doesn't even make sense?

[Drew-1990]

Chivalry is not dead I refuse to stop being a gentleman. I still open doors for girls, even though I'm scared sometimes because some get pissed off, luckily where I live that doesn't happen too much. I would buy girls flowers if she really likes them.

[bobalife]

I feel it, but I think they’re hiding for the same reasons some good women have experience difficult situations.. or maybe it’s compatibility issue in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

The question is not where to find such men, because there are plenty of them out there. The real question is, why are so many other women able to attract such men, but you are not.

It seems you have high standards for the men you date, as you should. But you need to offer these men the same level of value you expect from them, and that seems to be a real issue for a lot of women today. Many women judge their own value based on the same factors they judge men's, but those things are not the same things good men want from a woman.

You need to be sure you understand what men actually want and need from a woman, and ask yourself if you actually bring those things to the table in a relationship. Many, many women don't today, but they still seem to think they are a catch. They're not, and the proof of that is in the pudding, as they say.

[bobalife]

Interesting take, so what does good men actually want/need?

[Asker]

I’m looking for a traditional man so he would have traditional values which I believe I do have. As I’ve previously said on this post:

As for values oh I’m so ready to tap into my feminine energy. I’ve basically done all my work and I’ve set myself up in a way where I can now have kids , stay at home and make money with attending a 9-5 or even having to leave the house.

In terms of traditional values I’m Latina , they’re naturally forced onto us (which isn’t a bad thing) .. I cook , clean & nurture - I am a single mum & I am / was my siblings guardians but they’re all 17+ now so they don’t really need me that much haha

[stark04]

I'm a good man without any of the things you have mentioned.

[Asker]

I mean if that works for your partner / future partner then all is good. But I could never be with someone who’s 27 doesn’t have a job , basic car , still lives with mum … how can I possibly feel stable to build a family with someone like that. What have u been doing the past 9 years?

[Asker]

This isn’t a personal attack on you I’m just curious to get a perspective of someone who’s on the other side

[stark04]

Do you have a job? Mum? Dad? House? Car? Family values? How much do you make approximately?

[Asker]

Yes I have a degree , full time job , a small business and I’ve bought my first property. Yes I have a driving license & a car. I am a single mum & also the legal guardian of my 3 siblings (who are now all grown up 17+ year olds) I live in MY house with my family however I am the breadwinner and the nurturer. Why am I a single parent / taken on other people’s responsibilities because unfortunately I can not control other peoples actions or who they chose to become and as I strongly believe in family values I will happily cut away anyone that try’s to harm my family.

[Asker]

Oh by the way I’m 25 .. I took on all this responsibility at 18 and have managed to come out on top. I won’t accept a lazy man who has nothing for himself especially if he has much more opportunities than I ever did.

[stark04]

I've been working since I was 13. I make 12-15% return annually on my all investments. I have portfolio worth 700k. I don't need job, I know how to diversify money and create assets rather than owning liabilities. And yes I pay none to very little tax and that makes me smarter than average person with secured job.

[Asker]

So your original comment was incorrect? You said “Im a good man without any of those things you have mentioned” but now you’re saying you do have career in investing & you have your finances in order? Make it make sense.. either u have those things or you don’t lol 😂

[Asker]

Personally I don’t think a man can be a good man if he isn’t faithful , doesn’t know how to communicate or isn’t a gentleman. These a basic character traits which you’ve said you don’t have. But each to their own opinion

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what freedom and equality looks like.

[Asker]

They did not speak for me !!! Where are my human rights haha

[noohair]

Nothing will help you.

[Chthou95]

You dont want a good man. If you did, you would have had one already

[Asker]

Difficult when there arnt much good options out there. I’m basically picking the less rotten fruit from the fruit bowl - not great

[Chthou95]

80/20 rule in full effect

[RavVid]

You should be able to find such a man in the 30's.

[Asker]

I’ve tried , even they are silly. Maybe I’ll try my luck with 37+ .. a bit weird since my dad is 42 years old lol (I am 25)

[RavVid]

I have older parents and tend to make older male friends so I think that has given me an older attitude. Plus as a former farm you have responsibilities at an early age.

Which is me saying that i can understand you finding men in your target age groups as not having maturity.

So yes reach up till you find a maturity level that suits you.

[RavVid]

former farm boy

[war_daddy]

you expect a guy to have a house a 27? lol

[Asker]

I’m 25 and I have bought my first property. My friends are 23 - 29 they all live on their own.. seems like a pretty normal requirement for someone who’s nearly 30 no?

[war_daddy]

wtf. how much was your house? are you in some small town in teh US?

[war_daddy]

houses around here are 800k

[Asker]

I’m from the UK , place was 200k I put down 25% deposit and built the place up.. it’s not that hard over here which is why I’m shocked most guys done live on their own by the age of 27. He dont have to buy a place maybe rent a room in a house share. But most guys that are 27+ are still at home sharing a bedroom with their brothers it’s wild makes them look like they have 0 ambition in life

[Ardafit67]

Yeahhhhh Let me talk ta ya 🤪🤪

[KasiKesh]

You can find it in Turkey

[jimmy2]

Here. Lol

[darkforcebooty]

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[Asker]

Send me the link , is there an option to filter as well to make the search quicker?

[darkforcebooty]

Yes, but the choices are limited now.