Guys, If a guy is cold after being super touchy/flirty with me?

[Anonymous]

He's always touching me sensually and I never touch back. I have realized I should really really touch him back... Lol. Is going cold a way to make me meet more half way?

[MakotoRyuusuke]

I think they were probably hoping for something more physical. If he is cold might not be that excited about the relationship. Some guys need physical contact to feel loved i think, it might not just be sexual thing, but it could be. Its a relationship so think about what each side is getting out of it.

[Asker]

He knows I like him and I don't want to ever overstep so I don't touch. I should change this? He touches my waist, hips, etc etc

[MakotoRyuusuke]

If you like him, I would maybe try and see how it goes. You can start small of course and only if you feel comfortable. If you acts warmer to you afterward than you can keep going, if you doesn't than I think it's safe to say he is only interested in a physical relationship

[TheBootyChest]

He might feel like you don't like it or that you don't want to touch him.

[Asker]

I definitely flirt with him I just am not touchy. Is he doing this to make me more touchy?

[TheBootyChest]

Maybe. It's either that he wants you to miss that sort of thing or he is tired of doing "all the work".

What ways do you flirt?

There is something called the 5 love languages. And physical touch is one of types. It's how someone shows love and how someone feels loved. (Not trying to assume that you guys "love" each other. Sorry.)

[Asker]

In ways, he acts as though he loves me. And I do feel like he does all the touching and physical things. The way I respond, the way I talk to him, is all very flirty. It's very felt by him and he shows it by being physical with me. I hope I haven't ruined things by not meeting him half way when he followed me in the walk-way and I ruined the chance to kiss each other. Or have SOME thing. (but he did press himself against me while we walked out!) then next work shift he was cold. Now I don't see him for a few days.

[TheBootyChest]

I think having an open conversation about how important touching is to him would be a good start.

How do you feel about touching someone else?

[Asker]

I really appreciate your opinion. Do you think he will be back to being hot again? I have realized through this, that I want to be aware of opportunities and be physical.

[Asker]

He's not good with confrontation verbally.

[TheBootyChest]

Its not confrontation. Its asking him to share with him what it means to him. Just getting him to open up and let you in so you can better understand him and what you can do moving forward.

[Asker]

I think he will find it awkward and make things feel weird. He's shy for sure and I do think he wants me to touch back. I just wonder if hopefully, he is going cold to make me be a little hot.

[TheBootyChest]

When you say you are very flirty, are you SURE he knows you really like him? Because sometimes us guys can be clueless if you are subtle when you flirt.

[Anonymous]

He might be mad. We wouldn't know the answer to this though. Has he stopped fingering your ass and pussy?

[Asker]

He seemed distant almost mad. But I've made it known I like him and I didn't want to overstep by making a move. I try not to touch him because he knows I want him.