The problem is not that you aren't attractive, or that you have curves - the problem is that you ARE attractive.
For any attractive girl, regardless of what physical traits about her makes her attractive, the fact is, she's ATTRACTIVE (physically, at least). So, for most men, she's going to check the box that says "must be attractive to me."
Now, what confuses you is that you are thinking like a woman, and when a woman thinks about men, she's thinking "relationship" - even if she's not sure if she wants one with him. But rarely is she thinking "casual sex", because women prioritize relationships.
Men are NOT women, and men don't have relationships as their top priority when interacting with women - men's top priority is SEX. We're biologically driven to have sex with as many women as possible, the better to spread our genes and have children that survive.
A majority of men DO want relationships (though plenty don't), but in order for a woman to make a man want to consider a relationship, she has to check of a number of boxes. Certainly, the "is she attractive to me" box is an important one, but that alone isn't nearly enough for men to want a relationship. We also care about her personality, attitude, morals, and many areas of long-term compatibility. Most women we meet don't check of critical boxes on this list, and so are eliminated from consideration for relationships.
But, remember, more than anything, men are looking for SEX, and the checklist for "do we want to have sex with her" is very short:
- is she attractive? - is she available? - is she willing? - is she less than insane/psychopathic?
If a guy can answer yes to those questions (and some don't even bother with questions 2 or 4), then he's going to want to bang her - it's just that simple.
To put it another way, for every 100 attractive, age-appropriate girls a guy meets, he only is interested in a relationship with 3-5% of them, but he wants to BANG ALL of them.
As an attractive girl, you're on the "want to bang" list for most guys you meet, but either you don't have the characteristics that guys look for when looking for a relationship, or they just aren't taking the time to get to know you to find out. They're just focused on "hot girl, want to bang her" like the cavemen that they are.
The solution is to dress and behave more conservatively, and take things a bit more slowly with men. That will help filter out the "just want to bang" guys a bit, and make it more likely that guys will take time to get to know you.
Not enough information to give a good answer. There’s a lot more to it than just your body (which is you are probably aware, fantastic).
for instance, you might be completely disagreeable. Not saying you are, but how do I know? There are other things too, such as maybe you just put off a certain vibe that says “don’t come near me “. There are aspects to human interaction that we still don’t fully understand, such as the chemical/pheromone reactions that we pick up with our olfactory senses. Again, not saying there’s anything wrong with you like you stink or anything, just trying to come up with plausible or possible reasons.
it could be your approach. Or do you even have an approach? If you are just walking around waiting for men to approach you, you are missing out on a lot of men who might potentially find you attractive, but are respectfully not getting all up in your grill. This due to many, many, many posts on the Internet about how creepy and rude it is for men to approach women in public. We get the message, so now the ball’s in your court if you want to get together.
also along the lines of “how and where are you meeting guys? “, Is the fact that social interaction is changing a lot in the last 5 to 10 years. More people are completely ignoring strangers on the street, and minding their own business. All of those random interactions that used to happen are now considered socially unacceptable and creepy. So, there’s a lot of people meeting on tinder, bumble, or other apps designed to take the human interaction online instead of off-line. This is a whole other topic, though. If you want some more feedback, I’m happy to help you try to figure it out. But, like I said, need more information to give you a full answer or some clues what you could do. You’re definitely attractive physically, so somethings either wrong with the system or your approach. if you want some more feedback, I’m happy to help you try to figure it out. But, like I said, need more information to give you a full answer or some clues what you could do. You’re definitely attractive physically, so somethings either wrong with the system, your approach, or some other factor.
too many guys are insecure, dont like to admit they have feelings, and tbh, too many way too many women nowadays are bimbos and sluts and whores and will have sex with any man "just coz they want to".
Family values have been thrown away by the Media and I admit I fall prey to their message in movies and tv.. "women only want sex, they will jump in bed just from a kiss, and that is what men want from us. Women that are into dating first, usually are clingy, whiny, and old fashioned and if you marry them, you are gonna be saddled with kids, a demanding wife, have no friends, and the only happiness you will have is with a mistress."
Thank you Life Time Movie network for indoctrinating me growing up!!!
You just need to wait for a gentleman... and you have to look for them..
Nightclubs, bars, ravs, etc. are not where you are gonna find a gentleman. Okay, you might find one, maybe, but you stand a better chance in better social places... i dont need to name them...
Well for starters you have a nicely shaped booty, but I wouldn’t call you curvy in the slightest. Also, just being curvy isn’t enough to get and keep a man. Perhaps your personality is trash? Cause many men love curvy women.
Sexy and pretty aren't the same thing... there are some people you want to be with and then there's other people that you want to sleep with... Curvy girls are going to have a very hard time because they're naturally more sexy you are going to have to weed through more men than a girl with a different body would... I know I want to be married and have the family and it is very hard when I am attracted to a woman in a sexual way to get connected on emotional and mental level so I avoid women that I am too attracted to if that makes sense.
Yes, I adore them. The problem is, curvy girls (like most other girls) often only want to go after the most elite men. It's Hypergamy; ten women in a room with ten men will choose the most attractive Alpha in there, even if he only wants one of them. While ten men in a room with ten women will go after the one woman he thinks is the most personally attractive/compatible to him. Curvy girls are no exception to this, just like extremely tall girls.
So, it's not that "no guys want to date" you. You probably only just want to date the most challenging man to get. Also, pretty much only White guys dislike curvy girls. They almost exclusively only like petite women. (Especially on GaG.) Black, Hispanic, and Indian men love girls with boobs and booty. Asian men are indifferent and not really picky, however. (Koreans, aside.)
There is the first part of attraction starts most of the time with the body. Then you follow it up with a warm smile, good conversation and connection on things you both like. Curves are not the only thing they are maybe the start, think of it as the ice breaker. Then it's up to you to sell yourself after that happens. Not to say that the guy has a part to play but if all you do is look good that's all that will be seen but if you have a fun conversation then it goes past the physical part into something better and more meaningful
personally I don't have a strong preference when it comes to things like a females. height, weight, skin color, ethnic group, nationality. or the size / shape of her butt, hips, bust, waist, etc.
even if she has medical reasons which lead to physical and/or mental disabilities. having an enjoyable personality and attitude matter the most. when looking for a female partner to be with.
because so long as she is 100% natural, generally healthy and likes how she looks in the mirror. I find a wide range of female forms attractive.
people who limit themselves to just one type or race. might miss out on someone who could be ideal for them otherwise.
since people can always naturally make changes to their own body over time.
with some changes to their own diet and/or exercise routine. in order to reshape their body from the neckline down to some degree.
You're not curvy you're hot. Curvy is women who are big and take offense to being called fat. Even though that's technically the term. All due respect, you could get it. Men know that and they're intimidated by your face. You're like a sharp 8 or 9 in bangability but you look like you're going to make fun of their tiny c*cks or some tremendous insecurity. Be humble and sweet, and they'll work up the courage after a couple of interactions of testing if you're really "down-to-earth". Pretty soon your onlyfans will be popping and you'll be a bagillionaire.
Hopefully I don't inflate your ego. I'm not going to sugar-coat it. If you act like I'm the word and you think you're so smashable - and show it in your behavior, you will absolutely be getting less smash than the Smash Bros (tm). Men can tell that much pretty well.
But yeah you should be confident that you make guys stupid.
Well, curves are what they are - a physical feature. That'll draw in only physical attraction. Mental attraction is based on different concepts altogether, like interaction, common interests etc. I definitely don't mean to say that guys will never see curvy girls as relationship material. It's just that the physical attractiveness factor will supersede everything else quickly before rational thoughts settle in.
Guys love curvy girls, its one of the most popular features that guys like. But the curves and all ar always looked upon from a sexual point of view. Like guys see the beauty and sexiness in those curves. But when it comes to dating, the personality, attitude, persona matters more. I mean, curves and a fit body are a good feature on a woman, but for dating that is not enough. Dating has a whole lot of aspects included and body type is just one aspect of it.
Exactly whom are you referring to when you said us? I see and know plenty full figured and voluptuous women being courted and married. It sounds like you probably setting your sights on guys of a certain persuasion, stereotypical ass ________guys. Open yourself up to more than just the typical, fit my type guy and you might see different results.
Well i was thinking the samething until you said us and i looked around i didn't see anyone else mmmm then i looked down and the only thing i seen 2 of were your butt cheeks hmm well you know maybe , thats what your tslking about ,, hey come on you never know,, lol so now I'm back in the same boat I'm really thinking damn lol
You have a very attractive body. Unfortunately I've seen that adjective, "curvy" apply to a a perfectly fine body with maybe a few too many lbs. to bodies that should be 1/2 the weight they currently are. If you were the definition of curvy, I'd have no problem whatsoever rocking your curves all night
Serious? I my ex was built similar to you and I certainly dated her. She enjoyed weight lifting which I also do. She had some damn strong legs... LOVE THAT! She equally was VERY bright which I absolutely loved and admired of her. Not sure why you are experiencing this, but I certainly do.
Curvy as in having shape to the body that signifies the likelihood of a healthy and safe pregnancy and birth? Yes. Curvy as in fat? Nobody is attracted to fat people; only people that have given up on having a good partner are willing to settle on fat people.
You have a nice figure, but your body is not what I think of when I think of curvy. My definition of curvy (using celebs as examples) are Hayley Atwell, Miliana Vayntraub (Lily from AT&T), Ariel WInter, and to an extent, Mary Mouser. None of this is to detract from the hard work you put into maintaining yourself, but that's my take on it. So long answer short, yes.
nope, me and all my friends love women with normal curves, but I come from Germany, I've heard black people are more interessted in curvy women than white guys are... but I don't know it really what they like, I like small, not skinny, asses and that's a fact.
The thing about some hot and sexy girls is most guys fear rejection, so if they are not asking to date you then they are afraid you are going to say no, instead of yes.
If the problem is once you are dating and want to stay with a guy, that is much harder to figure out.
If what you show here is curves, then mark me down for a full on toxically male testosterone driven seal of approval. “Shake that booty girl!” Love it...😎😎love them titties too!
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