Guys, Why do guys do this? DATING 9MO?

[Jen9000]

Dating a guy for 9 months everything is perfect I finally ask him where are we going? I want a relationship.
He said he's not ready for a relationship because he is very busy with work and finances, and is trying to remain focused.
What did I do? I respected his answer and proposed I to look else where. Another failed phase of wasted time. I started dating other men and now he text me asking if I'm okay? or trying to friend request me again. He keeps checking up on me. He doesn't want me or doesn't care? what am I to do wait on him? I am hurt but I'm not stupid. So I am doing what I need to, to save myself. Why do guys do this shit? like really? fucking wasted time everything was perf... could've been great but now its ruined because whatever I am honest? my pussy doesn't even get wet for him anymore.. Way to to make it clear I ain't shit to him and end something good.

We had such a great connection, sex, chemistry, we have only been seeing eachother or so he said and we were progressing and now he says this, after agreeing to things. I finally pull away delete him unfriend him and he starts fucking hitting me up and stuff. He hurt me and am I wrong to move on, I've been hurt by so many fucking men and It sucks because I really liked this guy like a lot. He feels me pulling away and eachtime I wanna fix this or be honest, it's hard because he denies it and he expects me to fucking read his mind. I'm over it. I am already seeing new options because I dnt want to play games. He is just stringing me along? he feels me disconnecting everytime I think of him he text me. I ignore it :(

[Jahizamy]

I don't think this is his fault necessarily.

You had to be upfront with him from the beginning, you want a relationship and if he doesn't want one then you would be both wasting each others time. Getting upset 9 months in is far too much time invested in my opinion.

At this point, if his text's do not specify he would like to pursue a relationship, block him and don't look back.

[Anonymous]

Its obvious that you still love him a lot but I hear what you are saying. If you were honest about what you wanted then you have to do what is best for you. Nine months is a good amount of time to feel like you wasted. You'll find someone else. Hopefully it won't just happen again

[chriscdi]

i didn't read everything but if you had sex with him then thats your answer, he's getting pussy without having the title

[Jen9000]

thanks

[chriscdi]

💯💯

[spartan55]

Seems like you should gotten that question answered much sooner than 9 months.