boyfriend said he doesn't care if I go clubbing or not?

[Anonymous]

So I asked my boyfriend is it okay for me to go clubbing without him , he said he doesn't care and I don't need to ask him.

Is it because he doesn't care about me?

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yesterday I went home and texted him saying I

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was home and about to sleep. I guess he responded, so we are good

[FreshOutaIdeas]

More illogical bullshit and attention seeking I see?

You specifically know your going to a place where most others go to get laid, OK. You want to have a good time, drink a lil' alcohol, OK. Out of this you then suggest that, at least in raw statistical terms (so to speak), guys will want to flirt with you and fuck with you... OK!

So in your guys mind, he doesn't want to seem possessive or controlling, so whether he is or isn't OK with it, deep down, he'll let you go in the hopes that he can TRUST YOU to be LOYAL TO HIM... Assuming you two are working a "conventional, loving relationship", right?

So in trying to attend to the general needs of your relationship (not being possessive or controlling), you then have the audacity to wonder if he doesn't care about you?

Girl... You, like so many others, are fucking clueless...

Take it from a party animal, whilst there's nothing wrong with wanting to go out with your friends, if my girl was asking to go clubbing, I would be suspicious; not as to whether or not you open your legs to a random, but that you wanted to go in the first place...

I bet you'll be posting on here again at some point, waffling about how you love your boyfriend and he's a great guy, but you "accidentally" fucked two other random cucks, multiple times... lol

[william775]

Nice said..

[Asker]

I only fucked 0ne guy in my life.

I think you should stop judging based on what they like to do.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

@Asker
Who lives to do what? I speak as someone who has both observed and been on the end of female immaturity and insecurity. From what you've said it smacks of you looking for validation, when you don't understand you've already got that from your boyfriend...

Your guy wants you to have a good time, he's too reassure you that he's both secure in himself and your loyalty to him. Need I explain anymore?

[FreshOutaIdeas]

@william775
Thanks!

[Asker]

If so I will be happy and I should learn to also be secure. I m upset a lot by what he says and does and maybe it doesn't mean a lot. Thank you for your opinion!

[FreshOutaIdeas]

@Asker
Ok np! What is it he says that makes you upset?

[Asker]

So I was trying to explain why I needed to tell him I was going clubbing. Because I was reflecting, I won't be happy if he goes without telling me.
I told him I will not flirt or cross boudaries.
But he just said ' you dont need to tell me ' . I was like 'why'i was doing this out of respect but you ignore me?

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Sounds like a simple understanding TBH. He said that because he's trying to instill his trust in you (and again, not to be overly possessive of you and your life).

If you both trust each other then I see no reason to think there's anything wrong. You'll go out, not get dicked, he'll see you when you get back home and that's that 👌

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Misunderstanding**

[AynonOMouse]

Either he really does care and it will cause problems in your relationship if you do go, or he doesn't care because he doesn't take your relationship seriously or think it will last.

[Asker]

he seems doesn't care , he said ' you don't need to ask me , have fun !'
After I told him ' I won't flirt or drink excessively'

Then I said ' I will be mad if my boyfriend goes clubbing without telling me , because it's clubbing!' And he didn't respond anything

[Pamina]

Did you actually not want to go clubbing and just wanted to ask him so that he will tell you he doesn't approve so you can tell yourself he "cares" about you? If so, I advise you to grow up and stop playing such games. Because they're extremely immature and very harmful to a relationship.

Or did you ask him because you actually want to go clubbing without you? In that case you surely were hoping for exactly the response that he gave you. In which case I don't understand why you would now have a problem with it. Be happy that he's not an insecure control freak and enjoy your night out.

[Pamina]

*without him

[Asker]

That's what I told him 'If you went clubbing without telling me I d be upset too , that's why i told you' .
So i texted him not for permission but for respect.

But after I explained to him , he just ignored me. I really dont know what's going on

[Pamina]

Wait, so you're wondering if he's just faking being cool with it?

[Asker]

Yes, but tbh I also agree with what you/others say , as not to appear controlling he has to say it's okay even if he is not

[Pamina]

You need to sit down with him and have a serious, honest, open talk about this. Only way.

[Soft4u]

I'm not sure but I doubt if that's the reason, more like he wants you to have fun and he's secure with who he is and his trust in you is real.
I wouldn't like it to be honest if my guy said it like your guy seemed to have said it, he could have gave you an explanation and not have you guessing.

[Asker]

I told him ' I am sorry but if my boyfriend went clubbing without telling me I d be mad and that's why I asked you'. But he just didn't say anything

[TallJamaican1991]

He most likely cares about you and he trusts you. I'm saying this with the assumption that you have not seen any evidence of him being unfaithful or distant. Since he is trusts you enough to be ok with you clubbing with your friends, the best thing you can do is reward his trust by not cheating on him and allowing him to go out with his friends too.

[Kipperbo1]

It means he trusts you... it’s a good thing. Why would you want him to tell you where you can or can’t go?

[Asker]

Bc going clubbing is different , has a lot of drunk people , dancing and flirting. So I d like him to know at least.

[Kipperbo1]

Well he knows, and he’s ok with it. He trusts you not to flirt back or sleep with other guys.

[Jaysonava]

Well clubs are for sex. SO you should go with him or to a less suspicious venue. Maybe with music so no one gets the wrong idea.

[Asker]

Those are friends I know before I started to date him. And I also invited him he doesn't want to go

[Asker]

I also know a lot people go clubbing for sex
But I m just going bc my friends are going. I explained to him , It hurt me that he ignored my explanation

[Jaysonava]

I see. That's awesome!

[vald9inches]

its possible he just doesn't care or he meant like he trusts you

[Asker]

Ya that's the thing I m not sure about.

[vald9inches]

its his choice of words that concern me

[Asker]

He just said ' you dont need to tell me'

[Asker]

So I said 'I want to inform you bc I d be upset if my boyfriend went clubbing without telling me'.
But he said nothing , that made me scared if I said something wrong

[vald9inches]

that and he also said he doesn't care lol

[vald9inches]

did you guys get in a fight recently?

[Asker]

Not at all. In fact we never had a big fight for 7 months that we dated

[vald9inches]

well if he doesn't care he doesn't care just do whatever you want and go clubbing whenever you want

[TripleAce]

Ya whateves. Go have fun
We know you ain’t doing nothing. You asked all politely 😛

[fauchelevent]

No, just sounds like he respects your freedom

[jimyee]

It sounds like he trusts you.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he isn’t the jealous type or he trusts you

[Asker]

he is the jealous type , once we hung out in an event with a lot of people he had to stick by my side because another guy who likes me also showed up

[Opinion Owner]

Well hopefully he just trusts you then

[CosmicallyNerdy]

It means he trusts you not to cheat.

[Anonymous]

likely doesn't like to party

[facialhair27]

Dump him! He is not a MAN

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Lol... Normally its me calling guys cucks, but in this situation, how the fuck is her guy being wet?