Shy guys are more likely inexperienced guys or guys that hasn't yet gotten over themselves. (Listen, guys we take this thing called life too serious. I'm a shy guy, I can't speak for all of us but I will make a claim here, hold my beer).
As an inexperienced shy guy I would want to have a fuckbuddy but I don't know how that would happen. Naturally, being a shy guy I am bad at expressing my intention, especially to those I am attracted to.
Most of the time when a girl (in my case) get the notion that I am interested... the game is on. She will start to assume my intention as I am struggling to hide in my shell yet I am also fighting myself to be more open, it comes out as clumbsy and cute but most of all it comes out as innocent and a bit naive.
Some shyness also goes hand in hand with a slight fear of conflicts and through life we've developed character to avoid it which usually manifests as being a bit passive or klinging to being overly kind maybe even some of us goes out to be what we think to be rightous, turning into 'white knights' that comes in to judge and play moralcards -at our worst.
I'm saying that although we might think we are kind and good the truth might be that we know not how to be who we need to be to get what we think want, which is experiences. And we don't know how those experiences will change us or how our life in lonelyness and solitude has shaped us.
We are usually not trying to use anyone but sometimes we don't know what we are doing and end up hurting them.
.. we don't really know what we want, only what we think we want.
Sometimes in our darker minds we have anger, frustration and/or contempt lingering inside like a snake ready to snap if reality turns out different from what we imagined.
Mental scars and unprocessed failures make us bitter, recentful and blaming.
Sometimes in our yearning to improve and move away from being shy we try to accept that failure is enevitable and that sometimes throwing people under the buss is a part of growing away from caring too much. To think that to harden our hearts is the only way to cope with the pace we will need to keep to catch up with our peers who seem to have so much more sex than we do.
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I know not the signs you are looking for in a shy guy but maybe an inside pick at what MIGHT go on inside the mind of shy guy will tell you something useful.
If only that the price for our chosen path to duck 'danger' is that we are mighty unstable until we learn those hard lessons we denied ourselves long ago. That our biggest misstep is that we either trusted in the world to solve our problems for us or that we never tried enough to solve them ourselves.
It can be a good play if you are looking at getting a specific girl, to come over all shy.
shy is simply a state of mind, it’s pretty easy to come over that way even when you are not.
its almost like playing the sympathy card to get in to a girls pants.
Some girls like confident guys, some like shy ones and you can play it to satisfy what they need.
there are somethings most shy guys won’t do and that volunteer stuff, unless it’s on something there class as safe ground, such as say online gaming stuff like that.
You can elicit responses and see how this ‘shy guy’ responds.
also if it’s a shy almost virginal, they won’t know much, then when you play some elicitation games, they suddenly become knowledgeable.
nearly all guys have a pathological need to explain things to other people as a sort of Bloke thing.
to play this game simply say something that’s wrong, the ‘shy guy’ will then suddenly have a degree in sex’.
main thing is to trust your instincts
The greatest lesson I learned is that being shy doesn't makes one pure. He's shy because he's targeting for a girl who's WAY OUT OF his league.
His eyes wander on many girls secretly, he let's women get touchy with him as he's secretly enjoying that and it looks like he'll go with any woman as long as she's beautiful and talkative.
It's the silent ones you have to look out for ✌️
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I suppose they are the same as anyone else that is trying to use you. They tell you what they think you want to hear. They are smooth and seem to be too good to be true, but eventually their true self makes an appearance. That could be pressuring you for things like money or sex. They may also be trying to lure you into a relationship. A skilled player may be difficult to spot, so you have to watch for subtle signs like being controlling, wants you to give up your friends, doesn't seem to care for others, won't accept blame for their own mistakes, has a short fuse, and has to have everything their own way.
Shy guys cannot compare to the schemes of women, as a woman shouldn't you be an expert in this subject and leave shy, manipulative guys in the dust with your emotional intelligence?
Or are you an upfront woman who doesn't dabble in double-speak?
If he asks for money continuously, he's not really shy.
If he keeps bothering you for sex, he's not really shy.
If he's actually shy, he'd hardly ever do any of the above, thus you could trust him. I think.
I think those who don't speak there mind freely you will find have the intentions most of the time that will not be good. So shy people... Don't speak there mind freely. Now maybe they do when they open up then it's fine. But if they don't open up or open up and show you something ya don't like that's the bad part.
s If your already going into it with the belief that a person is doing u dirty then there is no point even trying that aside the same way u would spot a fuckboi
There is no such thing as a man with "honorable intentions."
We ALL want to fuck you. Period.
Some special girl though, we want to marry someday.
Just cuz a guy is shy does not mean he doesn't want sex.
Every single man on planet earth wants to FUCK. I dont care what any other guy says. he's lying.
If you're mad about that. Time to become a lesbian. And then lesbians will be tryna fuck you too even harder than the men tried lol.
Women often have less than honorable intentions.
A guy could give his kidney to a woman and she'd claim he's trying to use her because he left his wallet at home and now he needs $1 for the hospital vending machine.
depends, i knew this underconfident guy who i thought was shy, then he started to open up abit and discovered he was a dickhead, but me as a shy guy i know im a friendly nice person... i think most shy guys are nice people like myself... thats the reason we are shy, were humble and see everyone better than ourself... we feel we dont deserve to speak out or deserve friends.. so we gotta be nice jus because were less worthy than everyone else
If he approaches you= he's not a shy guy
I never approached anyone before, because I was shy and with MeToo never will, because life in prison or being lined up against the wall and shot don't exactly appeal to me
My former partners approached me and I was lucky that they did (for whatever reason given I was maybe a 3 at best in relation to their top shelf statuses)
I don't think men in general use others like that as often as women
I can't help you out there, but if he's honest, he'll express his intentions if you ask him in a nice way.
I would imagine this guy is no different from other deceptive people. Sooner or later they will show you who they really are.
Sounds like you should just see a therapist if you assume all men have less than honorable intentions
I don’t think girls even know what “honorable intentions” means. They’ll take anything as meaning that a guy doesn’t have “honorable intentions”. It’s not any actual insight, mostly it’s just a whim.
When he doesn’t wanna fuck and just go on nice dates
m He comes over for sex a lot and he never takes you out anywhere
I’m not sure but I agree with you it does happen
Fails to pay their way on dates and or gifts.
Definitely they are all fake news. All about going to your lady V.
Just ask ask him what his intentions are
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