Why do guys take longer to respond to texts during the talking stage? (Page 2)
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There is really no excuse for the "im busy " for both males and females if want to talk you make time like you said... it all comes down to if we want to talk or actully just want to do other things as let's face it... its 2020 we all have phones glued to us ( you'll find we will be the most talkative when we really really like talking or horny.)
We're actually highly organized individuals, and we prefer things to be scheduled. If you don't specifically say, "Hey. Let's chat now until this time," then there's no guarantee that he will be present and active within the time frame that you wish him to be. Sure, you can wing it, but that's going to be hit or miss and you just have to accept that reality.
Most text back faster than me these days lol. I feel bad for not keepin up because i have a very bad short term memory and will forget im messaging sometimes. But i def rather have a guy who messages faster than one who messages slow
@DizzyDesii I have that problem too sometimes, tbh. One time I initiated a conversation with one of my best friends and then I got distracted scrolling through FB and I forgot all about him lol.
Im one of the worse multitaskers. I almost always forget unless im talking otp to the person
@DizzyDesii Yeah.
if its like once every 10 minutes? I'm texting you in-between games.
if its a couple times then absent for a couple hours? I'm working. if its a bunch for about 30 minutes then ghost for like a day? I have lost my charger and saving my battery for as long as possible.
If I really like a girl I like to respond relatively quickly. I mean most of the time i want to reply right away and have her right away but, I guess that weird or something apparently so that’s why I try to make is more casual with response time.
three options:
- he is busy
- he is playing hard to get
- he is fed up with texting
u thibk my one is playin hard to get he cuts me off 11months ago naw 1 week ago emailed me asking for my snap then i replied give me urs instead so i did a follow up after same text 2d later and he hasn't got bck to the first message so I don't know i canr stop thinkin what happened since HE reached out to ne
@Angel_123 Sorry girl but I think that's just cause he's talking to more than just one girl.
Personally I'll read the message at the top of the screen, so it does not show I've read it. I'll then maybe take 10-30 minutes to get respond as I don't want to seem too eager or clingy. I guess some guys like to prepare a message before sending it or maybe don't want to scare you alway by replying to quickly. As long as we reply it's all good. :D
Personally, I'm usually stuck trying to think of something that doesn't sound stupid if it is a girl that I like. Girls tend to just ghost a guy immediately at that stage if they say ANYTHING wrong.
Girls do this too.. it's a dating tactic..
The basic idea is to make yourself more attractive by not being available all the time..
Thus making you look harder to get.. and thus more attractive.. overdoing it is unattractive though..
Also.. someone who is available all the time, is someone who likely has little to nothing productive to do.. watching TV and Netflix all day, Tiktok, games, movies, etc.
Sometimes I take longer on purpose so I dont look interested. I've heard if a girl thinks she's already got him she loses interest, for to keep them wondering
It's fucked up, but I don't blame you, man.
Though I would never do that myself. I say if she wants to play games then f*ck her. I don't have time for none of that bullshit.
Oh right now I'm over it, I was talking to one I liked and thought we had something in common with, but she takes even longer to reply and even tho she says meeting at a bar would be great she never wants to go. Im tired of asking her the same question sounding like a broken record.
Not gonna keep trying random small talk, so right now I'm not playing into the stupid games, she was into something cool but fuck it, we should have meet by now🤷♂️
Yeah; I know what you mean.
She'll be kicking herself when she hears about your wedding, though.
I don't know but sooo many guys I know do that too
It gets aggravating
Yay it's not just me! lol. I end up ignoring their messages actually.
lmao
I do that sometimes
especially @bklynbadboy1 and @nayyr they are sooo slow with responses
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False
@Nayyr trueeeee
I'll respond within the minute most of the time
@Nayyr sure
@niya2006 hello
@Nayyr heyyy
@niya2006 goodbye
@Nayyr bye
During the talking stage you gotta wait a few minutes to text back so you don’t look desperate, either that or he’s literally not interested in u.
If he really liked you you wouldn’t be confused what’s up and asking strangers on here. He’s probably busy with other girls and texting them is more of a priority
guys are terrible at texting but i take a long time to respond sometimes too, sometimes for no reason
I think some guys refrain from replying quickly because they feel it seems desperate. If they think that a girl is playing hard with them, they do the same thing.
That makes a lot of sense! Cause they'll start doing that when I take ages to reply too.. but for me it's cause I am busy and trying to stay off my phone for my mental health most of the time.
If you make this clear to the guy you're talking to that you're off your phone due to mental health issues, he'll understand if he's a sane guy. Can we be casual friends? :)
Will do, and sure :)
I pinged you
Noooo! Girls got us beat there slow asf on responding
lies
@Niya2006 lol!
Its true girls respond like 12 hours later
That's kinda true I guess!
@bklynbadboy1 stop lying
It takes you like 20 minutes to respond to a message
and all the girls I know respond within seconds ( or like 2 minutes XD )
@alyssa11 don't let him lie to you
I don't take long at all
If I like you, I respond faster if I don't, I don't even bother to respond at all
- disinterest
- super busy
- bad communication skills
- shy / nervous around you
- maybe the person you're trying to reach is dead, sis
Because that guy has probably poured his heart out into texting so many girls he probably doesn't have the stamina for it.
Ohhh no no.
Why do YOU PEOPLE take so long! It's such an obvious little game. LMAO hahaa