I was manipulated into sex by a guy who I thought loved me. If you have never been manipulated into having sex with someone, it feels very violating. The act in itself seems very predatory, and you question how something so sinister is even legal. I won't lie it feels almost as violating as I imagine being raped might feel because you know you gave consent and that the man can completely get away with taking advantage of you because you unknowingly let it happen wherein you would have done things differently had you known the truth. You can't take it back, you can't point any fingers, all you can do is try to come to terms with what happened. There are so many women in the world who would have readily fucked my ex. He was a good enough looking guy, had a pretty decent lifestyle. So all I could think about was "why me?" Why did he see me minding my business and feel so entitled and lustful of me that he would connive against me like that? If he had told me from the beginning that all he wanted was sex then he most likely would have never gotten to sleep with me. But I just wonder if taking my virginity or any of the times after that was worth making me feel so bad. Why isn't the choice to say no good enough for some men? It sucks when you try to remember the signs and come to the conclusion that their WERE no signs. Being preyed upon by someone in that way is damaging! How do you even begin to fix the damage that this kind of experience causes? With me being a pretty girl I always knew this was something I had to watch out for. I never had a guy directly tell me his intentions because they we're afraid I would cut them off completely if their intention didn't align with my own. I have caught a few guys in the act, but I can never spot the difference between those low lives and a guy who's intentions are sincere.
How do you avoid guys who pretend to be in love just so they can have sex with you?
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