Why does a guy that seems interested in you ignore you the next day?

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I was talking to this guy and we were flirting back and forth last night and I felt that spark and connection we had. He was being very flirty with me and interested in meeting me our convos flowed. I genuinely felt like he was interested. So then I told him I’ll let him sleep and he was like “message me tomorrow or something. And I said “u can messege me first 😉 goodnight 💜.” So then he didn’t open my message anymore probably felt asleep. Then this morning he opened it and replied back to my flirty text and texted “good morning how are u.”? And I replied so then he replied in a flirty way calling me a bad girl and sending these 😉😏 emojis. So then I replied back in a flirty way again and asked if he has work tomorrow. He opened it at 9pm and didn’t reply back to me. I’m just so confused things were fine and he even said to me I can feel comfortable around him xx.” So why did he ignore my text then he watched my story. I then texted him again “ignoring me now I see 😂😂.” He hasn’t opened it it’s been an hour so don’t know if he’s asleep as he’s been working or I don’t even know anymore.

Aethereal · Accepted Answer

It's really difficult to know for sure without knowing what kind of guy you're dealing with, or at least reading your texts. What kind of person is he? Is he a social butterfly, or more introverted? What were his previous relationships like? Is he a player/fuckboy, or does he have the looks and charm to be one?
Without knowing stuff like that, here are my suggestions for the possible reasons for his behaviour:

- Some guys like the chase for some weird reason. Perhaps he'd have preferred that you play mind games with him. I think that's immature, but to each their own.
- He might be nervous; he didn't expect you'd be so into him, or respond so positively. Now he's getting cold feet or wants to step back.
- He might not see you as a priority (as some other comments have also suggested). He's flirting with someone else that he prefers, and he's also making progress with her.
- He's busy. Which in a way ties to the above point since no one is ever too busy for someone they really care about, or are really interested in.
- You're more invested in him than he is in you. Some guys would love it if a girl was flirting with them and giving them so much attention, others would start feeling suffocated. This ties somewhat to the first point.
- It's possible something that you said, which you thought was you flirting, was actually offensive, or a turn-off to him. If you're a sarcastic person, or are unaware of the values he subscribes to; this might very well be the case.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

He is either a flake, not interested or already has other women he is more interested in. Don't chase him... let it go!

When you text "ignoring me now I see" that sends a message to him that YOU like him a lot and he can basically treat you anyway he wants because you aren't sending the right signals. You should ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior.

Bad behavior doesn't get a text stating "ignoring me now I see" Bad behavior gets no response.

Asia2Europe · Accepted Answer

The first thing that came to my mind is that he is probably occupied at the moment but then when you mentioned that he has viewed your statuses yet he still chose to not respond can mean a lot of things. I mean if you are really busy then why do you still have the time to view my status? One thing for sure is that we also dont know what is happening to him as well... he could be really busy with work. Plus many guys aren't great texters as well to be honest so that could also be a factor. What I am trying to say is that whatever the case may be with him... just let him be for now, you dont want to be those annoying people who keep sending a lot of messages as well so also keep it subtle. Guys can be confusing at times... but whatever the case maybe just dont think of it too much because trust him he isn't thinking about it as well so why waste your time. Try occupying yourself to get your mind off him for a while... the less you stress about it and reshift your focus to other things... the more you even forget checking your phone every two minutes. If he feels like responding he will do so with his own pace... it might take some hours/days depending on him so for the time period just reshift your focus to other things. Plus you aren't dating him yet so you can still technically see other people around you and choose who best fits you so dont panick okay.

KezHarris · Accepted Answer

I suppose, when a man is first getting to know a woman, he's possibly only sexually/physically attracted to her, and probably feels the same attraction towards many girls at once. There's also the chance that he's an asshole who just uses women to help his low self esteem & doesn't care about their feelings (he's too immature then anyway).
When I'm talking to/dating a guy, i have very low expectations of them (on purpose) so that i don't get disappointed. And this might sound slutty, but if you have the mindset of only wanting sex from the man, & if he were to just use you for sex, you wouldn't feel bad/ashamed about it, because that's what you wanted/expected from him. Then you won't get as emotionally attatched to guys, too easily. I hope this helps :)

Nxtawm · Answer

Lol I bet it's cause he wasn't serious and was just flirting for fun. So when you asked if he has work tmr, he probs thought you wanted to hang out irl so he flaked and backed out.

If that's not the case then I think he's moved on, like while he was messaging you, he was talking to another girl and got with her but didn't wanna tell you so he just decided to stop talking.

Butttt these are just guesses lol, just give it some time, giving him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he's busy. At times, if I have a chat open, it may say that I've read it but I haven't actually (sometimes the message may be left on read for a while). So just wait like a day or two lol

Craftsman · Answer

It sounds to me like he is interested. That's something time will tell better than any of our trying to second-guess.
My phone does some strange stuff too sometimes. I've been known to put it on a charger and not see or hear messages or ringing for a while. From the other end of the line it might look like ignoring, but it isn't; it's inattention to where my phone is at the moment. Mine doesn't break, but then there's probably a whole bunch of things that can be covered under that heading.
Since he started being flirty again, he is most likely being truthful, and is interested. If being flirty alternates with ignoring you becomes a habit with him, then that's a bit of a red flag. Under that circumstance, it would probably be better and more satisfying to find another more consistent guy with whom to text.

jmzero · Answer

There could be many reasons why he didn't respond very quickly from life events to a sudden bout of insecurity.

He could even be using a modern text version of the old "dont call for ___ days" rule, except in this version its hours instead of days. The point of it is to induce a feeling of longing or desire.
Or he could simply be flaking out.

My advice is to roll with it for a bit if you really are interested. If he keeps doing so and the time in between texts gets longer then you may have to chalk it up as a loss. But if its him trying to build desire or there's something going on in his life there's no reason not to let it work out ^.^

In short,
while playing the game have fun, but dont let the game play you.

Buckzor · Answer

Maybe he’s just too busy, fell asleep or distracted? Maybe his phone died, or something.

Give it some time, don’t expect a response straight away, expect for the unexpected.

If this continues for the next few days; then there’s an issue and he’s probably found someone else he prefers talking to, is more attracted to or something along those lines.

DanishSaint · Answer

I truly, honestly believe, that modern texting and apps, that actually shows you when someone opened your message etc. are a bad thing! People start to real SO many things into everything- things that would never have been questioned before!
First; there may be 10000 reasons for why people don't respond immediately. Work, private matters, they forget about it - or simply just don't feel like texting all the time. The latter would be me for once! I hate texting and if it is not important and/or in relations to my working day or what I am doing, then I often first reply several days after.
That being said; what flirting goes. Sometimes people simply read different things into encounters, flirts and so on.

Gabrielskaddadle · Answer

Dont be so needy if he doesn't reply for a couple hours then when he does if he doesn't apologise and give a reason dont reply to him for a bit. what girls dont realise is when guys are together we find it disrespectful to be talking to girls instead of contributing to the group. Bros b4 hoes. Mabye he's otherwise occupied in which case just wait it out and see what happens just dont send more messages. Guys r used to being the needy ones so if a girl is needy there's usually something wrong with her

AlexanderJGore · Answer

It could be so many things all people are confusing try reading back over your conversation to see if you can pinpoint anything leading to an answer but based on what I heard it could be maybe he's trying to think things through, maybe (hopefully not) he just decided he didn't want a relationship with you but hope for the best if he really likes you he'll respond if not you're just better than him so don't worry about it too much and be sure to not act desperate that way he knows you don't need him, but he knows that you care sorry for such a long writing

Quidthonian · Answer

I get that a lot on the internet. It bothers me too. I would have a good connection with someone on the other side of the screen for a day, two. Then, they just drop dead. Hence, I don't get my hopes up anymore. I don't get my hopes of meeting someone online who is genuienly interested in me.

What I want is a stable "relationship" with someone. It doesn't have to be flirty; I want to be able to message someone and be fairly certain that they will respond. I highly value long-term communication, getting to know the person on the other side.
My Private Messaging inbox is always open.

arodriguez664 · Answer

I would say maybe letting him come to you is the best option right now. Sending him texts like "ignoring me huh" is kind of a red flag to him that you are emotionally needy/clingy. It might scare him if he is not ready to take on that kind of responsibility. You might want to think about trying to occupy your time with something else so you don't obsessively text him. In this case I think less is more.

Girther10 · Answer

So remember that next time. Be patient and don’t jump to conclusions so fast

sejla · Answer

A lot of people don't text back after 9pm. The phone broke is a classic excuse. Maybe occasionally people's phone do break but it sounds odd. I'm notorious for having my phone go dead without realizing it.

Just let it go and don't text for awhile and see if he shows some interest. The part where you said are you ignoring me could be a red flag to a guy especially if you just met. He might think you attach too fast.

Screenwriter · Answer

Do you know this person IN person? Do you know their work schedule? What happens at night is during most people's "free" time. How long have you known this person? If this is just an online connection and it's new, stop being so despearate and demanding! If he contacts you, he contact you. If he doesn't, he's busy. Everyone has a life. Be patient. If it takes too many days. Move along to someone new.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

1) he could be actually busy
2) people advice him to not be too clingy
3) he is chatting to other women
4) he lost interest

Never assume the guy likes you and he wants commitment. You have to ask where you and him stand. If he gives you a response you don't like, you give him some time to change and leave. Life is too short to wait around.

Jjpayne · Answer

Patience is important. I'm not sure how he feels about you but it seems like at this point in the game it's surface level so fishing. I'd leave a detailed final message with basically your feelings about wanting to follow up then wait it out and see what happens that's what I would do thanks for the follow by the way

Bananaman177 · Answer

Women play mind games every single day, all day long, on everyone all the time, and then they act completely shocked and appalled when some guy they like plays a mind game on them.

Here's a rule of thumb ladies: If you ever get the feeling that life is unfair or that you're being treated unjustly, it's a safe bet that someone is giving you a taste of your own medicine.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve had a guy recently do the same thing with me (except I’m not into him). I think they’re just horny. If they speak to you more at night time, it means they’re into one thing. sex. If he makes an effort to message you in the day then he’s probably more interested in you as a person. I’d give it a few days and see what comes of it, but if it becomes regular behaviour then I’d let it go.

SexyAshh · Answer

he's talking to other girls. All men do until theyve decided to make you the only one. You are just not top runner.

Besides that fact, he got bored with the convo.

Nothing more to say. Ill end convos too and not reply after a while if im bored. Then once i get a text like that ignore it too because it starts feeling smothering.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

You're overthinking it. Be patient, if he likes you, then he won't stop liking you in-between one message and the next. If he doesn't like you, then that will become clear one way or another soon enough. Sometimes I ignore texts from my own family and best friends, just coz I'm busy, or not in the right headspace to invest in carrying on a text chain. So I get back to people whenever I feel I can give them my actual attention. Just... chill. lol

hellacray · Answer

The guy has work. You really expect him to reply immediately all the time?

A guy has errands, needs to eat, and relax a little after work. Not to mention maybe he's out with his friends, I think you just need to chill.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he was interested in meeting you, hoping you'd have sex with him.

When a guy says: "message me tomorrow or something", I wish he'd be polite and say please. Otherwise it just sounds like he's telling us rather than asking.

Pesky phones, when they break! lol

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