Child support is often necessary, but it needs to be recalculated and there needs to be some standards for spending it responsibly.
For example, my mother has a cousin, who had 3 kids and divorced the guy, and fought for sole custody. Then she spent nearly every cent of the child support money on herself. The kids got hand-me-down clothes for Christmas, and were passed of to other relatives as much as possible so that she wasn't paying for meals, etc. My cousin (the oldest daughter) got what may have been her first pair of NEW shoes at 16 with her own money. That's the kind of crap that needs to end.
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Banned? No. Hell no. It works both ways, it's more common for a woman to get custody, but I grew up with my dad for the first part of my life. Kids are parasites, and financial burdens. I think it's reasonable to expect someone to help pay for the needs of a kid they brought into the world, and want to be involved with. I wouldn't mind if it could somehow be audited, to ensure it goes toward the kid's needs though, but I dunno how you'd implement that.
I do think paper abortions should be a thing though, but that also involves giving up the rights to be a parent to the child in any capacity.
I know this question is for guys but child support is really about the child. Why would you want a little girl or a little boy who is completely innocent and completely dependant on their parents to survive to go without?
That being said, I agree that, if a guy decides not to participate in a child's life, he should be given the choice to walk away. His responsibilities shouldn't be forced on him. It's better for a child to be without a parent than to have a resentful one.
I am still curious as to why you think all mothers should be sole providers in general though?
No. But if it's proven that the mother is not taking care of her child, funding should be cut and the child should go to the person who can be most responsible. The key point is the child, not who has the money. My father had to pay child support for my older sister. But the point is this. DO NOT open up your legs before marriage, that's what I say. If they did and they get pregnant, I pity NO ONE.
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We talk about the right of a woman to treat her 'own body' the way she wants to. But we don't talk about the obligation that she is enforcing on the man. We just say "Well, it's your child, if you didn't want one, you shouldn't have had sex."
But, fundamentally, the woman is making the decision of whether or not the man is the father. Unilaterally. He has no choice in the matter. To that end, if she wants the child and he doesn't, it only makes sense to me that she be the one to provide for it. ESPECIALLY if she wants the child *without a father*.
That's fucked up. And it's the reason I need to get a vasectomy.Ladies and gentlemen, a glimpse inside the mind of a true statist, under TOTAL AND COMPLETE MIND CONTROL!!!
The premise of this question is retarded. Why on earth would we need to ban child support? How about, oh I dunno... JUST GETTING RID OF THE LAWS WHICH FORCE MEN TO PAY IT?
Fucking christ... it's always ban this, ban that, ban ban ban all day... this is how government grows and grows. Even the people who wanna shrink the government think that instituting a ban is the best way to go about it x. xIn california can declare a man to be the father of her child and sue him for child support and its to the man to prove that he isn't the father by taking a DNA test and he only gets 30 days to do so if doesn't do it in that time then a court can declare him the father even if he prooves that he is not later on.(Disrupting paternity).
A woman can sue a sperm donor for child support (Kansas court was in the news).
A woman who gets pregnant with stolen sperm can sue the man she stole the sperm from for child support (Uptown "woman used sperm from oral sex to get pregnant, gets child support"/ Woman has twins with ex-boyfriend's stolen sperm , courts rule ex to pay child support/ Woman steals ex-husband's sperm and collects almost 200k in child support/<- all of them are true look them up).
Child support is dumb just like the fact that almost every time the parenthood is granted to the woman unless the father proves she is unfit to care for the children.Yep. Shared custody makes more sense. A kid would spend equal time with either parent. Each parent would have the same amount of burden in supporting their child financially and could make their own decisions on how they spend money on their child. The kid would get to know and build a relation with both their mom and dad as they grow up. Extorting a man under penalty of imprisonment so that a women gets a free check would be criminal in any other context.
The question should be more like: Should we let an innocent child have the support they need, or not. Should we require parents to support their child, or let the child suffer neglect.
Yes, and to come to that conclusion we have to look at the reasons for there having to be child support payments in the first place.
A woman has to have a child by a man.
For them to split up either he has to be an asshole or she is an asshole.
If women don't get paid, then they have to make the choice of
A: don't get pregnant by an asshole
B: don't be an asshole
C: be financially independent and able to support a child by themselves.If the father never wanted the kid he should be able to get a financial abortion. If he stayed with the kid and the parents split he should have to pay some money for the kid assuming that he has less custody of the kid. Although if he wanted equal or full custody and is a decent parent he shouldn't have to pay because the mother took the kid from him.
If a father is seeing there kids on a regular basis and i mean 3 to 4 times a week including at least 2 to 3 nights staying over no they should not have to pay, but if your only seeing your kids once a week then I think definitely unless you are of course contributing towards clothes and food and other things then I would say no you shouldn, t have to
Yes and no. If a woman gets pregnant and both parents want to have a child, and then the relationship goes bad and the parents split, the father should pay child support.
However, if a woman gets pregnant and she wants to keep the child and the father does not, at that point, while abortion is still an option, the father should have the option to opt out, just as the mother has the option to abort.Guys need to start refusing the culture which creates these situations
Marry young, make babies, and stay committed.
Divorce should be seen as something super undesirable and shameful.
as well as abandoning children. This sort of thing doesn't happen in strong communities and families that often.As a man that pays child support i think what the woman spends it on should be monitored. I still have to buy clothes for my children and food for when they are with me, not to mention activities and toys / books/ gadgets to keep them occupied. I'm struggling with money whilst the mother recieves benefits as well as child maintenance.
My cousin’s 10 year old son is living with him full time in CO as of January. The mom lives in Florida and I believe she owes monthly child support.
There should be no child support because custody should automatically be 50/50 unless PROVEN abuse (not some liar claiming abuse to steal someone's kid and get money for it). Anyone that disagrees on the automatic 50/50 custody is purely sexist and doesn't deserve any say at all.
Depends, in California the laws suck so not only does the wife get half of the man's cash/belongings, he has to pay child support. Its ridiculous since some guys make far less than the ex-wife, and in most cases she runs him dry. It depends, I think there should be for clear specifications like if the wife can depend on her own. If a guy pays child support just let him keep the dang kid!!!
If the father never wanted a kid, he should have kept it in his pants!!!
That being said, I do think men should have a right to opt out to a certain extent.Absolutely. It's amazing that the states that are now trying to abolish child support and alimony are the states in which women have been most affected by both. When women suddenly have to pay for divorce, it's not something they want anymore. Funny that.
I don't think it should be banned but I think it should be monitored better because I know a few people that abuse the heck out of the child support that the man pays and the kids are in like rags and it's 2019 they got have a better way to do it but every man needs to pay up for his kid I have three thank God they all live with me but what's right as what's right
Its nice to see how women are open to no child support if the man doesn't want the baby after this whole no abortion thing for women
muahah, and just like that... it puts them right in their place again 😛If child support is banned, abortion needs to be 100% legal across the board. If men escape a pregnancy so should women.
I think in cases where the mother battles to get full custody of the children AND forces the father to pay child support it should be. Because if the father is the only one who can financially support them, they should be living with him anyway
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