What does it mean when a close guy friend unfriends?

Me and this guy I considered to be a close friend of mine got into a really stupid argument. We left eachother a lone for a while, then I messaged him asking that we should talk about it and try sorting it out and he kept insisting that he didn’t wanna talk about it and try to “move on” when he was clearly still hurt by it. Mind you this was the first argument we ever had and it was minor, I even tried to reach out to him and talk it out but he just kept trying to avoid it then just ignored me.

I let him be and now he just unfriended me which is very surprising. I’m still kind of hurt.

Does it mean he doesn’t care about me anymore? like we used to talk to eachother a lot and spend so much time now he’s just avoiding me. I wonder where did I go wrong

Guys, what does it mean when a close guy friend does this? Why?

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I really don’t know. I’ve mentioned pretty much everything. Like me and him were very close, we played games everytime and we have a lot of inside jokes. Also sometimes we send eachother lesbian stuff (he's into lesbians and I’m bisexual lol) and I have a girlfriend, so It was all chill. Nowadays I don’t see him online that much and I deactivated my account because I was fed up with everything, I don’t think he cares about me anymore :/

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CallMeDave

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My guess is that either you said something that hurt him so much that he doesn't really want to be friends with you any more or he just is uncomfortable with any kind of conflict and doesn't really know how to handle it or resolve it so he's withdrawing rather than trying to deal with it.

Are you willing to share what the argument was about? Could it have been something that's a very sensitive topic for him? Did you say nasty things that could have hurt him to the point that he doesn't feel close to you any more?

idkausernamelol2

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To be honest, the argument was really silly and small. At the time I was in a really bad mood, and I was feeling so insecure about myself so he wanted to know what was wrong (because he hasn’t seen me around for a while) then said that I was feeling shitty and insecure then he said, “girl you’re cute, don’t beat yourself up over this there are people who are prettier than us normal people. You are young now once you hit your 20’s and get into uni the girls go from cute to I wanna fuck that lmao” and that comment kinda got me confused because I wasn’t sure whether he meant XD anyway, we were talking then he said something that sounded kinda rude so for some fucking reason I was like “first you implied I was average now you’re saying that?” Then he was like, “okay cya” and didn’t talk to me.

I don’t know why but I felt terrible about what I said so I messaged him after two days saying that I was in a bad mood, he left me on read, then couple days later I saw him chatting to our other friends and he was lowkey ignoring me. So I messaged him saying that we should sort it out, I was only trying to help him out but he seemed so hesitant and was like “yeah I was feeling down over the past week and not feeling good” even while he was trying to console me. Then I was trying to go over what he meant with those phrases and tried to explain my feelings then he was just like “omfg cna we just move on I don’t wanna explain I don’t wanna talk about it. Like I was trying to support you and you assumed that I implied u were average” like so weird? Like Is it bad that I’m trying to sort it out as a friend? like obviously he was still bothered by the situation and yet he didn’t wanna have anything to do with it. He was just trying to avoid it

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CallMeDave

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It's certainly not bad that you're trying to sort it out. That's good. That's what you should be doing. Resolving disagreements is an important relationship skill because any two people, no matter how good they are for each other, will occasionally have disagreements.

Based on what you've described, it seems to me that he's overreacting to what happened. I can understand that you'd not like some of what he said and I don't really think that "first you implied I was average now you’re saying that?” is that bad. Certainly not something to end a friendship over.

I can't really explain why he's acting the way he is. It doesn't really make sense to me. Are you sure there wasn't something he was upset with you about before that? What you described certainly doesn't sound like anything close to a friendship ending argument.

Maybe he is hypersensitive to any kind of conflict and avoids anyone he ever has any conflict with?

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idkausernamelol2

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He seemed really hesitant when I asked him to explain what he meant about that statement. He either meant that he found me unattractive or attractive but didn’t wanna sound weird about it. He’s the type of person who keeps things to himself sometimes because he fears that he’ll come off weird. And no trust me, we didn’t have any argument before that. Like I said, he was in a really bad mood and he did admit that he was overreacting. He did admit having a tough week, but come on is this minor argument enougu to actually make him unfriend me? Like I’m really surprised by his cowardly behavior. And here I am blaming myself over this stupid squabble

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CallMeDave

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Unless there was something else you haven't mentioned, I don't think it's reasonable to unfriend you over that and I don't think you should blame yourself for him unfriending you. As you said, that was minor and not enough to end a friendship over. It seems to me that he's either exceptionally sensitive and unwilling to work on resolving any conflict or there's something else going on with him that maybe you don't know about to make him act that way.

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idkausernamelol2

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I really don’t know. I’ve mentioned pretty much everything. Like me and him were very close, we played games everytime and we have a lot of inside jokes. Also sometimes we send eachother lesbian stuff (he's into lesbians and I’m bisexual lol) and I have a girlfriend, so It was all chill. Nowadays I don’t see him online that much and I deactivated my account because I was fed up with everything, I don’t think he cares about me anymore :/

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CallMeDave

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That's pretty sad if he ended a friendship over that. But if he's that sensitive, it was probably inevitable that it would happen at some point since any two people will occasionally get annoyed with each other.

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idkausernamelol2

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Eh. It is what it is. Thanks tho

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