So I saw this tweet on my timeline and wanted to know if guys seriously feel this way, since it’s (almost) always the woman that’s getting compliments :)
Is a simple compliment enough for a guy to get him interested in you?
He's being a bit hyperbolic to make a point, but yes.
There are lots of attractive girls around that he is paying attention to and then some more who he would pay attention to if she was nice to him and appeared to be presenting an opportunity for him. I would also say yes, they are generally 'starved' to some extent and this just intensifies a guy's reflex to notice interest in women wherever there's a chance it may be. Because of the way these things are with girls refusing to approach and do things, etc, guys reflexively look for anything that could be interest. A simple compliment sparks the possibility that she's into him. Although after a few experiences with women environmental influences begin to teach that girls often say this stuff without meaning anything more by it. So for most guys they'll notice the reflex to consider if she's interested and then fight it off with the culturally learned understanding that she's just being a girl and it doesn't mean anything.
And all this is just mundane existence for most guys.
Yeah, I would agree with that in part. I think women do get the bulk of compliments but it’s not clear to me that these compliments are for the best of intentions or even honest to begin with. I also think that it’s more socially acceptable for people to give women compliments as opposed to giving men compliments. Men and women have no issues giving women compliments, but giving men compliments can create some misconceptions. If a woman gives a man a compliment, then that must mean she’s automatically interested in him, and if a man gives another man a compliment then that must mean he’s gay or something of that nature. Women give women compliments a lot even though a lot of it can be false. Likewise, men can give it women compliments even though it’s not entirely true and strictly for the purposes of getting sex or intimacy of some sort. There’s probably other reasons why women get more compliments than men, but I’ll just leave it at that for now.
Interesting topic. I often like to compliment my friends, workmates etc. both females and males just because I want to be nice for them. Usually I would say something about their looks, like "wow, is that shirt new? The color looks very good on you" or "you have a new haircut! Suits to your face shape very well!" Small simple things like that. Why do I do that? Simply because I like to bright up their day and because it's part of my personality. You never know if someone is having a bad day and is totally messed up, so even a small nice comment might make them to feel better.
But also, I only compliment someone if I really mean it. I hate when people pretend, so I never want to do that to others. I'm always honest and mean what I say. Have to be honest, there has been some cases where my actions have been misunderstood.
Compliments definitely will make a guy more likely to have interest in you, but it's not always a perfect chance. Like girls, guys do have insecurities, and they like being reassured. Mostly, Male insecurity is caused by not feeling masculine enough, or not being attractive enough, so capitalize. on those things and any interests the guy might have. However, I should mention that if a guy doesn't find a girl attractive or he finds the girls personality to be a turn off, a compliment isn't enough. Just be yourself and someone will come along who will put you above all else. That's when you know you've found someone worthy of your time. Find someone who won't let you open doors, and would put his life on the line for you.
Its an exaggeration but in my opinion not by much. If you act nice towards a guy especially consistently he will assume you are interested because again, this is completely abnormal, either he is ignored or treated like shit, their is rarely an inbetween.
Honestly, yes. (At least for me.) Guys tend to just exist. They're not really sought after unless they are in the top percentile either in wealth or genetics. The rest of us are just trying to get through life with some semblance of love and companionship with someone that they can be genuinely attracted to which is a pretty easy. Guys like thin girls, thick girls, big boobs, little boobs, tall, short, blonde, brunette, light skinned, dark skinned, light eyes, dark eyes. Were pretty easy to please. If I'm attracted I'm attracted. Problem is I feel like a ghost. Even when I build the courage to approach woman I find attractive now a days it's like they're bothered for taking even a second of their time. I'm either wasting her time or mine. So I just keep ghosting minding my own business pretty much empty. Issue with that is that at this point I don't even think I'd know how to operate any other way. A few booty calls on their schedule and back to going to sleeping alone the next night.
I don't think this is all strictly true - women do like and are attracted to men, not all women like the same man obviously, but that goes for guys with women too. Women generally don't approach men because it's not in Western culture really; in the UK at least, and most of Europe as far as I've experienced, it's the men who tend to do the asking out.
I agree, which is basically what I said in a nutshell. Most of it was personal and that not everyone is everyone else's type. But men are more generally attracted to a broader base of women than women are of men. That's all that the rest meant. Which isn't that surprising because it is western culture that the man is expected to approach the woman, where in today's climate that can be a bit sensitive. Most of the guys that I know ranging in age from their 40's to their early 20's rather not deal with it if she hasn't shown at least a bit of interest first. This is especially true to my circle of engineering friends that have a lot to lose.
Professor Barclay isn't far off. We are much easier to win over nowadays because no one shows us any affection anymore and we are as he said, starved for it. Men need kindness. They need love and appreciation. They need to feel that they mean something. We need women. Regardless of what dumb Men's Rights activists say, we need women in our lives.
It depends on how desperate a guy is, some guys will go crazy for you and start imagining stuff if a girl accidentally even looks at them.
Some guys know how well that stand and they do whatever the fuck they want.
I'm not a feminist or anything, but this is not a fucking issue, a guy isn't being complimented? big fucking deal.. Good looking guys get complimented all the time.
I get complimented often so its not so true for me. But, in highschool it was, I remember falling in love with the girl who sat behind me because she said "You smell good" she even stole my sweater haha <3 I was hooked!
But as I grew older and compliments came rolling in I didn't react the same way. Also it depends on the woman giving you the compliment.
If you give a compliment, be specific. It's more "your eyes are such a sparkling blue, they remind me of a beach", rather than" you look good" or "your eyes are nice".
But I digress- - - -
I wouldn't think that one compliment is enough to "seal the deal", but it certainly couldn't hurt.
Very true unless he looks like a male model. Men receive vastly disproportionate amounts of admiration compared to most mildly attraive women. This also is a big reason why many girls avoid complimenting men, because guys can turn a small positive comment into a sexual advance immediately.
Probably not the guy you'd want to go out with. Or any other girl for that matter. Women like confident men with high self esteem. His statement might cover a lot of men, but then they're probably the ones lowest on the desirability ladder.
Ofc guys want attention. They love it it makes them feel like not only good enough for you but also about themselves. Imagine you compliment someone and you rarely ever get one back you'd feel like garbage? It's the same thing.
What he meant is an average desperate internet sex-obsessed loser who would bang a doe if it would stop by the side of the street for him. But the men most women actually wish to attract, are going to take much more effort than that.
I think it can be true. Like with my last relationship, it was all about her. I gave so much and did everything for her, yet she couldn't take the time to understand my own emotional needs. It would have been nice to get more compliments from her to help build my confidence, but instead I found myself miserable. Guys like to be treated nice too.
Nope, usually aren't that easy. But, women nowadays are so used to just being surrounded with compliments about every dumb thing they do yet if you're a guy that's not from the top 1%, then deal with nothing.
Yes, guys are not often complimented. So if you compliment are on anything about them, they will think about it all day, weather or not they will like you in that way depends on the guy, but if you keep up being no nice, they will probably end up liking you
Compliments don't do much for me for some reason. But I am a sucker for physical touch. Say a girl I don't like quite that way sits on my lap. I'll probably like her that way soon after.
I think I have a distrust of compliments for some reason, maybe in part because I asked some girls out who gave me them when I was young and got rejected, so I was confused and just started to hate compliments (I neither give them much or care much about receiving them). Also when I look at Hallmark cards, I cringe. I think aside from distrusting compliments, they seem very cliche and unoriginal to me almost always. But physical touch works really well. If a girl brushes her body all over me or hugs me super tight, that'll probably do something.
A really original compliment showing extreme observation might work for me, not so much to flatter but just showing that she's really paying attention to me. For example, I have a scar on my upper left eyelid which is really hard to notice unless someone is paying very close attention. So if she compliments me on that scar, I don't feel flattered but I would be impressed that she was paying such close attention to me.
I think so for a lot of men. It’s so unexpected and it is a good sign so they start thinking about you. Basically, many of us are as dense as a box of rocks in identifying when a woman is interested but this is an easy one.
For me no. I'm not cheap. You're not going to talk your way into my pants. With a few compliments. You're going to actually have to make an effort. Show me you truly care about me.
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