My boyfriend texted his ex saying “I wish the best for you always have.” Am I wrong for being mad?

[Anonymous]

Why would he wish the best for someone that left his life in 2016? Especially someone that left him for his best friend! he was with her from age 13-18 but surely that’s just puppy love? he's 25 now! just feel sad and offended. I’ve been dating him for 9 months.
he’s apparently not had a serious relationship before me since her
I’ve heard him say before we where dating that she’s his great white buffalo, she’s his one that got away
.. maybe I missed those red flags or him being emotionally not available

[kyleelyn199723]

There’s a reason why he hasn’t had a serious relationship since. He is still stuck on her. They carried a relationship from teen development to adulthood so I can see where it could have an impact on him, but I think it’s cringey that he is reaching out to her after all those years. I wouldn’t trust him

[Asker]

Yeah.. I mean I expected him to have a soft spot for her, in a “she’s my first love” kind of way but the fact that he risked our relationship to reach out to his girlfriend from his teen age years (who is in a new 5 year long relationship.) is something I’m considering as a big red flag. I’m just going to be aware but you know, not paranoid

[kyleelyn199723]

I honestly have an ex like this. Me and him dated very young and if I messaged him right now, he would drop everything in a heart beat to be with me and talk to me. Not trying to scare you, I just think carrying a relationship at such a young age like that really affects you more

[Asker]

Yeah I mean I guess for some people they can easily get over it and move on but I suppose for some people they just feel such a bond. It’s something I’ll think about

[Anonymous]

You really need to grow up, there is nothing wrong with wishing someone well. I parted with my first on good terms, and I hope she's alright. It doesn't mean I'm still into her, God knows that was 20 years ago.. I just hope she is happy and alright..

Your attitude here is petty and sad, shows a huge lack of maturity.

[Texasguy99]

You’re not wrong for being mad. It’s definitely a red flag. But if he was just saying he hopes she’s actually happy and is doing well it might be a nice thought and possibly nothing romantic about it

[Avicenna]

That indicates possibly not being over her

[Asker]

I’m not sure what to do because it seems if he’s not over her by now he won’t be over her till he meet someone and loves them as much as he loved her or more... and obviously the person isn’t me or he wouldn’t be reaching out to her

[In_Trance]

You've probably done the very same thing