Why do men make really intense eye contact with women in public?

[KezHarris]

This makes me so uncomfortable when random men do this on the street.

[Anonymous]

From the opinions here from both sides, I guess that concept of
"Our eyes met from across the room" type of interest is dead?

Ladies, if a guy makes eye contact, it just means he finds you attractive. In fact, you should take it as a compliment, as he isn't eyeballing your body instead, but Noooooooo, you just complain about that too.

So what now, a guy can't even glance at you without it being creepy?

Let's be honest here: You are asking for a double-standard: If a hot guy that you find attractive and want to meet makes eye contact, then it's sexy and natural, but if a guy you do not find attractive makes eye contact, you find it creepy and offensive.

This is why men don't want relationships and marriage anymore, because it's nothing but double standards and more trouble than it's worth.

[btbc92]

It's not about a double standard. It's about respect. I don't like being stared at either. I don't care if the guy is 'hot' or not. I was taught to respect people ad not make others uncomfortable. We don't have to accept it as a compliment if we don't have to. The problem is with most of you men? You're driven by sex, lust, and hormones. Not respect. We know why you looking. We ask you to stop. You get into a relationship and marriage because you found somebody to share a life with. THEN when you get married, have sex. Not the other way around.

[sadiefluff]

Exactly what @btbc92 said! I’ve had gorgeous men staring at me and I immediately feel INSANELY self conscious and insecure and nervous and embarrassed. It doesn’t MATTER how attractive the man is or isn’t! Seriously. SERIOUSLY. BELIEVE US. And the longer the man stares I go from nervous/self conscious/ embarrassed to genuinely scared. You men have NO clue what it is like to be a woman in this world that is dominated by men. Who are generally bigger than us and stronger than us. I once heard a male comedian compare the absolute bravery of females going out into the dating world to gazelles going over to a herd of lions hoping and trusting that we don’t get seriously physically hurt. Think about it for one damn second.

[Angie221994]

Glancing is very different from INTENSE eye contact like the OP stated. Glancing is fine.

But if you’re intensely staring? And not looking away? That’s creepy.

[btbc92]

Glancing is not even okay. People are sensitive and is not comfortable with that. If you like that, fine. Everybody else who doesn't, doesn't. When your lusting after somebldy and you know what your looking it's still wrong. Noticing, glancing and staring are three different things. When I notice somebody, I notice but that's it. If I glance there have to be a good reason why. If I stare there needs to be a good reason. For men it's not like that. That's why it's not okay because of the intent.

[leonidas69]

This is subjective and unfortunately it's not even something you should question about them. Eye contact is considered necessary for any relationship to grow whether it's friendship, colleague's or romantic etc... What makes eye contact "intense" these days is usually when you catch someone stairing and they don't look away after 3 seconds especially if their facial expression doesn't change. Most women I've met who have this problem couldn't look me in the eye for longer than a second even after getting to know me. 😬

[dmvgirl16]

Well dont worry It just means u look good and that they are just admiring u nothing else now if there was chirping or some flirty talk then i would be mad but if it makes u uncomfortable then just try to choose a different route and i know it can be uncomfortable but like it is hard to avoid especially when we are so beautiful and guys just can't take it so they just keep on staring

[btbc92]

Mostly because their attracted to you, you have a unique energy about you, find your eyes different, or in rare cases, find you weird. I hate it too. So I just stare right back and send the message I need to send: stop or I'm watching you very closely. So don't allow them to intimidate you. Stand your ground and redirect that message.

[Anonymous]

Unless he's mentally "unbalanced" lol, most of the time it's if we find you attractive and we are either just enjoying the view, and/or if interested enough, we might be trying to gauge your interest back and whether to possibly approach you. What women don't realize is this is often harmless and no intention what's so ever of making you feel "uncomfortable". It doesn't even cross our minds honestly. When you say how it makes you feel, it's understandable, but we don't think it at the time because that's not the intent what's so ever. So remember that. It's a good thing so if you feel uncomfortable, just remember he thinks you're hot!! lol Be proud!

[Agape93]

God I hate that. To me that only shows that you are a threat. You either hate me, or wish harm on me. Neither are endearing and both prepare me for possible violence.

[KezHarris]

Yes! Exactly. Maybe theyre mentally ill or mysogynistic... or both

[Agape93]

Or hell, just straight up dangerous. I will never understand why some guys think we enjoy brooding, intense staring. Hellllll no.

[ThisAndThat]

You won't have to worry about me. You couldn't pay me to look at you, not this 33 year MGTOW Monk. I'm just like the millions of other red pilled men and boys growing rapidly in MGTOW around the world, I was done with all that none sense years ago.

[Agape93]

Glad to hear that. If it makes you happy, then go for it :)

[EmmaMary]

@Agape93 At least that makes him one less for us to ever worry about.

[Agape93]

Agreed

[ThisAndThat]

@EmmaMary Oh don't worry. You're about to have many more to less worry about. Here, I'll let the Prophecy of Isaiah explain all that to you.

Isaiah 4:1 In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, "We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!"

[EmmaMary]

@ThisAndThat Sorry, I don't believe in any of that fucking bullshit.

[ThisAndThat]

@EmmaMary LOL You don't believe in it, and yet it's happening right before everybody's eyes in real time. Goes to show you, just because you don't believe it, doesn't make it untrue.

[CubsterShura]

Because they are indecent men who were never taught manners by their parents. No true man ever does that. Sure, any dude can get the temptation especially if the woman is attractive, but a real man knows that it is not appropriate.

[ThisAndThat]

And what does a real woman do? Let us know if you find one, I'd like to know.

[CubsterShura]

@ThisAndThat the fact that men whine about not being able to stare at women just shows how lenient society has become towards men being able to do whatever the hell they want and it's ok because 'what about muh natural viagra libido?' how disgraceful.

[ThisAndThat]

I'm not whining, I don't even look at women anymore. You couldn't even pay me to look at them. And with MGTOW and the red pill spreading like wildfire, millions of men around the world now share my sentiments. I'll become an official solid 34 year MGTOW Monk as of this August. I have no more use for women women have seen to that, millions of men and boys too, they agree.

[CubsterShura]

You don't look at women yet come here to pick a fight with a woman on a topic that doesn't even concern you?

Dude if you really are MGTOW you wouldn't be replying to me. You would be leaving us alone.

[ohshee]

You have heard of aura before well we also have and energy with in it tells us every thing have you seen someone walk through a door and you say or thing I don't like that person for some reason,, or say wow who's that well it goes deeper than that but anyway ,, you have an energy that is beautiful and pulls people in it does it to me every time I see you on here or answer one of your post ,, take the time to understand this and become it and it will. Change your life in the best If ways

[Reaperbot666]

can't say this is the only reason. but it is a big part of it.

for years women would yell at men. for staring or glancing at their chests. when women speak with men. saying men need to look at their face or into their eyes. when men talk to women or women talk to men.

plus you can learn a lot about someone. if you follow their eyes when you talk to them.

[Finchie40]

Attracted to her with hopes that she will lock eyes with him , Girls do this as well , it is only creepy if you aren’t attracted to that person. But if you were attracted to them you wouldn’t be complaining that they were eye fucking ya , think about it

[Angie221994]

It’s still creepy even when the guy is attractive. It’s one thing when you catch their eye, and they look away. But INTENSE eye contact? Hell no. The guy could be the most attractive guy I’ve ever seen in my life, and it’s still creepy if he makes intense eye contact.

[Finchie40]

Ok if he is doing for long period of time I can see that being creepy , but if he just makes eye contact and smiles and turns his head then looks back and smiles again , he should be walking over
To talk to her. But if he is just staring ok that can be fucked up lol

[Angie221994]

I think it just depends on how the guy executes it. This one guy smiled at me, and I noticed we kept making eye contact. He eventually came up to me just to tell me he liked my T-shirt and before I could try to make conversation, he left.
Versus
This other guy who just stared at me, not smiling. And also followed me around the store.

I also noticed that people stare when you look like someone they know, and most of the time they’ll tell you that you resemble someone they know. I’ve also gotten mistaken for so many people.

[ILLuMiiNaTi]

If a guy is doing eye contact with you for more then 15 seconds it means he may like you And if a girl is also doing eye contact continuous more then 15 seconds. Then guy will get to know that a girl may like him
Because. Mostly girls feels uncomfortable or shy when a random guy do eye contact with her
So i guess. If a girl also does it same as guy
Then it's a 50/50 chances for both of them for finding a love.

[FatherJack]

Not witnessed that , but I ignore all strangers anyway , but do watch weirdos with my peripheral vision , at the ready if they try anything invasive / violent. Seems I am doing women a favour by ignoring them , not fond of people in general... I perceive held stares as a threat message... and ready myself to hit them hard if need be.

[NewZion]

I only do that when I'm trying to get home and some bitch is trying to get noticed blocking your way.

Like "Bitch get the fuck out the way. Got to get to my car before traffic builds."

Or when there's a bad driver:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/QVLGIPxgmgM

[StarryCrossing]

I think because they think the girl is attractive. They do this all the time at my job, and it makes me uncomfortable. 😣

[Flower7]

Most likely, that means that they find the woman attractive. Yes, it can be a bit uncomfortable, but look on the bright side: looking is a lot better than him saying something. At least he's not catcalling! That would be SO much worse!

[On_cloud_wine]

Why do you think? They’re showing interest, as are you. Now that you know, you can roll your eyes or wink at them and go your way in confidence.

[dwcl99]

I think that its their way of trying to get your attention and show you that they are interested in you, but it sounds like they are doing it all wrong and are just creeping you out. Sorry about that.

[cth96190]

Why?
#MeToo
#killallmen
#maletears
#wastehistime
and more.
Unless or until an individual woman provides evidence to the contrary, every woman has to be treated as a psychotic, man hating false accuser.

[ThisAndThat]

BAM! SPOT ON BINGO! A near 34 year MGTOW Monk right here, it wasn't all for nothing.

[Jjpayne]

For me, I will look at a girl (people watching) until she notices but intense eye contact with her, that's way too far

[Mossberg500]

No idea, I am generally shy around women. So this doesn't relate to me. I assume they are trying to get your attention to get laid. Why do blacks chase white women like horny dogs? I've heard women complain about this very thing. Then if a white women is not interested, she is either guilted with "waaacism." Don't fall for that trap.

[KC1545]

Uh most black guys either go for their own, latinas, or mixed race girls. If anything it’s white girls that chase down black guys🤷🏻‍♀️ and why are u even bringing up race she didn’t ask.

[Mossberg500]

@KC1545 Because I am White Nationalist. And I don't see what you said being reality. Yes some white girls go for blacks, it's gross to me, but I can't stop it. But generally speaking it is the opposite of what you claim it to be. At least where I come from. The South (US.) I have heard more than a few women complain that blacks chase them for sex and/or romance, and they aren't interested, and don't want attention from them.

[KC1545]

I’m from south Florida and I go to school in northern Florida 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m from the south too. White girls love black guys and I think it’s cool. I’ve witnessed it with my eyes. Unless you’ve seen it yourself don’t take their word for it. They’ve probably been rejected by black guys lol

[Mossberg500]

If what you just said was true, you wouldn't have blocked me after posting. Lol. I am also from South Florida (20 years) Port St. Lucie, now living in Upstate South Carolina. In actuality a small minority fall for interracial propaganda (which is exactly what the weak minds are exposed to,) still, studies show, of all ethnicities of of women, white women tend to be the most loyal to their own, in the the mutli-culti helllhole that is the West. Facts don't care about your fweeeelings mudshark.

[KC1545]

1. I never blocked you. Although I clearly don’t agree with your beliefs (because I’m mixed and my boyfriend is fully white) I’m not that petty.
2. I’m just telling what I’ve seen on my university campus. And im not lying but you shouldn’t believe everything someone tells you, especially if they already despise someone for the color of their skin. They’re biased and possibly liars.
3. Yes I agree with the fact that most people tend to go for their own race. I never said they don’t. Most of the black people at my school tend to go for their own and same with whites. But ain’t nothing wrong with race mixing. Thats just my opinion I’m not forcing you to accept anything.

[Mossberg500]

@KC1545 Well that is ironic, considering it wouldn't let me reply to you before. You're mixed.. I'm not sure how that is my problem. Based on the fact that you chose a white partner speaks more than words however. Maybe you would agree with me if your parents didn't make irresponsible decisions... and maybe not.. There are plenty of leftist white women who wouldn't actually date a darkie, but love to "virtue-signal." It is not your fault that you are mixed, and there's a good chance that you are not "unattractive." However, my opinion still stands against race-mixing. Sorry if you don't like that, but I suppose you are forced into such an opinion. It's kind of difficult to say "I am mixed but i support White Nationalism." However believe it or not I've come across mixed people who do believe white folks have that right.

You think that makes me some evil monster? Believe me, if you knew me in real life you wouldn't think I am a monster. i am respectful to any/everyone who is respectful to me in my personal life, colored or not. Just because I don't support interracial relations doesn't = I will treat someone badly who doesn't deserve it.

[KC1545]

I chose a white partner not because of his race, but because he’s nice, smart, and not racist. And I fit his type because he doesn’t think white girls are attractive🤷🏻‍♀️ I think every race is attractive but he’s allowed to have a preference and so are you. I know black people that would never date white people and that’s similar to you so who am I to judge/pick sides. I never said you were a monster nor did I demonize you, you’re just assuming that. You’re stating your beliefs and I’m stating mine. As long as you respect people no matter what color they are that’s fine.

[Mossberg500]

@KC1545 I appreciate the content of your last message, but are you surprised i would presume one would demonize me for being WN in today's society? Most of the Western world would want to kill me or (attempt) beat me up for "my evil monstrous ideology." Antifa betas used to stalk my facebook even and put rainbow emojis on my photos lmao.

[KC1545]

Well white nationalism means that one believes that white people are superior to other races and that’s obviously not true. So if you’re going to have that ideology you’re also going to have to accept that a lot of people don’t agree with you.

[Mossberg500]

@KC1545 No it doesn't, it means quite simply "White countries for white people." The primary reason being our continued Euro-blooded existence. It says nothing regarding supremacy. It simply opposes multiculti societies.

[gaygod_19]

tbh same i can't stand them, also and i think they think it might help them get laid

[gaygod_19]

by the way the comment section from the guys is DISGUSTING

[JDavid25]

Maybe they think are are beautiful and wanna let you know that in a very weird, and awkward way.. Or maybe you look like somebody to them, and they just couldn't help but stare in wonder..

[TheAfrikan]

❕At times there is an eye contact contact beautiful intentions I know.
By also there are creepy, scary and stalking eye contact.
In the better version once a person looks at you, It is like a sense of communication and attraction since the eyes mean a lot. They are like the Windows into her soul.

[Levin]

Are they trying to flirt in an inept fashion, or genuinely cray-cray/malicious?

[Levin]

Maybe learn martial arts if you feel uncomfortable? That would be my advice to women.