Why do men make really intense eye contact with women in public?

Question

This makes me so uncomfortable when random men do this on the street.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

From the opinions here from both sides, I guess that concept of
"Our eyes met from across the room" type of interest is dead?

Ladies, if a guy makes eye contact, it just means he finds you attractive. In fact, you should take it as a compliment, as he isn't eyeballing your body instead, but Noooooooo, you just complain about that too.

So what now, a guy can't even glance at you without it being creepy?

Let's be honest here: You are asking for a double-standard: If a hot guy that you find attractive and want to meet makes eye contact, then it's sexy and natural, but if a guy you do not find attractive makes eye contact, you find it creepy and offensive.

This is why men don't want relationships and marriage anymore, because it's nothing but double standards and more trouble than it's worth.

leonidas69 · Accepted Answer

This is subjective and unfortunately it's not even something you should question about them. Eye contact is considered necessary for any relationship to grow whether it's friendship, colleague's or romantic etc... What makes eye contact "intense" these days is usually when you catch someone stairing and they don't look away after 3 seconds especially if their facial expression doesn't change. Most women I've met who have this problem couldn't look me in the eye for longer than a second even after getting to know me. 😬

dmvgirl16 · Accepted Answer

Well dont worry It just means u look good and that they are just admiring u nothing else now if there was chirping or some flirty talk then i would be mad but if it makes u uncomfortable then just try to choose a different route and i know it can be uncomfortable but like it is hard to avoid especially when we are so beautiful and guys just can't take it so they just keep on staring

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Mostly because their attracted to you, you have a unique energy about you, find your eyes different, or in rare cases, find you weird. I hate it too. So I just stare right back and send the message I need to send: stop or I'm watching you very closely. So don't allow them to intimidate you. Stand your ground and redirect that message.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless he's mentally "unbalanced" lol, most of the time it's if we find you attractive and we are either just enjoying the view, and/or if interested enough, we might be trying to gauge your interest back and whether to possibly approach you. What women don't realize is this is often harmless and no intention what's so ever of making you feel "uncomfortable". It doesn't even cross our minds honestly. When you say how it makes you feel, it's understandable, but we don't think it at the time because that's not the intent what's so ever. So remember that. It's a good thing so if you feel uncomfortable, just remember he thinks you're hot!! lol Be proud!

Agape93 · Answer

God I hate that. To me that only shows that you are a threat. You either hate me, or wish harm on me. Neither are endearing and both prepare me for possible violence.

CubsterShura · Answer

Because they are indecent men who were never taught manners by their parents. No true man ever does that. Sure, any dude can get the temptation especially if the woman is attractive, but a real man knows that it is not appropriate.

Finchie40 · Answer

Attracted to her with hopes that she will lock eyes with him , Girls do this as well , it is only creepy if you aren’t attracted to that person. But if you were attracted to them you wouldn’t be complaining that they were eye fucking ya , think about it

ohshee · Answer

You have heard of aura before well we also have and energy with in it tells us every thing have you seen someone walk through a door and you say or thing I don't like that person for some reason,, or say wow who's that well it goes deeper than that but anyway ,, you have an energy that is beautiful and pulls people in it does it to me every time I see you on here or answer one of your post ,, take the time to understand this and become it and it will. Change your life in the best If ways

Reaperbot666 · Answer

can't say this is the only reason. but it is a big part of it.

for years women would yell at men. for staring or glancing at their chests. when women speak with men. saying men need to look at their face or into their eyes. when men talk to women or women talk to men.

plus you can learn a lot about someone. if you follow their eyes when you talk to them.

ILLuMiiNaTi · Answer

If a guy is doing eye contact with you for more then 15 seconds it means he may like you And if a girl is also doing eye contact continuous more then 15 seconds. Then guy will get to know that a girl may like him
Because. Mostly girls feels uncomfortable or shy when a random guy do eye contact with her
So i guess. If a girl also does it same as guy
Then it's a 50/50 chances for both of them for finding a love.

FatherJack · Answer

Not witnessed that , but I ignore all strangers anyway , but do watch weirdos with my peripheral vision , at the ready if they try anything invasive / violent. Seems I am doing women a favour by ignoring them , not fond of people in general... I perceive held stares as a threat message... and ready myself to hit them hard if need be.

NewZion · Answer

I only do that when I'm trying to get home and some bitch is trying to get noticed blocking your way.

Like "Bitch get the fuck out the way. Got to get to my car before traffic builds."

Or when there's a bad driver:

StarryCrossing · Answer

I think because they think the girl is attractive. They do this all the time at my job, and it makes me uncomfortable. 😣

Flower7 · Answer

Most likely, that means that they find the woman attractive. Yes, it can be a bit uncomfortable, but look on the bright side: looking is a lot better than him saying something. At least he's not catcalling! That would be SO much worse!

On_cloud_wine · Answer

Why do you think? They’re showing interest, as are you. Now that you know, you can roll your eyes or wink at them and go your way in confidence.

dwcl99 · Answer

I think that its their way of trying to get your attention and show you that they are interested in you, but it sounds like they are doing it all wrong and are just creeping you out. Sorry about that.

cth96190 · Answer

Why?
#MeToo
#killallmen
#maletears
#wastehistime
and more.
Unless or until an individual woman provides evidence to the contrary, every woman has to be treated as a psychotic, man hating false accuser.

Jjpayne · Answer

For me, I will look at a girl (people watching) until she notices but intense eye contact with her, that's way too far

Mossberg500 · Answer

No idea, I am generally shy around women. So this doesn't relate to me. I assume they are trying to get your attention to get laid. Why do blacks chase white women like horny dogs? I've heard women complain about this very thing. Then if a white women is not interested, she is either guilted with "waaacism." Don't fall for that trap.

gaygod_19 · Answer

tbh same i can't stand them, also and i think they think it might help them get laid

JDavid25 · Answer

Maybe they think are are beautiful and wanna let you know that in a very weird, and awkward way.. Or maybe you look like somebody to them, and they just couldn't help but stare in wonder..

TheAfrikan · Answer

❕At times there is an eye contact contact beautiful intentions I know.
By also there are creepy, scary and stalking eye contact.
In the better version once a person looks at you, It is like a sense of communication and attraction since the eyes mean a lot. They are like the Windows into her soul.

Levin · Answer

Are they trying to flirt in an inept fashion, or genuinely cray-cray/malicious?

Bananaman177 · Answer

Why do some women get uncomfortable if a man looks at them? Like for instance, I don't get uncomfortable if a woman looks at me, or if a man looks at me, either.

8lutty · Answer

u mean they looking at ur eyes directly and dont do anything else? no smile or anything like that? common there is no way men do that a lot, they properly smile or do something else to try being friendly. unless u are talking about u see other men looking at other woman and u feel uncomfortable about that. anyway did u try to think positive about that?

Platypuss · Answer

Because we think we have a super power to melt people with our eyes. But we often fail, as we are not experts. We are up for learning though, if you want to teach.

Anonymous · Answer

Omg someone looked at you?  That is messed up. Sounds like you need a safe space. Or maybe next time call the police.

LiamSawyer · Answer

Probably because you're so beautiful and sexy. They stare because they are lost in their thoughts and fantasies. They want you but know they could never have you so they drift off into a fantasy.

Ámayas_20 · Answer

It's really uncomfortable, if you're on your own just avoid them if you're around other people you know would have your back walk straight up to them and ask them wtf their problem is.

_SOARER · Answer

A lot of people have been told it makes girls notice you and attracts them 😂😭
It only works if the guy is already attractive and if the girl is looking to meet someone
Most cases girls have enough friends 😭😭😭

ThisAndThat · Answer

Are you kidding me? You mean men are still doing that after MeToo? Well that's not me. I don't even look at women anymore. I stay as far away from them as I can get. I won't be a 34 year MGTOW Monk in August for nothing.

arizonaguy95 · Answer

Say something like 'Enjoying the view?', wink at them and walk past.

louyaa · Answer

They just watched Twillight and they think staring is the key to a girl's heart

Simple_Desperate_guy · Answer

At first when you see her its ok its random. Then the second time its a gaze. The third time you start fantasizing 😁😁😁

Bootylicious905 · Answer

I love it. Tease them. I lick my index finger n rub it on my butt as in " you can't touch this".

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

They think your hot Mamma look your gorgeous aww but yes we tend to look deep into girls eyes when we  think she's very pretty sorry we make you feel so weird

nathanp97 · Answer

I think you just answered your own question. You're 19, do you not know what a troll is? Some might just be creeps though😂

Massageman · Answer

They must really like what they see, although I'm not condoning the behavior, just suggesting "why" it happens.

iamallenvee · Answer

Either they're mad about something and just looking in your direction or they don't have manners and just stare you down like tender steak

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

Men make intense eye contact with other men. Women make intense eye contact with other women and other men. You just avoid eye contact, and it’s not an admirable trait

malkuser · Answer

That's an easy question  We guys Try to scan every girl we see  And that intense eye contact us crucial to achieve ou mission. If we keep looking at you  That means you're thé most attractive

Avicenna · Answer

No, that's unusual precisely because it does make people uncomfortable

zagor · Answer

They're trying to pick up a sign of interest. I ain't lookin' for nothin' In anyone's eyes - Bob Dylan

Jackblue · Answer

If they happen to be talking to you, they maybe looking into your eyes to avoid eyeballing other parts of you.

Chocolate_shortyy · Answer

I guess they do it because they find you really attractive and find it hard to look away 🤷‍♀️

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

I noticed three dudes all did that to me three years ago lol 🤣 I only found one Attractive.

Unit1 · Answer

Because you women are beautiful and it's stimulating us to just stare at you's with our eyes.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Its because they find you attractive. I realize this can be creepy to women. Try to take it as a compliment. I've found myself doing this and stopped.

adamKing · Answer

No offense your just sometimes in our way and we're looking through you at something that's behind you, it happened afew times with me stop thinking you're the center of the attention

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Its because they are upto something.. red flag b careful... could be a thief or molester

Desconhecida · Answer

They think our M. O for flirting is cute when they do

ali92ka · Answer

I think it reachs bad place if it goes exaggerated.. but definitely the one who act is looking for a sign or acceptance to have a chance

BackAgain602 · Answer

I’ve never experienced that kind of eye contact from anyone; I’m too busy looking down.

Benjr134 · Answer

Ummmmmm I’ve never made eye contact with a stranger of any gender. I don’t know that many people that do.

FanticSoul · Answer

Well I don't think everyone do the same whoever do that they are pervert so just ignore them

Gabriella_95 · Answer

I like the look in her eyes when she about have an orgasm.

Goodathalo · Answer

I have never done that before, so I can not provide and adequate answer.

Alex_988_2 · Answer

here's the exact answer: bc they look you as an object and want to bang your holes

JoeIZ42 · Answer

Probably they are thinking just about your body and sex. Some guys are just rude... others more on the low.

rapfan107 · Answer

That usually means they think the girl is attractive and they're checking her out

Anonymous · Answer

Can't say they've been staring at your boobs though, can you?

nelly83 · Answer

They tend to be pervs

dnickb · Answer

he's either or a creep or worried that the women might make a scene

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