Do you honestly think you'll be alone forever and why? (Page 3)

Question

It's probably just specific to people on this site, but lately I've been talking to users (mostly guys, but some girls) who believe they'll be alone forever.I don't know where they get this idea. I find that most often times it's people standing in their own way and putting themselves down for things they can change with a little hard work or allowing quasi-rejection or rejection to stop them cold turkey.Do you honestly think you'll be alone forever and why?I'm single, yes. But I'm not going to cry a river about it and wait to die of old age alone... I don't have that kind of attitude and it pains me to see that other people give up so easily. Anything worth having is worth fighting for.

Ju1cedup · Answer

Its just a vicious cycle... go on a cold streak.. lose self-confidence.. enforces that streak... go helpless... become even less approachable.. and BOOM .. giving up and hitting that rock-bottom..

well I'm guessing that's how it works.. not speaking from experience... EVERYBODY! LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, THEN IT ALL COMES EASY!

mike5150 · Answer

Maybe not forever but for the forseable future. I never really had much confidence with asking women out, and the few times I actualy gave it a try I ended feeling 10 times worse than I would if I never even said anything. Unless a women comes to me I probably ain't going to be making any moves.

MrNameless · Answer

You'll only be forever alone for sure, if you have that mindset, push people away, and never try to take the initiative to finding people. Give it a shot at least.

razhadalax · Answer

Yes, most people, most of the time, are their own biggest saboteurs. There are exceptions of course in the case of people who for some reason (exceptional deficiencies in the looks department maybe?) can have confidence, brains and smarts but will sadly be disadvantaged. Those so unfortunate, are a small minority tho.

akkenny · Answer

Im 19 and never been on a date or kissed and seems like I'm one of the very few left were I live. Causing me to be shy and reserved around girls. I will never approach or make a first move. Feel like I'm falling behind to start something now with someone ill be happy with. ( I happen to have standards) but definelty not unreal ones)

Anonymous · Answer

Yes women are kind of unstable and always meeting and hitting on other guys even if they are taken. Always upgrading. Anything can p*ss them off. Their is always a guy who is wanting to hit on her. Divorce rate is to high in America... For the most part women suck... I and I'm sure many guys can give hundreds of reasons...

erekmax · Answer

Well, in most cases being alone is better than being with the wrong person. It's easy enough to find someone and settle just for the sake of not being alone. The difficulty is finding someone you actually want to be with.  I don't know if I'll end up alone or not but I definitely don't want to settle just because I'm scared to be alone.

townems · Answer

LONER 4 LIFE!

i'm never had any serious relatoinships or friends in my life, and I have no problem with that. It's just who I am. I learned to make friends superficially with anyone I meet, but I'm proud to say that the only person who understands me is me

Biggus_Dickus · Answer

Of course I'll be alone forever. I'm an asshole and don't deserve companionship. But you can't change a leopards spots aye? I'll always have my insane sense of humour and I enjoy it. Just because girls can't enjoy anything but what the magazines tell them they should enjoy doesn't bother me.

stevo · Answer

Hell yes I do. Why? Sorry, enchanted, but I really don't have so much of an answer for you. It's one long, boring, winding story.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope and I'm a 21 year old virgin. My reason?

If a person is more individualistic their are more likely to commit suicide; fact. Which would end a person's life faster than dying of old age which is not forever lmao

Also girls say I'm cute and I think I am intelligent to snag a great woman that I meet.

sirrobbins · Answer

I have quite a lot of medical complications including an auto immune disease (primary progressive MS) which makes many aspects of my life difficult. I would be a burden to someone and feel I'm better for the other's sake to be alone. I have lost the ability to have kids or even sex as the disease has cut communication from the brain and penis off. How would one even go out into the world of relationships and say kids and sex are non-negotiable? I just avoid it as it is easier for me and likely beneficial for whoever I would meet to avoid

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes, I do... reasons are:

- I always have bad guys came into my life. I kinda give up trying to find a good guy;

- It has been too long...I am addicted to single life;

- The older I am, the harder I trust people;

Not that I like it like this though. I hope to look at this in better prospective, but things that happened to me bring me this way.

Anonymous · Answer

in my oppinion its your outlook on life... if you keep telling yourself that youve given up then its probs not going to come along for ages, be optimistic about it. think of the most annoying/ most horrible people you know... if they can get somebody to love them then you can. that's what I think haah

Anonymous · Answer

I do get that feeling every now and then since I am in love and the person I am in love is not sure of the future.  I can say that I am stuck in to the love tirangel but I am not giving up on my love towards him and neither am I pushing him over the limit to make hte decision. But the time is ticking and m getting older every year and it might get harder for me to find someone if things don't work out with my first love. BUt I would happily stay single and live to the fullest then to just end up with anyone for the heck of getting rid of loneliness.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 24, a virgin, don't have a job, an education,a car, a drivers license, and It don't look like I'll ever have any of those things any time in the future.

thanks government funded education!

thanks republicrats.

thanks Washington!

talk about falling through the cracks of society.

Anonymous · Answer

I sure hope not... I have thought that at one point... I don't really have a great track record with guys. The first guy I liked died, the second one went out with four of my best friends a week after dumping me, the third is actually turning out okay... He is actually still my friend after everything...and the guy  I like now... Well, he is I love with my best friend...so yeah... I'm unlucky but God as a plan for me.

Alex_fl05 · Answer

Best thing I learned, (after being real SHY, and fearful of girls) Experiment new things and overcome your fears. Always be positive and don't ever think of anything negative even if you wal up to a girl and she rejects you, laugh it off and say you can do better or anything just not negativity.

Littletad · Answer

I'm beginning to be fine with it. Not everyone finds someone in life. It's important what you do with your time that matters most. I think no one should ever truly give up, but sometimes... it just happens.

Anonymous · Answer

I know I already answered, but the older I get , the more I think so.. right just now a really cute girl came into the restarant (where I work), and I felt like breaking down because I knew a girl like her would never go for me

and the longer it takes, tbe more we dig into depression :(

dman2121 · Answer

I am single at age 42, never married. been replaced by the following in the few relationships I have had, two drug dealers, a pimp, 2 drummers in garage bands, drunk abusive farmer, and to top it off a convicted rapist; all were considered better-dating/ marriage options than me. Those were ones I dated plus the hundred of flat out" got a boyfriend", "your so sweet","your such a nice guy" rejections I have heard over my life time. plus a decade of only a single response from a living person on online dating, so something is obviously wrong with me. so yea single forever is what life has dealt me. just now i am no longer pretending i have a chance.

Twizzy · Answer

For me I've had my ups and downs on this subject, part of it due to medical issues another part due to emotional issues. There are times I've felt I will find someone and be happy, but there are times I've felt like I'll be forever alone. Right now I'm kinda in of my down spots. I recently met a girl that lived in a different country, she said she didn't want to date anyone right now so I tried to keep my emotions from getting the best of me, we did flirt with each other and I knew she kinda liked me but being she wasn't looking to date I figured I'd be respectful and just try and be friends and hide my emotions. Well as the saying goes "nice guy's finish last" when I logged into Facebook the other day I seen she was in a relationship with someone. At that moment by heart basically just shattered. And right now I just feel broken.

happyhappy1983 · Answer

Im on the same boat as Dylan 1989. The difference is I had a couple women in my life and minus the god stuff. I also have tried in the past striking up conversations with women I'm attracted to and this usually ends up seeing if they have BF's or asking them out, the outcome is always the same. I also had a bad break up last year with my ex and can't let it go. All this has made me lazy and burnt out to the point where I just don't care anymore and just make friends. I also have the curse too since I'm also a very attractive guy according to women. I accept myself as I am , but just hate my family and friends asking me all the time "When am I going to get a GF"? and also "When are you going to start dating"? I usually respond "I didn't know I was required to" and "I actually prefer being alone and am happy". I guess making friends is a good strategy. Even though women claim they are equal to men? Big majority will always wait for the man to do the first move.

TheGuyFromMiddleEast · Answer

Because I suck at human relationships, have very little to no friends, and am really bad at meeting new people. When you combine these, I'm like a bicycle if you would think a normal human being is a sedan. I can't accelerate nor gain a high speed compared to an ordinary person.

kayharr · Answer

It's true that people get discouraged and think 'How can someone who I love ever love me back?". I don't think that these people give up on love I just think that they are having a tough time and don't believe that things will change.

bioweapon154 · Answer

Naw, someone has to see the good in me just like someone is going to find an attractive wife in you. I used to be afraid about it, but I am not any longer afraid. Perhaps going to church does have its benefits lol.

martyfellow · Answer

A lot of young guys meet only golddiggers and lesbians, they're an awfully big fraction of US young women these days. Personally I married a Venezuelan for these reasons.

Guys who aren't into minority cultures in the US have a really hard time!

Anonymous · Answer

I thought would be alone and be the last to get married. But all of a sudden things may change, I men during the summer I was all alone and now there's 10 men after me and I'm not trying to sound cocky but there's hope. I met a really great guy. He's sweet and says in beautiful everyday, I never thought I would find a guy like that in a thousand years but I did. So there always hope. And if you can't find anyone take some peoples advice. You can learn a lot from other peoples experiences. :)

MandMandM · Answer

No.  People like being with other people, and there's an endless supply.  To pair up you just need to meet someone who has acceptable attributes and who can stand you, and who needs and who is prepared to make acceptable compromises.

hardblond1 · Answer

No, I don't let it bother me as I have great family and friends that allow me to feel love already.

Any one who has trouble finding that must search for real love within themselves first before seeking it from any one else.

peacenic · Answer

the irony's of life,it seems most of my life all the Ladie's I was attracted to said," Your to Young.." last week,they started saying," Your to old !..." hahahahaaa. so to answer this,probably...

brendhan22 · Answer

yeah well the porblem is every girl I meet rejects me I have yet to meet a girl who would seriously give me a chance and is looking and interested in me at least in that way. and I can't really look anywhere else right now since I am stuck here its really frusturating.

Anonymous · Answer

I know I'll be alone forever, at this point I don't even pay attention to girls in real life anymore, its pointless because I have nothing going for me

EddyMetal · Answer

I'll be dying alone, but I won't be crying about it.

yoyo123 · Answer

Yup, I'm 23 soon to be 24 and have never had a serious relationship. I just feel like all guys are kind of the same and have lost my faith in lasting relationships

DaveMicharl69 · Answer

At times I do, but I shake it off & keep trying. I've made a few cool friends just by answering questions on this site!

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I think I'll be alone at least until I establish myself as an adult. Im currently a junior in high school and moved across the state over the summer. In high school it's so hard to make friends because everyone has grown up with each other and have fit into their cliques. As an outsider looking in its very hard to find the confidence to go up to someone new and try to be friendly, especially since the new mindset is to insult and make fun of others if they aren't perfect. Mix these issues with social anxiety and a lack of confidence in one's abilities or appearance and you have the perfect storm of a conditioned lonely person.

FrancoBattiato · Answer

Forever alone by choice. I'd rather die alone than give way to the chance that I'd move on and it turn out she was waiting for me. I'd just die all over again inside.

brrfive · Answer

Hi Enchanted, I think sometimes we want certain things that are very specific and the probability of finding it is very small and the pain of being rejected is very great. However, I still try sometimes.

enijah · Answer

I don't have the slightest clue I've been trying a lot recently but I'm not good at the game play and interepting people really and I'm shy and reserved so maybe, lol

kristineee · Answer

i think that one day you may find someone who loves you, and you love too. But that moment may not be today, or tommorow :D

And your attitude is great because I'm sing too, and I don't care. It's better to be in no relationship than in some that you may later regret :)

divomotto · Answer

You really have to work at it to be alone or to be with some. Just like you have to really work to Fail a class and get an A in it depending how much you care or do not care.

softestar7 · Answer

I feel like I won't be alone forever, but because of my previous relationship and how crappy I was treated in return for taking care of him it creeps into my mind that I may be too broken to be in something serious again. I feel as though life is a journey and I'm ready to accept this either way.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not certain I'll be alone, I just worry because I have like two zits on my forehead, just brown hair, 70AA boobs, and all that junk then I remind myself of my good stuff like hazel eyes, no backne personality. it helps to anyone who feels this way, remind yourself guys aren't everything and you can still have fun

doctorwhofan23 · Answer

I kind of feel like I will. I mean I am shy and not the best looking I feel like no girl will even notice me.

Anonymous · Answer

simply because I keep on falling for the wrong ones.. and because every time I get hurt it makes it harder to trust others and open up.. that's why

but love is love and I know that we all give it a million chances..

Anonymous · Answer

I'm married.

so I really don't think I'll be alone, but I was single up till I was 24.

I think people just have to give other people a chance and date around. I believe you find what you are looking for if you keep searching.

sikoo31 · Answer

nothing in life is for sure except for death, so even though I don't think I'll be alone, cause I'm not right now, its not for sure. so I really couldn't say.

Anonymous · Answer

wow that's depressing. I don't think I will be alone forever, and I'd rather die than be alone forever...seriously. if I'm 40 and stil single I'd rather be dead. life is so boring alone..u need someone else to love.<3

Cupcakecutie0 · Answer

Yes, because I never put my whole self out there. At least not for a while. Most girls give up by then. Which sucks for them :D

Arwens-Fire · Answer

No...i think he will come around eventually. In the interim,i will just live and enjoy my life until...:)

Anonymous · Answer

there's a good chance of me being forever alone. I'm too immature and crazy, hence why my relationships cannot grow. And I'm fucking terrified of the thought of trusting someone and letting them in since they'll probably end up ditching or I'll push them away. I screw things up, especially with people I love. I get needy, I get moody, I get distant, I want to be close, I get confused. I don’t understand all of it, but I feel like I'll never be able to let someone in and trust them enough to fall in love and have sex and get married and have kids and that sappy couple shit. Yeah I don't know if this is even a proper answer I just typed whatever.

Anonymous · Answer

I just feel like there just aren't any reasons in my life that lead me to believe that things will change. I feel like no matter how hard I try and no matter how hard I keep smashing my head against the wall I end up with the same result. Never had a girl go on more than two dates. They always totally refuse to return calls after that. I have never had a girl like me back. Never had a girlfriend. Never gotten to even hold hands. I shouldn't have to become an entirely different person just to get noticed, I am who I am. I feel like I will only ever be that nice guy who gets tossed right off the bat

mridgeralph · Answer

im not gonna write an essay. with the way life works now I probably will be alone the rest of my life because I'm not a woman beater, I don't have an 8 pack, and I'm not mentally correlative to a 5th grader.

cjwright79 · Answer

Well I can and do dream about people, so I don't really feel alone even if I'm technically flying solo.

Anonymous · Answer

The longest I've gone without a girlfriend is 5 years the next longest was 2.  but it always feels like it is going to be forever when you are going through it.  sometimes it bothered me during those years sometimes it didn't.

shakeandbake · Answer

im straight and rediculously intimidated by women, simple as. worse things in life though so I keep my head up.

slyshea · Answer

I think people know themselves, and know that they can't be with anyone. At least,..that's how I feel, and I'm okay with that.

TheManHimself · Answer

I actually was thinking about it today, but that was just because I saw a p*rn with a girl that had a hairy ass. So it was just a moment thing.

LilyBee · Answer

lol I'm not alone now. I have some friends, family, etc. If you mean bf/gf, no I don't think I'll be alone forever. :)

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