Do boys insult as a way of flirting?

Question

there are so many guys that admit having crushes on me, yet will pick out every single flaw i have as if it's their job.

Eklavyaa · Accepted Answer

Well i do agree at times some boys do insult girls. There are at times reason behind it at times it's may seem completely random and consistent but it actually isn't.
Most guys (especially players) insult a girl coz they understand the commen human Psychology more than others. If someone praised you for something you do you will eventually forget it but when it comes to an insult people generally don't forget it easily making it easier for them to stay on your mind. It's a mind game they insult you first then be gentle and this keeps going on untill insults become less harmful and subtle for you to take and praises become commen, this way they want you to assume being with you and by knowing you they have a change in their attitude towards you, and you'll find yourself interested in talking to them because you'll find it as a good deed done.
It's nothing more than mind games, with change in society and girls being more smarter and outgoing now a days new means to attract and attain attention are being applied by guys.
Good luck.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's a pretty common tactic and it can be done well. As others have said it does get the person interested but it can also be a great way to compliment someone while keeping it casual. If you hit them with a compliment about something that they really care about and follow it up with a cheeky insult about something that you don't think would be an insecurity for them then it can eliminate any tension created by the compliment without softening the flattery. Additionally, it indicates that you're not overly worried about offending the person helping to create trust in your honesty.

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

Yeah they do. My two brothers and their friends were (still are at times) the most sarcastic things when they were trying to get a girls attention! Guess it takes boys a little longer to figure out some girls don't like to be treated like just another one of the boys!!

Tashhhhh · Accepted Answer

You're 16 right? Considering you're in high school I would say yes. It was always that way with me in high school. I had no idea they liked me until later on, they just pissed me off.

stokiegirl · Accepted Answer

some guys definitely do. part of it is this whole "negging" thing and I think part of it is defensive so they can brush it off like a joke if u reject them

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Do not be surprised if you find out those specific guys never find girls attractive...

User-Jacob · Answer

At sixteen years old? Definitely. But unless it's a gentle ribbing that makes you smile, avoid those dudes like the plague. They're hoping that you'll see their pointing out of flaws as a sign that they're out of your league. Truthfully, they're scared that they aren't in yours.

You look like an attractive young girl. Sooner or later, these guys are bound to realize it, and start coming your way, and I highly advise you to shrug them off for good. Wait for the guy who makes you feel loved. He'll show up.

Maguel · Answer

Yes and no. There is a thin line between being a flirty tease and insulting. It really depends of the situation and the sense of humour the girl has. I have one female friend who i can mercilessly burn as badly as humanly possible (i do get the same service in return) and she does not mind it at all and know i am joking. Then there are some girls who can't take any form of sarcasm.

Guys very rarely intentionally insult though. If you find something a guy said offensive but it does not seem like he really meant it that way he likely did not.

Chaz269 · Answer

Yes and no. Many guys have a sardonic wit. Contrary to popular belief, though, most of us won't knowingly belittle someone with obvious self esteem issues. Chances are you are coming off as self confident if they're ribbing you and coming back. It's a fair test to make sure you're not one of the overly sensitive types too. If they're saying mean things and never talking to you again, you're coming of as arrogant or conceited. Or maybe you're pointing out their flaws, and turnabout is fair play. Even playing "hard to get" can give off that impression. Why swoon over someone who doesn't return your admiration, unless you're a fool?

MusicMayhem · Answer

They insult to try and get to you so you get defensive about the issue and feel you have to prove them wrong. In doing so you are trying to qualify yourself for their approval. Most girls don't give 2 hoots about most guys that flirt with them, so by doing this they get a girl engaged with them which is half the battle.

These guys obviously are trying too hard not to be the nice guy but are going too far in the other direction and are negging you.

v851234 · Answer

Treat them mean, keep them keen, sounds to me like they either are generally ass hats who don't know how to treat a girl nice, or they think you will be more into them because they are being mean to you, which may or not be the case. Either way, if they are making you feel bad, ditch them and find someone who makes you feel good, there is being jokingly mean, and there is taking it to far, and by the sounds of your words, they took it too far.

4pple · Answer

Picking out every single flaw, no, that's just being an asshole. And generally guys who think being mean like that even in a teasing way are stupid, it's one thing to say like "It's adorable how you're so clumsy" but if they just straight up bring up things without combining it in a positive way (like calling clumsiness cute in my example) is shitty behavior.

Gopnik · Answer

14 year olds do yeah, when you're around 16 you tend to not do that as it does not work :) (mostly)
i did shit like that when i was 14 but nowadays if i want to flirt i'll just initiate a conversation maybe some dumb cheesy pick up lines but compliments are the way to go indefinitely, the cheesy lines just depend on what i think the girl would enjoy if i think they'll just end up responding in a dumb way i won't say it.

NoahsTheory · Answer

Ok I'm gonna be hypothetical.
Say there is a guy who acts like he is the world then you come along and he knows that you are a much more perfect person. so to help him seem great he will cut you down so you feel less then. it doesn't mean they hate you. i would say it means they feel your a better person.
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Evil_Chuck · Answer

Sometimes. It can be a way of getting your attention while obscuring their interest in you. I did it all the time when I was your age. At the same time though, I would drop hints that I actually cared, like showing concern when the girl had a problem.

Cask23 · Answer

Yes. It’s called the “neg”. Due to a weird quirk of girls, if a male actually treats you nicely you’ll friend zone him immediately as a beta male. Insulting you keeps your attention and makes it seem like he is more difficult to get. Consequently you’ll respect him more and likely give it up easily becoming submissive to him.

That1tallguy · Answer

That sounds like some immature shit right there. Like something some one would do in elementary or middle school. If I like someone I'll make it know. I like friendly banter so I guess it's kinda like teasing but different then insults.

Burgerboy21 · Answer

Not necessarily as a means of flirting, but I do often make fun of those I'm close to to show my love. (This goes for very close fanily and platonic friends as well as a significant other.) It's not quite the same thing, though.

Zoren1212 · Answer

Yes. It's a way of getting in there heads and getting attention. If he's making you mad then you're still thinking about him. And all he has to do to relieve all your stress is be sweet. And BOOM. He has somehow made the problem go away (even though he caused it, your subconscious won't care.).

kvn01 · Answer

Sometimes but in a teasing way, like "oh man, Jennifer is probably going to mess up again... like last time because we allllll rember last time" but never in a mean way

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Playful teasing is very common but some people don’t get the hang of it right away and don’t know whereabouts the line is when you cross from playful teasing and bangs into almost bullying.

heyyyyy69 · Answer

you have guys who have ideas of what they think are flaws. You are you and you are unique. Hold onto that. Those guys that do that probably like you but even if they did tearing down another isn't a good way of showing it.

Andrew_14 · Answer

teasing is a pretty normal way to flirt, but I would usually do it in a sarcastic way never seriously being rude or anything

dantetheexplorer · Answer

Well, there are men who call their good friends Dickhead and Asshole, so...

lernulo · Answer

Yes, above all if you are pretty. Lets say that if they say something good about you and you have a too high self-esteem is very unlikely you will look at them.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i still do this. it's fun if you don't take offense and pick back.

Jack_L_andTurn · Answer

They are budding pickup artists who are testing out their negs. All ladies, young and old, should be aware of this.

WhiplashTacos · Answer

Remember the show Hey Arnold? That unibrow girl was a straight up ass to Arnold, but when she’s alone, she would pull out his picture and make out with it and talk about how much she liked him?

Adream · Answer

When we like someone we see flaws as beauty since it makes you, you

Incognito777 · Answer

Insulting might be a bit too far, but teasing definitely is a sign of flirting.

ThatItalianBastard · Answer

Usually it's a sign of friendship. Me and my friends usually egg on eachother pretty harshly for shits and giggles. But that's just my experience.

Anonymous · Answer

In a way, yes. I silly insult will get your attention, and that is what they want.

SGL69 · Answer

To me insulting in any way is not flirting. I myself would compliment her on her beauty.

OldDad · Answer

Slap the snot out of them. There is flirting, and there is also being rude

tallen123 · Answer

Tell them you dont like it if they do that but i will tell you that i stole my fiances pencil pouch everyday in class to get her to stop doing homework long enough to talk to me

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

maybe its in jest, but I wuldm't want to offend anyone, so I don't insult

NikkiMelan · Answer

It's easier to insult than to compliment. it shows their insecurity.

niceguy8018 · Answer

Yes they do guys a ki da dumb and if they are pointing out flaws then they are not worth your time

ThPadelis · Answer

Insulting is not flirting. It's lack of education and manners.

vald9inches · Answer

they probably want to make you more insecure and lower down your guard and your walls

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes they do if I was your age I'd have been all over you teasing and all

HereIbe · Answer

Little boys think they are "flirting" when they do that.

Anonymous · Answer

It's so that you don't get a big head about yourself Trump is not a good person, why should we compliment him?

valualty · Answer

Yes usually when a female is delusional and full of herself

askmeanything454 · Answer

I don’t. I don’t get why anyone would insult someone they are trying to get with

Anonymous · Answer

No, they insult cause they’re actually closeted gays.

hushlol · Answer

Some do, they are not good boyfriend, stay, away.

kunalr · Answer

That's a very rude and bad behavior. Kick them on their dick.

Anonymous · Answer

I insult because I enjoy putting women down. If I make her cry it’s even better

Djmo17 · Answer

Yes sometimea they do. Dont know why? I don't do it.

kinganges · Answer

Those are the kind of guys whom you will always have those heat arguments

paddymac330 · Answer

The reason for this is simple were insecure and can't express how we feel

Shivang21 · Answer

No not every boys insult girls only the boys who are kind of playboy do that

kimlamma · Answer

My guy friend does it all the time!

WhitePanther88 · Answer

Some do... You Wildebeest (winks)

Rangers · Answer

Yes, that's part of teasing

ColoradoKid · Answer

Some guys will. I have no idea why.

rpgeek · Answer

Yes but only friendly teasing.

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

Tsundere ones xx ~ Mrs Manson

Shogun48 · Answer

Because they don't know how to compliment

sidvt · Answer

Lol they are trying to show tht they care u

Pauliho · Answer

Guys like to tease to get reactions

danielmeegan · Answer

Dont let them get to you iignore critics

daholzer · Answer

This is what the majority does yes

alcatraz1999 · Answer

My girl makes fun of her small boobs all the time.

askaway89 · Answer

Do girls say they are fine when asked if their ok?

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