Such a kind answer and very insightful. Thank you! 😊
You're very welcome and I do hope you learn to appreciate that you as a woman have a lot of leeway in how you look because contrary to popular belief, many men are either lenient in their preferences or actually enjoy a bigger girl. But I also hope your mother understands what her negative behavior is doing to you. Although if she's saying this often then she likely cannot be reasoned with.
My therapist had set a rule in my house that we don’t talk about it. She breaks that rule without realising. It’s just spite.
I'm sorry your mother is not as motherly as she should be. My mom grew up in a very toxic environment and promised not to raise me the way she was. I have my issues but they aren't because of her. So it's a shame your mother could be more like mine.
My mum made the same promise but sadly broke it.
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I know her!!!
It might be
It is. I later did a Google Image Search on the picture you provided and it came back that she was Denise Bidot.F Y I:thecurvyfashionista.com/.../
My second girlfriend was a plus-size girl. We were together over 2 years and I feel bad that I ended it. She is still a wonderful woman and I trade emails with her a few times each year. Dating her changed my mind about plus-size girls.
Thanks. I didn’t even notice.
Thank you- I appreciate your thoughts.
Thanks a bunch. I got confused haha
Really? I’m skinny.
That makes sense
What if they look chubby but have a healthy body fat %?
It is a mind thing for me. If she wants to lose some of the excess fat then we can work together. I see potential and that's beautiful to me beyond the immediate form. But I do not like somebody who is okay with themselves carrying excess body fat. Maybe that's superficial in a way (it probably is) but it's also like I don't want her to die soon.
Yeah- that’s understandable.
I am info fitness but I invite her to join me. We can do slowly, at her pace. If she is very heavy then I can put weighted vests and straps on my body to match our weights. We can become fit together. I am far from a picture-perfect body either. I am 40-years old now. I have a pic if you will forgive my age and my limitations:i. imgur. com/PkFXD93. pngBut I like having a fitness partner. We can inspire and motivate each other, eat healthy things, cook healthy things for each other. I like it this way. It is a common interest. If she is chubby that is okay but I want this common interest.
Hmm. I am level 1 so I cannot post pics so easily. Maybe easiest is to remove the spaces from this one:imgur. com/PkFXD93
Your body looks good considering your age. And yes- I too prefer fitness when you have somebody to do it with. And your way of doing things sounds really fair and sweet.
Thanks! I’m just paranoid.
It's okay, everyone thinks they look worse than they really do, with the rare exception of people that look god awful but think they're the next brooke shields or john stamos
Great way of putting it haha
Is it that much? Woah.
Thanks- I’m healthy in every aspect apart from BMI which is over by 1. So I’m just automatically wired to think I’m fat.
Very intellectually put. However I am 5’6 sooooo hahah
I am not interested in dating you. And apparently I am above average in my pants, so it all works out in the end.
I know that haha. And oh okay then.
Plus you're 15 and I am 29 in 8 days, so way too old for you.
I’m not interested anyway. No offence.
It's good you aren't. If I dated a girl about half my age under about 50, it'd be weird. Likewise it'd be weird if you dated someone my age.
Thanks for the “perfect” hehe.
I had never thought of that
Yea, young plus sized woman just need not rely on pity for dates. It will lead to mental stress and identity struggles. Many many men, myself included, are attracted to curvy women with an attitude. It's that whole, meeting in th middle thing that's tricky.
That does make a lot of sense really.. They say confidence is one of the most attractive qualities to have.
It be like that
Hmmm- sorry. Lockdown. But you are so sweet!