Why man dont want to get Married?

[Anonymous]

Nor Even The Christian ones wants as much are you guys not afraid to go țo hell?

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It sounds like man don’t think they can guarantee they ir wife happiness or don’t even are willing to try since they are so scared of divorce clearly they do not trust the woman they married and clearly they are not willing to work hard to save also better be single then

[Newhead]

I honestly think men hesitate when they don't see wife materials around them. I have never been married but I've dated men who thought they wanted to marry me in a short time of knowing me. A woman may be wife material, but she may not be your wife which is why I said no to these exes. However I gave them a reason to believe they wanted to settle down and this is why they tried to marry me. I did have one ex who didn't want to marry me, which made me realize he must have some head problems, but that's neither here nor there, you can't force someone to see you that way.

A lot of marriage obsessed woman, cannot cook, don't know anything about being supportive and cannot keep a home. Some of these girls have no interest in being a good mother nor do they even like the man they want the ring from. It's usually just to say someone picked them, that is why a man will spend years with you under the same roof and not see a wife in you, if he secretly sees you as one of these girls. And be mindful of using religion to trick him into giving you a ring, that will backfire in the worse way.

[MrNameless]

We're going through a weird transition. Women are more independent than ever and don't need to rely on men financially in 1st world countries. Many man are no longer the breadwinners, and they feel threatened and confused. They were taught that their main contribution to society is providing for their family and working. And women nowadays are more interested in careers than being housewives like previous generations. This does mean less interest in traditional roles (but many women still expect men to fulfill traditional roles), but they want more equality in chores and raising kids. Both genders in gen x and Y are as I imagined, torn.

[MrNameless]

That being said, I think the biggest reason is not so much the blurring of the lines of traditional gender roles when it comes to careers and raising children, but actually being scared of divorce and the ramifications, especially when kids are involved.

[Newhead]

@MrNameless I understand all of that and I don't think these issues are being properly addressed. It is not impossible to get to a middle grown on those concerns, as long as people first of all understand that every abled bodied adult is responsible for themselves so no one should be mourning over a period when women were properties. Her playing a role in breadwinning will actually help the man, as long as we're talking about a couple that is compatible and communicative.

[Anonymous]

marriage does not benefit men in anyway,
it only benefits women and even the end of marriage only benefits women.
so men have realized that it is not beneficial and chosen to stay the hell away from it. Yes there are simps who still do get married and find out the hard way that the fucked up, but it’s fewer and fewer.
and women have mostly stopped having any actual value as a partner. They are spoiled, narcissistic, attention seekers who have disgusting pasts and parade around in public wearing cloth body paint, looking for sexual attention.

[magiusX26]

marriage is not really natural. it is man made as a concept. noy knocking it but it is not for everyone. and sorry but the "going to hell" part is almost baseless. i get where it comes from but its written by man (bible, koran, torah, other religious text) as the word of what ever higher being/s that text belongs to, yet man is highly corruptable. so take the text as a well done guideline but have some personal thought into things as well abd find a fair mix of those.

[magiusX26]

as for worrying about going to hell, i already know where i am going.

[jasco]

Christians don't go to hell because they wanna get married. They go to hell because of being unfaithful to God. 2nd what if it isn't something they wanna do. I mean marriage ain't all of that other then some legal bonding, nothing more. If you have kids and something happens to you or your wife your guaranteed to get some money due to those legal bonding's, your also guaranteed to get something if your wife or you decided you don't wanna be in the relationship anymore due to mental or physical, or even both problems. Women are more likely to divorce you rather then men are. So its not that were scared of marriage, were scared of realizing to late that the woman that we are in love with is actually a fraud. We don't want to be single, just like you don't want to be single. We simply just want to be sure that she isn't a fraud, nor do we wanna lose money either because of something we couldn't help or fix. We can't help it if were human beings and fear is part of our nature. Do I think it's fair to the lady that her man doesn't wanna marry her because of what he's been threw, because of what he has seen and heard, because of the data that has been shown to him many times? I can't say for certain nor can i say that the man is at fault for being cautious or do you not see at your age that men and women can be just as dangerous if not more then a wild tiger?

[MrNameless]

I think one of the main reasons why men are less willing to get married to women has to do with being scared of divorce and how the law doesn't help them. As you may have heard, divorce rates are like 50% in western countries.

However, many men think they are getting the raw end of the deal, if things go south. As the courts are usually in largely in favor of women, especially with property and kids are involved. I don't blame them. A 50-50 split in money and property sucks for a lot of men. Then there's going to court and being in a position where the woman is more likely to have custody of kids, because she is a woman.

[The_Inquisitor]

its because divorce rates are so high and the fact females have the advantage in divorce courts that its not even funny. Girls don't wanna sign prenups, then complain that the guy won't marry them? guys are terrified of losing everything in the divorce, along with any children they may have.

[MrNameless]

I agree. Its an awkward conversation to have, but its probably something every couple must do.

[Torari]

Pre-nups don't even work in most cases. If the court deems there was an imbalanced power dynamic at the time of signing they'll ignore it.

So for example, if you made more money than her before marriage, they'll throw out the pre-nup.

[Torari]

Because marriage is a huge financial risk. What happens if she decides she wants someone else in 5 years? That's right. She takes half your assets and a monthly alimony cheque.

If you remain unmarried, then you are not at risk of your wife stealing half of everything you own and a portion of everything you make in the future when she gets bored.

And Pre-nups don't work. They're almost always thrown out in divorce court. So that's not a reason to get married either.

[haflelife]

i plan on marrying only once, so you gotta make real sure, i think divorce is scarier than hell

[DavidFox]

I don’t want to marry right now. But I do want to get married in the future. Why do you want to get married soon?

[DavidFox]

Who is scared of divorce?

[jshm2]

Because why buy, what you can lease for cheaper?

Also, not every woman is marriage material.

[Steve-ram]

Hmm not all of us lol, i think some are afraid of making kids?

[Dchrls78104]

And be faced with what?

[Dave31989]

Divorce, is up to 75% of all marriages

[In_Trance]

Afraid... no. it's fine