"It's neither of the above. It's the INTENT.""But only she gets to judge it however she sees it since it was directed at HER."This is contradictory. Only the person saying it knows the intent. The recipient only knows her interpretation, not the intent.
@Liam_Hayden Not true at all. Unless your psychic and read minds, it is about the intent. A woman can easily gabble it up for attention. She may just want sex as he does. He may just genuinely want to compliment. Somebody like me doesn't care for compliments but appreciates that. If a woman feels the intent feels off she may not welcome the advance. Somebody like me overall isn't comfortable with it, but I can TELL if a man overall is doing it because he wants a sexual relationship of some kind. And this not something I want. But if he is doing it because he just wants to target me, he's an enemy. NOT a gentleman. Know what the hell you're talking about. If the roles were reverse and the guy didn't appreciate my compliment he has the right to consider it harassment even if that wasn't my intent. I will respect leave him alone and even a woman, a person in general if they don't want that. I will NOT overstep boundaries and hurt OTHERS. Unlike somebody who doesn't care who he/she is affected or hurts. That's why your taught social ETIQUETTE.
It doesn't always matter how it's being interpretated. If it's a negative experience for the recipient it is STILL NEGATIVE. That is what you have to understand. You don't have to love or like it. But you MUST respect it or else you can God forbid land yourself in prison. Somebody like me is more understanding and accommodating. But there are people who are NOT. So be careful how you carry yourself because you never know who is WATCHING you. Ever seen Crazy Rich Asians? Watch some clips about how they judge the main character. There is always somebody watching. And that person maybe somebody you're interested in. Once false move can jeopardize your entire relationship with somebody. But if they don't want a 2nd chance, then it says a lot about them. Not you. Still have to respect them no different how you also wished to be respected.
A woman wants to feel SAFE. A man doesn't value personal safety on a physical level unless he is unable to do handle himself. A woman whether she can or cannot still desire to feel safe. It's not just a physical level, it is a spiritual and BIOLOGICAL level. You may not be a 'physical threat' to her per se. But you could be a biological threat to her GENES to pass on offspring. That's why some mates have kids and others can't. A woman is going to want to make sure she can SUCCESSFULLY pass on a man's genetic code. COMPATIBLITY.
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I AGREE I LIKE YOUR COMMENT
I compliment girls all the time and I haven't been accused of harassment yet and I'm not attractive at all😂
Bulls eye.It is what I have been saying for years.
Sadly, there are women who think *exactly* like that.
For real tho. Can we just take compliments as they are? This is getting beyond ridiculous.
i DONT feel offended it is the intent
I’d like it no matter who says it.