Uh I don’t see anything wrong or weird about his response at all. Appreciative and yet respectful. You’re the one with issues here if you think this is not good/normal or whatever. Maybe you’rebused to player douchebags only looking for one thing or something.
Nah guys usually dont go over the top sometimes.. i mean maybe not over text. You may be overthinking this cause id be flattered if a guy responded that way.
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... I have no idea what you expected. His response was actually quite flirty
----------------I think he is just trying not to be a savage.
It seems to me like he's really shy and/or lacks sexual confidence... OR, it's even possible that he's asexual or just has a very low libido. He obviously enjoys your company, so there's some attraction there, but clearly the sexual component is very low, which is strange. I doubt it has anything to do with you - if it did, he wouldn't be trying to arrange future dates with you - so this is a HIM problem, rather than a YOU problem.
So, at this point, it's time to put on your big-girl panties and TALK to him about it, and find out from the horse's mouth what his deal is. Expect it to be something from my first sentence.
Hard to say.
He was very polite.
I take it you wanted him to say something along the lines of how much he wanted you and how it makes him die to have you.
He was very polite and was kind of like "oh that is very nice".
He did leave it ambiguous as to whether he desires you sexually and if he finds you irresistible. He did, in a way, just sound like a pal.
Well, if you want to be more than pals he did sort react in a way that leaves it unclear.
I think he just really respects you and he doesn't want to come off a sleaze.
I remember in my early days of dating my boyfriend and i once wore a low cut summer dress to get his attention and i made a joke about my boobs being on display and he didn't have much to say on it and tried not to look the whole time.
If you want to spice things up you really gotta be direct with him. Men don't take hints very well and prefer for women to thell them what they want and when they want it. Hope this helps
You're blaming him & you're slower than molasses. The comment "did you treat yourself to anything else" was a line that could've gone two ways. Either yes & shown him something sexier or you could've played coy & asked what he'd want you to treat yourself with.
How would you have wanted him to reply? Honestly, I probably would have replied the same lol. What exactly do you say?
But every guy is different as well. First, you don't know he didn't get excited, you just didn't get whatever response you were looking for. But for some guys, like myself, lingerie does very little for them. I've often thought it's more for women to "feel sexy" than for guys, because it does do very little for me (naked is sexy), but some guys love it. But maybe he's like me? Also the pic itself is kind of boring (unless you've edited it for this site?). We don't see your face or anything, so it's like "yawn".
Actually if we take these messages and remove the text from them and just compare message length for both you one could make the argument that you're the one playing hard to get.
The man is making compliments, droping suggestions, using emojis... i meam yeah he didn't say "ouf can't wait to tear that thing off of you, and then tear you up!!!" But that's because he was taught as were all guys that being too forward and pushy scares girls away.
Does you invite you on dates? Make plana with you? If he does then he's doing enough if not then he's just not good at this stuff
I mean, to be honest, it's not that good of a pic. Also, if he didn't want that, then it puts him in an awkward spot. You know how it's annoying when guys send dick pics? Well, not every guy wants a sext. Especially if the pic looks bad.
I once had a girl who was interested in me (she later revealed she was "bi," so it never would've worked between us) send me her topless breasts, without me asking or hinting for it or anything. Worse yet, her breasts looked like shoes. It was awkward AF because I didn't want to comment on her shoe-shaped tits, nor did I really want that pic anyway (I was on campus, with class about to begin, so it might've gotten me in hot water).
TL;DR: It's not that good of a pic and he probably didn't ask for it or want to be put in a position to have to lie.
Dang girl did you get a license with an outfit to thrill, Ring the alarm the alarm hot is in the building and I`m coming to fight that fire!
Baby if you see on the local news, a man was seen driving like a manic ( don`t worry that is me racing to you ).
Do you mean something like that?
My question would be what is it and I`m not placing blame anywhere just provoking thought that has been said inadvertently which prevents him from feeling free to say things like that.
If I may give an example, I once dated a lady that when she was angry said really damaging things and they stuck until, in the end, I became nervous about giving her any type of compliment.
The other type of personality I have come across just don`t give compliments under any circumstances people are strange!
I don’t know but if he’s showing lack of interest at least you know before you’re deep I love..
my ex made me believe he loved me and was all over me and always asked me to send naked or provocative stuff of me and he was always excited only to tell me at the end that he didn’t feel anything..
truth is better than lies... so if you see bad signs at the beginning, it’s good!! So that you know not to get involved too deeply and get hurt..
he lead me on pretending to be so in love and interested when he really wasn’t. It’s really sad It sucks!
good luck with that.. :/
I don't think he is shy lol. His responses were rather flirty as well as assertive, I mean he immediately asked you out lol. Maybe I'm not aggressive enough either than? Did you wanna hear, looks great, hope it's not expensive, imma rip it off,😘🔥😉
Who said he didn't get excited? A lot of women post things like that JUST to get a rise out of the guy. If i was him i would have responded the same way. Not because you're not attractive, you are. But i'm not going to give you the satisfaction of letting you know that. Only to have you rip the rug out from underneath me.
He could've not expected that from you and just didn't know what to say, not too scare you off.
What reply, did you realy want? ( Just for my future reference)
You might be his first proper relationship and he is afraid to mess it up.
Or he doesn't know where you 2 are...
Or your friends are right and he is not as interested as you expected, but in my case I would make fun of you in that pic for showing it to me not your boyfriend...
In my opinion you should have talk with him and tell him that you like him and would like to take it further. Don't talk about marriage or babies yet as that is huge army of red flags at that stage...
This is just my opinion you can do whatever the f**k you want...
He did and he complimented you. Not sure what the issue is lol. Cute lingerie by the way
You got asked out because of it, so obviously, he liked what he saw. He's probably just a bad texter.
"he is not running after your body" He is finding true love, True love happens between souls ,
Lol.
That's a little ego crushing.
Maybe he didn't wanna creep ya out by sounding to excited🤷🏿♀️
Simps are the ones that froth up at the mouth, flooding you with validation and excessive compliments after seeing a pic. Some guys are not like that, and to them, it's not as much of a big deal to see a bikini pic so their response is more measured.
When you are a desirable man, your responses are more indifferent. But if you are not often desired by women, then when a woman shows interest you start salivating on the pavement because it's such a novelty.
Maybe he didn’t want to say anything sexual because he wants you to take the lead, he seemed pretty flirty to me. Plus you never know, he could have sexual trauma and just feel uncomfortable talking about sexual things sometimes.
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