Can shyness be the only reason why a guy wouldn't approach someone that they find attractive?

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ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

I'm passed being shy. I just know most women are a losing proposition. I just don't really see the benefit of going over and introducing myself because it breaks down like this.
There's probably a 10% chance she's interested. Not very good odds to begin with. After I talk to her there's and even less chance that either of are interested. But let's say we tolerate each other enough to go out. Odds are we go out on one date and then never. See each other again. But let's say we get past that. And we start dating regularly. She meets my friends I meet hers. Odds are at some point she's going to sleep with one of my friends. But let's say she doesn't do that. At some point she'll want to move in with me. She'll take over my house. Nothing I do will ever be good enough. The clothes I wear. The money I make etc. And let's say we get married and are together for 30 years. All of a sudden she has a midlife crisis and wants to start over with someone else.
All this runs through my head when I look across the room at her and I say. Nah that's OK I think I'll just stay here with my drink. Lol

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

No, it could also be that you're so gorgeous that he figures you MUST have a LINE of boyfriends waiting for their turn with you so, why bother?

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

Could be that, could be other reasons. If you like him I would encourage you to approach him. If he is shy he will greatly appreciate you making a move.

DarkCarousel · Accepted Answer

Shyness, or thinking she’s out of his league or uninterested, or that he may not be interested in a relationship.

HawkPerception · Answer

Shyness is the main factor. However there are other thoughts.

"If I approach her, she'll probably think I'm a creep." - because that's how most girls are nowadays.

"She's probably taken and doesn't want another guy talking to her or maybe she's just waiting on some friends. I don't want things to get awkward and regret approaching her."

And a lot of the time, it's just not the "right" time. I've seen many girls on my solo hikes and they're with their friends... almost never alone. I find it really awkward to approach girls that may be having a great conversation ruined by my approaching them.

Girls nowadays just don't really give guys much opportunities to approach them and find everything creepy. Then they go on dating sites and complain more about creeps.

yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo · Answer

I either want my situation straightened out first,

Or I don't want to date a coworker.

My 2 main reasons for not dating.

Also, the maturity of what's available, is a big BIG key component. If I feel my generation isn't mature enough, especially where I'm soiciable at, I'll avoid it dating.

If I'm not ready, I don't want to.

If I feel others aren't ready to bring into my life, I'm not interested in the slightest.

TadCurious · Answer

Bella my opinion is that there could be any number of reasons besides shyness. A guy could find a girl super attractive and still not have any desire to approach her "in that way." He might be in a relationship; he might not get a receptive vibe from the girl; he might not be drawn to her personality; if they both work together he might not want to complicate the work situation. But then of course it could also be shyness.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe shyness is the number one reason I don't approach certain girls and they can be of any attractive and or even a plain jane type girl or a nerd looks don't matter to me
some girl from middle school I had a crush on her than one day I found her on the Internet but never bookmark it which I should of but like I said I can be shy

MCheetah · Answer

Most men don't care about a woman being shy or lacking confidence. Only women care about that stuff regarding men. I actually PREFER shy girls who may be insecure. I strongly dislike confidence in other people, especially dating options. I prefer humility and modesty a lot more.

Ekvark · Answer

Definitely shyness. In my mind, it goes something like this "oh no there's no way thisll work out, probably got guys trying to talk her up all the damn time. I'm not adding to that. So why deal with rejection when you can just skip to the end, pay for your sammich, and go back home to finish that movie marathon you got going. And if she says some thing to YOU? That's a win win."

loveslongnails · Answer

There's seldom just one reason. "Shyness" is what you call it in children, but it's really just fear. "Fear" is what you call it in adults, but by then, it's an insecurity. There are all kinds of fears involved in approaching someone, but the biggest is probably the fear of rejection, followed by the fear of success !!

Browneye57 · Answer

Could be, or there could be a host of other reasons. Such as...
They're really gay.
They have a micro penis.
They already have their sights on someone else.
They feel inferior.
Their focus is elsewhere.

You need to understand that women have made it clear they DO NOT WANT MEN TO APPROACH THEM. Well, unless they are obviously rich and good looking. They call it 'CREEPY'. So don't be expecting these weak-suck girlie-men of today to be knocking you down. They just won't.

Nikola321 · Answer

I, as a shy guy, believe it can be the only reason, though in my case it's not. I'm also scared taht she declines, then I'll not only get rejected, but lose a good friend as well.

Sweepthelegjonny · Answer

There’s also the fact that currently men are told “by women” that it is not ok to approach or ask out women unless you’re at a bar/club/party. So he may just be playing by the new rules.

JackSmy · Answer

For most guys, I think that is true, and the main reason. Me, I am not at all shy, and don't give a fck! She doesn't like me, SO WHAT? BILLIONS of others, out there!! :)

JSmuve · Answer

Nope. He might just not be in a position to approach her. Lots of girls don't put themselves in positions to be approached. So a guy might want to approach a girl but can't find an opportunity to do so because she's busy doing her own thing.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Yes. You'd end up mumbling and stuttering your words

exitseven · Answer

I was painfully shy with girls when I was in high school. There ere a couple of girls that I know liked me but I was still afraid to make a move. One girls brother even told me that this sister liked me.

spartan55 · Answer

For me it's if I don't receive any interest in return.

ohshee · Answer

It's probably the main reason between that and having confidence and sometimes guys feel that is rude if they try to get close to a girl

Miah02 · Answer

Naw, i mean you ever seen someone attractive but you see him acting like a complete fool. Be like no matter how good they look, I don't want to waste my time with him

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'm struggling to see why I wouldn't go over to talk to a woman I found attractive if I was single, because I'm not shy. Nope. I cannot think of one.

Anonymous · Answer

There could be other reasons. I'm shy in general. But when it came to approaching girls, sometimes it was just shyness (she was with other people). But there were times when looking at her revealed a personality trait that made me lose interest.

OutWestBandit · Answer

shyness? i guess. he is more concerned about screwing up his first chance to make a lasting impression.  otherwise he would just say - wassup :-)

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

It's certainly A reason... But certainly not the only reason

MotorcycleMan · Answer

It most definitely could by shyness, or fear of rejections, or really a million other things.

Leavesbound · Answer

Yes indeed that is the most common reason why they won't.

monkeynutts · Answer

Nope, being ready for a relationship is a personal thing. I think it’s got to do with economics and just stuff. Although most of my relationships came about when I was not really looking.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. But it could also be uncertainty. Like, "I know she's hot. But who IS she, really?". Because character matters as well.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Voted C. A shy man is a sissy so he won't dare to go.  Second reason could be is because the woman hasn't givin him a sign she's interested in him for him to go and introduce himself to her.

JosyJosy · Answer

There can always be other reasons, that's why we should approach Them instead

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's way more likely that he has another reason for not approaching.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

These days, no. There are other factors that might be at play---such as personal safety.

Paul09 · Answer

It might be my main problem. Dating for men is too stressing. We have to do all the first moves, why?

Unbeatable · Answer

Im not sure what shyness is, sometimes i feel tired and won't approach someone cause ill leave a bad impression if tired

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah: "I wouldn't want a random person to bother me, why the fuck would I impose my random whims on someone else?"

blondfrog · Answer

There can be other reasons but I'd say that's the number one reason. It's fear of rejection.

Andres77 · Answer

Shyness at times, and thinking that she's way out of his league... so why bother.

AdithyaR · Answer

Shyness and fear of rejection. I mostly resign myself to that fate so I never approach.

Anonymous · Answer

There ate other reasons, like he is not into you, pretty big one

dolemite89 · Answer

could be, plus it can hard to judge if she’s gonna reject u or not so it’s hard to muster up the courage sometimes.

InfobotLives · Answer

Maybe they just think that you're rude 🤨

DangpMango · Answer

Mostly for me it's just been wrong time, wrong place. But I've definitely gone through a lot of times being overly nervous, eyetwitchy. My body did weird shit around any cute pair of big titties.

splashmustache · Answer

There may be several reasons, for examples shyness, depression, self-confidence problem.

Still-alive · Answer

Yeah shyness/social anxiety would be the main reason id say. Maybe not the only one

OnTheLevel · Answer

Shyness and fear of rejection keep guys from approaching women they find attractive.

electricjohn · Answer

I have found women atractive physically but not being into them

Shy_Steve · Answer

There can be other reasons but Shyness is usually at the top of the list.

Deku2009 · Answer

There’s could be other reasons but yes that can be a main reason

Anonymous · Answer

i mean it depends on the guy for me im just scared imma mess it all up but maybe she's like bad weird or maybe she's annoying or sum he dont wanna be around too yk

taboomaster · Answer

We don't want to get slapped or worse sexual harassment charges.

es20490446e · Answer

A good reason is that girls are just time wasters.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

why do you like someone?

AndrewMG · Answer

Well either shyness or a restraining order!

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah that and racism. I dont bother approaching white women. Yes anybody can be racist but everybody knows whites are the most hateful

Anonymous · Answer

Why do I get the feeling that this will always be one-sided

karaspara · Answer

I think shyness is the main reason

fonduegirl · Answer

It can be also your lousy personality trait.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Shyness, panic, fear, anxiety, terror.

Wise4myage · Answer

A. That is 100% correct.

Fuentes · Answer

Sometimes we don't want sexual harassment chargss

Slim57 · Answer

Nope just don't care for dating anymore

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Sure

Shihab91 · Answer

A and B

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