Guys, do you think women should keep female stuff private to themselves or are you open and willing to help/listen/talk?

Question

When discussing/listening/physically dealing/helping with female stuff, is that something you are comfortable with or prefer she keep to herself (you don't hear about/know)?

Periods, feminine hygiene products, cramps, migraines, nausea, vomiting, female sexual or reproductive medical conditions/functions/pain?

Ex. Dealing/helping: (buying feminine hygiene products, refill water, plug in heat pad, grab ibuprofen or Excedrin, attend OB/GYN or PAP smears, just sit with her during when not feeling well during her monthly time🩸).

Saramad_Hill · Accepted Answer

If we're just going based off of purely female things like periods and such, then I don't mind listening to it. I'm afraid I may never be able to experience what cramps and such are like, but the least I can do is at least listen when a female friend wishes to rant about it. I'd be annoyed with it, too.

About four years ago, I started buying Tampons and Pads. I keep them in my car for emergencies, to hand out to friends who complain or ask. Or strangers, if the need arises. This doesn't happen very often since I'm not exactly a popular guy.

But my locker at work has a small reputation. I leave it unlocked, I have medicines for everything like headaches, cramps, antacids, colds, etc. At the back of the locker is a box of tampons I check monthly for depletion. I told one girl a long time ago and she spread the word, but most of those employees have already left the company so only like two currently take from it. Fortunately, no one just takes the whole box. I think there's about 5 left in there right now.

The thing is, I may never fully understand what it's like but that doesn't mean I can't help somehow. I also felt it was unfair women had to pay for something I'll never need, so I started doing it just to be nice. I never hold it over anyone's head and I never talk about it any longer than necessary. I value my male friends in their own way, and I value my female friends in another. Trans, included of course.

Any men reading this, know that not everyone finds this to be "kind." Women almost never complain about getting a little help but your male friends might give you a little shit about it... for some reason. "You... You seriously went down the women's aisle? Without shame?" was a reaction I got once. I owned up to it. I am who I am.

And this doesn't stop at just periods, I'll listen and give advice on relationships or whatever else. Because I just value my friends, and some of my friends have different, unique ways they deal with their lives. I figure if you're wasting time with a nobody like me, I might as well show my appreciation somehow. This was just my particular way of trying to help somehow.

Lurix · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I think it’s super important for women to feel comfortable sharing their experiences with guys when it comes to female stuff. It shouldn’t be a taboo topic. I’m all for being open and willing to help out. My fiancée and I talk about everything, from periods to cramps to any medical issues she faces.

For example, when she has bad cramps or isn’t feeling well, I’m right there, ready to grab her some ibuprofen or help her set up a heating pad. I know how tough those days can be, so I try to be as supportive as possible. We even discuss her OB/GYN appointments or anything related to her health because it’s just part of being there for each other. It’s about teamwork and understanding, and it helps strengthen our bond. So yeah, I think keeping these conversations open makes everything easier and brings us closer together.

Shiprex · Answer

I work in a largely female dominated profession (teaching) though it's on the more male oriented fields but still my first two heads of department were women and they were obviously older than I so didn't tend to engage in personal things like that kind of talk. My relatives also were never ones to discuss these things and growing up with just a brother they never really became something to engage in.
Leaving home and getting into relationships I never found the issue to be anything more deep than discussing things about babies needs and changing nappies, cleaning sick up etc., so I never really felt that it was ever taboo to bring stuff like that up and though my years of working with younger and younger women (as well as some of my age and generation) it actually became something of a game for them to see how to gross me out (I was the only male in a group of 7 mostly mothers but all younger than I) and I played along in a joking manner with it obviously not being cruel or dismissive about it but their efforts to gross me out were met with teasing in response. It was all done light heartedly (all Brits in a very feminist non English speaking country) and with compassion but became a non issue except when one of them became pregnant then it was the primary topic of conversation when the doors were closed.

Anonymous · Answer

Female stuff should mostly be kept to yourself. Unless you're in a serious committed LT relationship, or marriage. Then it should still be kept private, under wraps, and on a serious need-to-know basis only.

Can a guy and should he be open to listening under curtain circumstances? Yes. Should you expect him to become a listening ear like a girlfriend? No. The higher his testosterone level the less patience he's going to have, so don't blame him for not wanting to become your sympathetic gal-pal. That's what girlfriends are for.

Women are asking "where are all the real men" a lot lately. I get it. Let me explain something. They are definitely not listening to women talk about when they start, feminine hygiene products, etc...

Anonymous · Answer

I feel really sorry for women that they have to go through these things every month. When I'm with a partner I do everything I can to make it as comfortable for her as I can. Most of the issues are normal but that doesn't mean they're easy to deal with. I want to sympathize with her and comfort her as much as I can when she's dealing with those issues.

I do have to admit though that buying the feminine hygiene products for her can be a little stressful. I try to be really low key when I'm standing online with them and sort of hide them until I get to the counter.

One time years ago the cashier got on the microphone and said I need a price on Tampax on aisle 3!

Everyone on the lines looked at me and I nearly died. I swear I just shriveled up as small as I could get. That was really embarrassing.

Ladsin2 · Answer

A female friend or a girlfriend? If a girlfriend needs help I'll help her. If a female friend needs help I'll likely just giver her something to help with the cramps XP

I like biology stuff, so I just ask questions about that. Had a girlfriend in HS who had a torsion and had to have an ovary removed. I asked if she could bring her medical notes because I was interested. She brought photos of her transvaginal ultrasound. Big 'ol womb on that woman.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm willing to listen to, and discuss, anything she wants to say to me. Some women don't like talking about certain things, while others have no limits about what they will talk about.

As a man, the important thing to do with a woman is listen. Sometimes (most of the time?) that's al they want us men to do. Sure, we men are problem solvers, and we want to help them find a solution, but often that's not what they're interested in.

ClassicDropout · Answer

Honestly, girls should talk to girls about girl stuff unless it's immediately relevant to the situation. I've had girls talk about their bodies to me when I working retail. Like I am always there to listen, but there are certain things that just aren't appropriate to being up to a guy if you aren't dating him. I feel like they weren't very concerned with how I was feeling hearing all that.

ohsheeT · Answer

Know if she wants to talk about something let her talk I mean she's not doing it just to do it she's doing it for a reason and there's nothing wrong with that

demonics · Answer

In my experience, neither work out well for the guy. Women need to maintain control of either the guys ignorance, to use as a weapon, or will shame the guy for being interested or knowledgeable. I've been called creepy like how dare I know about these things, or I have some ulterior motive for asking basic questions. Maybe its best to keep the modesty charade going for the sake of both of us. I don't think the girlies are mentally ready for they men they claim they want.

Alex-Snow · Answer

If a girl is comfortable talking about it then it would not bother me. It is only about sex and body functions after all. I guess on the other hand would it bother u if a guy talked about his wet dreams or his masturbation habits?

integrale77 · Answer

My fiancé is open about talking about a lot of things and I think it helps me understand situations from her perspective

kaucky1 · Answer

Not really everybody can handle it there's some cool tricks to do

Garud · Answer

If she listens to my problems, I will also listen to her problems.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Sure. It's a health condition like any other. The only way you're going to be able to be of any assistance is to be informed.

ManInChains · Answer

Keep it to themselves no man wants to hear their feminine bullshit. Wtf do women expect a man to say or do about any of that shit anyway?

Likes2drive · Answer

Sure with my partner I wouldn’t mind and hopefully they don’t mind when I discuss mine stuff too which won’t be that often

larry69 · Answer

I am not afraid of hearing about periods, tampons, etc. I believe it should be good for women to open up and men to understand. It's normal.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have enough female friends that it doesn't phase me. I have various supplies for the ladies in my guest bathrooms.

Unit1 · Answer

Do what you will. I'll get insights from the opposite sex one way or another.

Nifrayu · Answer

I don't mind helping or listening. I used to pick up pads for my ex when she ran out.

nawtee_me · Answer

I think everyone should be able to talk about any issue to anyone they know.

JoeRob67 · Answer

I would have no problem talking and listening about it.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

No way. I'm flattered if a woman trusts me enough to share with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Ask yourself this: does sharing it increase or decrease attraction? Then act accordingly.

ritxi · Answer

I find it ok to talk about it.

Makeushiver · Answer

Usually love talking about it

worldscolide · Answer

I preferr my wife talk to me about everything.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

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