[...] become the type the girl is tempted to date [because] she's fed up with assholes [...]
You'd feel like you're being used right?
Must admit I used to draw lots like that in the beginning. I guess I have a demeanor about IRL that draws those types. I have found it a warning sign though like there's a probability of some baggage and issues and insecurities there. So if I was to give advice to my younger self, I'd say to slow down and don't dive into dating.
>> You'd feel like you're being used right?I don't know about "used" but in my opinion, it can become like a "desperation". I've come to see things like relative ability to "choose" is a good thing. If I use a simple example, a small and frail man in a physical confrontation *may* be wise and brave and avoid conflict with a bigger man confronting him, but he could also be a coward desperate to avoid a fight. But it's easier to deduce a more meaningful sense of "choice" from the opposite scenario: of a bigger man with a small and frail man confronting him when he chooses to be kind and patient. There is no fear or desperation in this context, for sure.So when navigating suspicious scenarios like this, I prefer more investigation.
Before instead of investigating, I bought into the temptation of dating the girl and wanting her, and even noble ideas of loving her and committing to her. I wasn't so good at attracting women back then. I might have solely attracted based on the gentle and patient and empathetic qualities alone, so I drew cynical women who wanted to try something different from the assholes (or so they claimed) that they dated. But I was very foolish, and maybe thinking too much with the wrong parts of my body. :-D
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To me it wouldn't come across as putting yourself down. It would come across worse. It would come across like you are Taylor Swift and your goal in life is to destroy people (because she literally makes a living shit talking her exes and it's extremely disrespectable).
Thinking of old stories about that guy. He drove a Corvette and someone got mad at him. I think it was a guy who found out he was banging his girlfriend. He scraped "Fuck Off" on the paint of the car. Funny thing, he drove around with that scraped in his paint before he had it fixed. Maybe he thought that was a badge of honor?
Wow really? You only date virgins?
I've never dated anyone.But I am a virgin, so it's only fair
Oh yes I totally get and understand that