Guys, How Do You Feel When Women Complain About You Not Opening Up?

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Jackblue · Accepted Answer

To be perfectly honest I think that women often want men to open up not because they think it is attractive or good for the men in question, but because they are ashamed of having been too open about their own emotions and are ashamed at not being more stoic.

Tunasub · Accepted Answer

We keep it to ourselves...

Lionman95 · Answer

I can understand that. For me it´s not easy to open myself to a woman especially if I don´t know her for more than a year. The best way I see for her to do to act is to take patient steps with me. Trust me with me with small things you have and after some time I will trust you with small issues I have.
It´s like teaching someone who has spent much time sitting in a wheel chair how to walk. It takes time and it requires a woman to start with her trusting me with issues of hers before I can tell her secret problems I have. It may take patience but the longer she keeps going with me the more I open myself.

HugoThe2nd · Answer

Oh god, I absolutely abhor it.
I'm an emotionally well-adjusted adult who expresses their emotions exactly as much as they want to, which means that if it seems like I'm not opening up to someone, it's simply because I don't feel like doing it.

It's not the patriarchy or toxic masculinity preventing me from doing so, it's lack of trust, connection or the very simple and straightforward- I just don't find it necessary to do with that particular person.

I deem it totally rude and obnoxious for someone to feel entitled to my emotional availability.
I have a bunch of female friends and acquaintances, and not all of them can be my confidants.

If someone finds that rude and expects it "in their relationships", well they can go the hell away.

Cobygonzalez0603 · Answer

Society has raised us to suck up our problems and never show weakness. That is why men now days are players and don't show much interest in women. As for women... they have really high standards when it comes to find a man so with all that being said men keep on working and protecting their assets and believes and don't open up to a women who most likely will later on use those weaknesses to hurt him and leave him with nothing. If you as a women find a guy who works and provides for you you should help him achieve his goals. Most of those goals will also benefit you as his life partner! Just communicate with each other.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I feel bad, but at the same time there is a reason I don't open up. Because a lot of women view that as weakness and they subconsciously feel their man loses strength and capability to handle things.

It is almost a messed up shit test in a way. Women say they want a vulnerable guy that will share wi mth them, but they eventually feel suffer tly about him in terms of respect and capability as a man.

Never tell your woman how you are feeling. She says she wants you to open up, but that is a lie.

red_knight · Answer

Pressured..
It kinda hurts coz I feel bombarded and forced to change.

Taught from a young age to control ourselves, mask emotions and not show anyone how we feel to guard our masculinity and vulnerability.
I will open up at the right time not whenever you want me to coz you're bored and trying to psycho analyse my ass.

Being called "cold & heartless" hurts feelings by the way. Same way women don't like beng told how to dress or who to delete off your phones

We do not like being forced to open up when I don't feel ready.

Its nothing personal really. Just be patient with them, they'll be grateful trust and admire you more for waiting

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, that seems to be a standard line that women use, but I doubt that they all mean it. If I am feeling angry (not at her, but about something else,) most women don't want to hear it. If it is a "negative" feeling, they would rather not really deal with it. I think what many women really mean is "tell me how much you love me and how much you need me in your life."

DJB72 · Answer

We can't win. If we don't open up we get labelled as "cold", "unfeeling" and "distant"

If we do open up we're labelled as "weak", "soft" (in a negative way), "pathetic", etc.

Being real with our emotions is very much a double standard thrown at us.

eminde · Answer

I usually open up  But if I don’t And someone asks me to open up I’ll just say something like “what do you want me to open up about?” And go from there

JackSmy · Answer

They don't, with me. I am a "Modern" man, and know how to deal with feelings, and maybe I am still a bit 'reserved' sometimes, with sharing some, they love that I cry at movie endings, like Definitely, Maybe, and a lot of others, that women love.

_no_one_ · Answer

That used to happen a lot during my very last relationship. She'd complain about me not opening up and whenever i would we'd always end up arguing. 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

humanearth · Answer

I hate being troubled persistently and especially with opening up. To me it is a petty annoyances.  Why can't women leave us be, they always want us to open it.  We are NOT WOMEN, we dont open up.

rcljr · Answer

Why would I open up? So she can dissect everything I say and categorize it in her little femiNazi notebook?

ForgottenFuRyan · Answer

If you share your feelings she'll see you as weak. Never trust someone wearing a mask.

Still-alive · Answer

Confused because I usually open up easily. :p

dolemite89 · Answer

i think women have a lot of cognitive dissonance going on in their heads cuz if u do open up they most likely don’t like it in reality and will think of u as weak

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Keep complaining. That never helps or works. One has to be comfortable

the_sinner · Answer

Neutral. Although they might be right about it from their own POV but I’d rather take my own sweet time for opening up.

spartan55 · Answer

How do I feel? Annoyed.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Never had that problem, I am very open

JesseJayNeak · Answer

I'm not a guy who opens up easily so I'd spill the beans to the homies

FakeNIK · Answer

Well even uncles complain to me about that

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"Well, look at the pot calling the kettle black!"

Kaneki05 · Answer

Never had that problem so.

Joker_ · Answer

women do this to me

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Weird

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