When a guy says "whatever makes you happy" when it comes to the relationship/ dating, would you take it as he doesn't care enough or something else?

[Anonymous]

long story short, he was fed up with my back and forth. He still talked to me even though he was annoyed at me and didn't want to give things another try. He decided to give me another chance, he went out with someone else but cut off communication with that girl. Anyways I talked to him about some things and he was like "whatever makes you happy"

He doesn't care

He cares about you and will do anything to make you happy

Other

[Aethereal]

I don't know about him, his personality, or the exact details of the situation. He might have meant it; he wants you to do what makes you happy because that is enough to make him happy as well. He might also have said it because whatever the thing was, it wasn't such a big deal that he'd argue over it i. e. what you choose to do won't have a negative impact on his feelings.

Personally, I know that if I ever tell someone that; it's most likely a challenge made in frustration and disappointment. I believe a relationship is about mutual happiness; each partner places the other's happiness on the same level as their own and never purposely sacrifices their partner's happiness for their own. As such my saying "whatever makes you happy" is likely me realizing that she's sacrificing my happiness for her own instead of compromising. It means that she's setting off a huge red flag to me, and it's my way of suggesting that we'll probably break up if she goes through with whatever caused me to say it.

[LesterJester]

Sounds more like whatever the issue is that you have, it seems more important to you than to him, so whatever it is you want to do, do it. He can live with whichever decision you go for, so long as the damn bickering and arguments stop.

That doesn't mean he doesn't care about the relationship. He just doesn't care about the out come of the issue at hand... AKA, not all that important in the overall scheme of things.

The way you described the above, it seems like you guys shouldn't have gotten back together. You broke up for a reason and having a break doesn't magically fix the things that broke you up in the first place... and it sounds like when you guys got back together, everything is exactly as it was.

[Asker]

We were never really together, we have only been on one date but been talking to each other for over a year but it feels like we have been. We both wanna try again but im just afraid nothing is gonna change

[btbc92]

He stopped caring a long time ago after your back and forth game. He just doesn't want to cause anymore problems but he really doesn't care anymore. That is a person who is tired of games. I say that in that manner to people I know longer have an emotional bond with on that level anymore. Its not that I don't love or care about them anymore. I just no longer care for what they do since it seems like nothing you do is ever good enough. But he does want to overall make you happy. But if he sees that he is not winning points with you, eventually he will want to bounce.

[TsundereMatrix]

To me that means “I don’t care. I don’t want to start anymore fights with you so I’ll just have to keep you happy to avoid starting anything.”

[alice55]

To me it sound like he was annoyed with you and just wanted to stop arguing with you

[ZeGrandeLampshade]

Sounds like he's tired of arguing and asking you shit if he knows whatever he says will force you to become standoffish. Respect his opinion even if you find you disagree with it, tell him you respect it but you disagree, and you may find him being more forthcoming. "whatever makes you happy" Is the sort of shit I say if I'm trying to end discussion or I don't have much else left to say. People who constantly argue aren't good for eachother in my opinion either, adapt or find someone new.

[NearlyNapping]

It could be A or B. It depends on whether is is being sarcastic, being sincere, or just not wanting to argue about it.

If he will literally do anything to make you happy, it probably wouldn't make you happy. Because he'd be a doormat and lose your respect.

[MannMitAntworten]

You pushed him to the point of indifference. At this point he has surrendered just to shut you up since nothing else has worked. Essentially he has sacrificed his happiness for the sake of what remains of his peace. Congratulations... you have succeeded in defeating him.

[hereforthefunofit]

I have said that when I put out ideas and they are just shot down. After a while I wonder why I was asked for my opinion in the first place and say whatever makes you happy. My opinion was really wanted anyways

[Bella9191]

The only person iv ever known to say this was an asshole I used to date. Never heard another guy say this.

[corporateDrone]

Sounds to me like he was just annoyed and done with what ever you were talking about. Just didn't want to escalate or continue things.

[abc3643]

I voted C because what he is is easy-going. It's not that he doesn't care but that he is not picky about the choice at hand.

[Pipeliner87]

It is pretty clear girls don't understand men. It simply means this relationship is NOT A PRISON TERM! You can do what you like! How would you feel if you had to sit around the house and please your wife in your free time?

[Therisinghero12]

Depends on how he said it, if it was in a sincere tone then he means what he says, if he says it in a sarcastic/exhausted tone then he is fed up and just doesn't want to argue over something pointless.

[kwb85]

depending on tha tonality of how one says it, it can mean one or the other.

[Gods_Gift]

He's been worn down by your past "back and forth". He's still into you for some reason, but has learnt not to argue with you.

[Thatsamazing]

Other-- he's annoyed with you and doesn't feel like talking to you at that point.

[Anonymous]

That would be a stupid thing to default to.

Why can’t it be that I simply don’t feel the need to have an answer to everything, and have you make your own choices?

[ppppy2303]

He cares if he has completely cut off from his ex. Just sometimes take into account his feelings and stress or even drama that he or someone around him is going through

[MDollarBill]

He probably thinks what you want is just plain silly. He's just saying that hoping it'll get him into your pants

[Liam_Hayden]

He just doesn't want to rock the boat.

[Anonymous]

Depends on his tone of voice when he says it?